Where to meet women outside dating apps?

[Anonymous]

Seems like if I try nowadays I’ll be called a creep. I’m not that attractive.

[Simslover92]

Yeah definitely don't use dating apps. They aren't really good for many people especially men. It's a money grab and honestly waste of time.

Best way to meet someone is through social events or through your hobbies.

Gym
Church
Library
Bookstore
Bar
Lounge
Book Club (if you like reading)

These places I listed above while hard to introduce yourself and approach women, it's not totally impossible. You just have to come with the right approach. It may take a lot of time but if you play your cards right and find a girl within your league, you could be very successful.

I met my ex at the university library one night while it was raining. Didn't have an umbrella and he offered it to me. Not saying that an opportunity like that will present itself to you like that but it could.

Just be hopeful and look for someone with similar interests to yours. Like I said before hobbies is the best way. Love reading, join a bookclub. Like drinking, bar. Like working out, gym.

[HollyK21]

“Deems like if I try”, so because that’s how it seems, you just don’t try at all? Seems like it’s gonna be a busy day at work, so you just don’t go? Come on. You knock yourself out of the race before you even touch the starting line with a mentality like that, and being a defeatist isn’t attractive. You should work on building up your confidence, because I really think that’s what this is about vs not wanting to appear “creepy”.


You mention feeling unattractive (I say feeling because looks can be subjective and not every woman would agree with you), so maybe you should work on building your confidence. That way you won’t gaslight yourself into not approaching any woman ever, because while sure, there are women who don’t wanna be approached, there are plenty who don’t mind. This is something you won’t find out until you try, and you’ve gotta get yourself over the hump of even doing that as to find out what side of the fence they land on.

[HollyK21]

**seems

[Asker]

I’m 5’3” and average looks so most women aren’t gonna date me no matter my personality.

[HollyK21]

Honestly I would not let height detour you because even for a taller woman she could overlook that based off your personality traits, and also general attraction to you which isn’t always shallow. If you’re a good guy, consistent, you have a sense of humor (you don’t have to be a comedian, but laughing comes along with senses of joy and people want to be happy), and overall you make her feel safe and protected then you have the key ingredients. You don’t even have to be the most confident, but stop letting your height detour you, because it isn’t going anywhere and you can’t live your life around that. You don’t need most women, just one, so rather than focusing on being some super stud that attracts multiple women, think about the one you’d want and what you think it takes to attract her specifically.

[HollyK21]

I don’t like using celeb references because they are not exactly people we could relate to, but since we would all mutually know a celeb that’s the safest and most reference point. Think of Zendaya and tom holland, it’s quite shorter than her and still got her. Nicole Kidman and tom cruise, Gigi hadid and zayne, the list goes on. Again, I know we can’t relate to celebrities but those are people we’d both know.

[HollyK21]

**most generic reference points

[Asker]

It’s just unlikely. Most women prefer taller and the ones who would, which are few, usually just tolerate or settle for it.

[RingOfFire]

I think a good place is either at a religious venue like a church or synagogue, or maybe by joining groups of people with common interests that both men and women are interested in. That way there isn't the pressure of being there JUST for meeting someone of the opposite sex but it gives you an opportunity to interact with them and slowly build the relationship. Takes the pressure off and makes it more comfortable to talk to women because they are there for the same common reason. Look for social opportunities that aren't necessarily solely for the purpose of dating.

[Avicenna]

Listen, you are not going to be called a creep by any sane person unless you act like one when approaching a woman. Just have a normal convo, be funny, friendly. It's not rocket science.

The hardest part is finding one you're attracted to who is single.

[Summeroflove]

Well most women aren’t that bad unless you’re genuinely being creepy and regardless if someone jumps to the wrong conclusions that their issue just leave them be they aren’t worth it anyways.

Just anywhere. Church. Hobbies. Etc

[AviatorTom]

Best place to meet others outside dating apps is via friends and relatives. They often know people that might enjoy meeting you. Traditionally, that's the way most people met.

[coachTanthony]

is there anything attractive about you? Your humor? Your personality?

[CalmUntilAbused]

Okay, so first of all, do not meet women on dating apps. Or should I say... You do not meet women on dating apps. You just don't. It's not even an advice, it's a fact. The only thing You meet on dating apps is frustration.

Otherwise, I'd say meet women in VTuber communities. The female VTubers themselves are usually kind to men and do not want them dead just for being men. Any women watching them must follow a similar mindset, otherwise they would rage quit. Also... Churches sound good, but You are expected to go to church to meet God, not women... So really, VTuber communities might be the only safe space left.

[Anonymous]

The best place to meet a woman without coming across as creepy is somewhere you’ll both be doing the same activity. You can start the conversation off by asking a simple question about something that’s happening around you.

I’ve been approached at the grocery store, while walking on the street, and other places like that and it does come across as creepy usually. I also think about how many other women they approach in the same way and that’s a turn off for me.

so a hobby or activity based place is the way to go.

can you answer mine: Honest opinions: how old do I look and how do I look overall?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

• At work
• During your studies
• In your friends network
• During leisure activities

If nothing of these aforementioned social places fit, then I'd say odds are extremely thin you ever meet women. Note that it's totally possible to regularly meet women through online channels without setting any foot on any dating apps, that's my personal experience.

[Cyfris]

You should meet women while doing something you like to do outside of the house for reasons that are not to meet women. And as long as your not being a creep and reading the room you won't be called a creep. Stay and your lane and don't waste you bullets on ten if your 6 save your shots where they have a shot at landing. Solid rule of thumb is if you look at her and she looks at you and you both smile your clear to approach and say hi i'm so and then feel it out from that distance.

[RavVid]

outside dating apps... in non-hostile environments.

It feels like they are all hostile environments and the ones that aren't, aren't nominally places to go to meet people. Local bars or cafes have a friendlier vibe and it helps if there is an activity night like trivia.

Locally quite a number of places run partner dancing nights where you do a lesson in salsa or modern jive etc. Because girls rotate you meet every girl that's there for a few minutes. So you have a chance.

[slatyb]

Find activity groups that attract some single women. Participate, contribute, but don't hit on anyone for at least two months. If a woman is interested, she will make it plain. Your appearance hardly matters if you are genuinely in knowing her.

[CherryLove007]

At your area lake or bay if you are near any. And a man's character is "hot" not exactly looks. If you have a vibe of safety and helpfulness than lead with those characters.

[ArrowheadSW]

One way is to join some hobby related clubs. Take up a sport where you meet with other people is another way.

[Miristheiss]

I have been introduced via friends and family before, I have met via work, college, I met my wife at church.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Find a group activity, make friends with the men, they'll introduce you to the woman

[Massageman]

The produce department in a food store if you want them to help you as a pretext. A hardware store if you want to help them.

[Xoirwinkan]

I feel like the most natural place is in some sort of club you can join that also shares your interests with women. Easier said than done, trust me.

[Unknown527]

its a waste of time what do girls offer you

money power

no the truth is much darker

you'll have to buy them shit and work more just to buy your girl something and have your own money

good luck getting rich having a girl

[msc545]

I think that these days women would rather stay single than be with someone that other women don't consider very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Vast majority of us

[Asker]

What?

[MikeMcMansion]

Army hospitals

[LiamJHayden]

Museums, concerts, dance lessons.

[liftedtrucks]

Grocery stores, cafes, fairs

[scott04sa22]

Coffee Shops.