Is this girl really interested or is she wasting my time?

[Crunchy_Mart]

Basically been seeing this girl for a little over a month and I'm getting a little frustrated with the lack of intimacy.

For context, when we first met a club lets just say things happened. It wasn't sex but it was pretty damn close so I don't think her attraction to me is an issue. However since then I haven't even kissed her let alone got close to actual sex. Up until now I've convinced myself that because she told me she just got out of a serious relationship that lasted 4 years that she's taking things slow but why THIS slow?

Nearly everything else I like about this girl. She initiates texts and convos, asks about my day, remembers things going on in my life that i've told her about. Never has she said no when I've asked her on a date. She has never asked me for money and even paid for one of our dates because she felt bad she had to leave early.

But WHY is the intimacy lacking? What am I doing wrong?

[Lookingforthetruth]

Please elaborate on "pretty damn close", so we can better give advice.

Also, chance are if a month has gone by and you have gotten no where with her then it means:

1. She has lost attraction towards you because you did not act upon it and now thinks of you as friend who she can text whenever she needs free attention/validation

2. She has found a better deal and now is using you for free attention/possible backup

3. She is playing a long haul game of making you thirsty and desperate so you'd commit to her and she can then manipulate you however she likes.

[Crunchy_Mart]

To elaborate, she put my hand in her pants.

I mean, it's possible she lost attraction to me. I'm a not Michael B Jordan or anything in the looks department but most women these days don't even waste their time with men they aren't attracted to. It's not like she needs money from me because she doesn't ask.

[_157cm]

I think you just have to let her settle in, you might think it’s taking too long but the longer it takes the more she’ll find love in your relationship and that’ll better the both of you.. And usually when someone just got out of a relationship that long they are hurting.

[cosmodusty]

get consent ofc but like. initiate a kiss. she’s probably waiting on you.

[HansNiemand]

Be patient, fella. It may take some time until she process the recent break-up.

[Lookingforthetruth]

girls tend to fuck a ton of guys after they come out of LTR. Just giving you some word of wisdom.