Is my new girlfriend genuinely into me or just using me for money?

[Alxve]

So I have started this new relationship with this girl I vibed with from the start of the friendship. She is funny and very boyish\masculine\tomboy personality. She lives in the same country as me and the same state as me. Its a 12hr drive from my place to hers. Its quite distant but also not too much.

So for a few days, I have been noticing her. She is pretty happy and funny person. And we rarely argue in the relationship. She isn't a person who gives me stress she does geniunely make me happy. I dont know if thats the honeymoon phase thingy. But, what makes me a bit concerned is that. She occationally asks me for money to buy her makeup goods. Now considering this is a new start of a relationship. I avoid giving her big sum of cash since ofc I need some time and security first in the relationship. She looks like a innocent and loyal girl. Now coming back to the money thingy, usually I give her small amounts of money and she is happy in that. Sometimes yes she asks me to buy her makeup stuff. Which is something I can't afford at that moment. She doesn't get angry on that nor she blames me for being broke. Now I also look chopped, but she says I look cute and good. Now I dont know if she is being real or not. Or she is staying with me just because I come from a good family. She said that she prefers dates outside a cafe like on a nature park or something. So thats something I find good that she is not that cafe kind of girl.
Also she shares with me a lot of stuff intimately. Teasing me or teasing each other has been a normal part of our convo. But she is geniunely excited to meet me in person.
Now I dont know if she is using me for money or she geniunely likes me as a person and human being.
The reason for my insecurity comes from, I had been into a very bad and toxic relationship. Filled with abuse and gaslighting. And It took me years to get out of that trauma. Nowadays I be extra careful to whom I handle my trust too.

[Master_Debator]

Hit the weights more and pretend you're broke more.
Women have their sexy advantage and you don't want them using their sexy advantage on you to get your money. Just trust me, you'll feel better that women use their sexy advantage on you just to get your body on top of them. It's the better way to go and the women will respect you more than a woman that views you as a cash cow.

[Alxve]

Hmm, looking at my post. Do you think I should go with this relationship or avoid it all total?
Or I should pretend I am broke and stop giving her money?
Will that prove that she is not there for the money?

[Master_Debator]

You hit a bullseye with your second and third question. Pretending I'm broke and not handing out money will simply show you if she's there just for the money or not... if she loves you the same you
A) stopped the pattern of tossing money at her, and B) are going to see how she really feels about you when money is not in place.

It's what I'd do.

[Alxve]

Well she is grateful of a person tho, i only give her one dollar but not everyday but rarely.
She never asks continously. She does stick around. She is more interested to meet me in person than asking for money. Since she always spams me "when we will meet?"
So I personally dont think she is that kind of a girl?

[Master_Debator]

Yeah, and meeting you in person equals how many dollars? What 3rd world has a chick happy with one dollar?

Wouldn't you like to know though? I mean you want it to remain as is or wonder if she'll start avoiding you and have boyfriend's you didn't know about jump out of the woodwork just because you're "broke" all of a sudden. I mean you might not think she is that kind of girl, but you willing to find out now or find out years from now?

[Alxve]

I mean yes your right, thats what I am most concerned about. Its really confusing for me to what to do right now?
I dont want a cheating relationship nor get used.

[Master_Debator]

I say you should give being the brokest man in the world a trial run. You can ease up on the test if you see the writing on the wall and still want to keep her around... but at least you'll know what it's all about. Like is she going to be as excited to see you when it just equals walks in the park and hanging out in a free way? Or is she going to start hounding you with questions about your money?

Once you find out, you can start tossing a dollar at her here and there to keep her around, but you'll have the answer to your question here. I mean I've kept girls around just for the pussy, and then dropped them when I found something better, and I know that sounds kind of cutthroat, but is it really when I know the chick just wants me to buy her things? If anything it's more motivation to hit the gym and to hide or not advertise with your wallet... like that red pill logic of "don't lead with your wallet." It's also a lesson of "You can't convince someone of attraction," but if the chopped you isn't good enough... you can work on that.

You have tons of choices in front of you, those choices are yours though. I'm just sharing what I would do.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I haven't been in any relationships where a girl asked for gifts or money, whatever amount of it. Though I also know that it's consistent with my culture where girls aren't conditioned for that. But I've seen other cultures where a girl considers gifts and money you bring as a sign of stability and commitment.

So here's a question for you:

Is this girl's behaviour common in your own culture?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Also, and that's my own curiosity, what is a cafe kind of girl?

[sage2021]

I would never ever ask a guy for money!! That just isn't cool! 🚩🚩🚩 Red flags!!

[Alxve]

I understand, but she doesn't always ask for money. Sometimes asks for help when she needs it. She doesn't ask for a lot of money. Maybe just one dollar.
And one dollar makes her really happy. And it doesn't seem like she sticks by for money. I tried saying no to money and she understood and didn't got angry or ghost me.

[MrChinaski]

@sage2021 I agree 100%. Run, don't walk.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode love, red flags, and all the messy in‑betweens. 😉

If she only texts when she needs rides, money, help, or “favors,” but disappears when you need support, that’s not love, that’s using. If she avoids intimacy, deep talks, making time for you, or future plans, huge red flag. Consistency, effort, and genuine interest mean she’s into you. One‑sided investment means you’re her convenience, not her boyfriend.

[Cyfris]

Why can't it be both? It is possible she likes you and likes money. Easiest way to figure out is to stop giving it. "I am saving up for this big expensive thing I want and don't have any spare cash sorry." If the conversation goes with the cash you got your answer. And if it doesn't you also got your answer.

[slatyb]

So you are giving money to a woman you have never met? She's using you.

[Staximus]

How many times have you seen this girl in real life

[queenofcardio]

You can ask her

[Anonymous]

We don't know your girlfriend, I suppose it's possible.

[MrChinaski]

Errr... some information might be useful?

[Alxve]

I misposted this, please check my account post. I posted again

[MrChinaski]

It's a romance scam. Sorry.

[In_Trance]

You lost me at 12-hour drive

[Alxve]

Is there an issue with that?

[In_Trance]

I guess it's okay if you live in the Australian Outback or the Arctic circle

[fish5505_87]

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