A little confused, is she playing hard to get or not interested?

[very-confused]

I've mentioned this before but now things are starting to happen. I am just a bit confused at the moment.

So I bumped into a girl the Friday before Xmas eve. We chatted twice that night, I saw her looking at me a lot, and I was also looking at her. So we got chatting and it turned out she was friends with my ex's new fella! Whatever happened we just got along, she invited me and my friends to the club she was heading to but we had other plans.

The following day I messaged her using Facebook, just saying how much of a coincidence it was meeting and I enjoyed chatting (along those lines). Maybe do it again sometime. She replied and we ended up into a few hour chat. She lives in abroad until May when she returns for good so obviously as she would be leaving soon to go back she would be tied up with family and friend duties... no time really to date a new potential, right? she never once said "I'me too busy" and I never really asked her out.

Pretty much daily we've been chatting away, txt, Facebook etc... one night she invited me over to a pub where her and her sisters etc were having a drink; that fell through as the two of us were with different group of friends. The following day again we get into a chat. Her responses were detailed and she always asked me a lot of questions about me, what I liked etc... general chit chat. But sometimes when I'd ask a question she wouldn't respond until a day passed! I'm wondering "is she interested or just playing a little hard to get"? She has been burned before and has been single for around the same time as myself.

So last night she was preparing to leave and we got chatting again after I wished her well. I told her I was enjoying talking with her and would like to get to know her a bit better when she comes back in February for 2 weeks. She said yea, we will get to know each other more then . She then took the conversation on... talking about things like how she didn't like the early starts and was dreading getting back to work and looked forward to coming back again. Talking about the movie she was watching and asking me if I'd ever seen it etc, ya know just general chit chat but she "seems" interested by what she is asking.

I am confused though as when text conversations end, sometimes I'd have asked a question... nothing silly or whatever, but she wouldn't reply for a day. She didn't reply to the last text I sent her at 1am (she was up talking with me), she had to be up for 3am to get her flight.

Am I wasting my time? Or is she just being cautious and playing a little hard to get. She seems like a lovely girl and I do like talking with her regardless if its phone, txt, Facebook or whatever it's always effortless and feels easy.

Any advice?

Thanks guys

I forgot to mention she initiated all the friend requesting, I asked for her number after she asked for mine.

If you need any more info please ask. And thanks for helping out once again!

[xxlordxx]

She is interested but you have been very wussye.

I am surprised that she is still interested. Next time you go out with her, go alone no in groups!

Do not contact her until she comeback. Next time you contact her must be when she is in the States and you are going to tell her to go out if she accepts you are OK, if not, you are done. When you go out with her, do not ask her where she wants to go, yo have to surprise her with your iniciative, be a man, a gentleman.That very same night you should kiss her for the first time, do not let her go cold with a friendship relationship, that is not what she is looking for, for that, she has girlfriends. Bye, good luck!

[velandra]

relax, in my opinion she is into you :)

she is spending a lot of her time on you (eventhough she is busy with relatives), so that means she is interested.

did you ever ask her why she usually doesn't reply the last message? maybe she gets distracted by other things. I don't think that's playing hard to get. that's beeing rood from her, but maybe it's not on purpose! I think you can talk to her about that. you can tell her that you are bothered with that behavior . If she likes you she will change that. or she will give you at least a good satisfying explanation for it.

good luck! :)

[SkinnyG]

Sounds like she doesn't want to commit to too much until she comes back from abroad. Also sounds like she may be trying to focus on getting back to work and she's probaby got a lot on her mind about that.

I would imagine you'll still be chatting on FB while she's gone. If it keeps going then I'd say there's a good chance you guys can hang out when she gets back. If she doesn't keep up the chatting, it may be a lost cause.

She may also just consider you a friend at this point. Hard to say.

[very-confused]

Also thank you for your different perspective on it! It is hard to say... I've just met her literally. She knows my EX and is friends with my ex and when I learned that I did say to her "will you not get shot for meeting me" in a joking way, and she just said "I can do whatever I want with whoever I want". I hope we stay in touch, and yea you're probably right about focussing on work.

Should I message her in a week to see how she's settling in? Damn... I'm so daft at this stuff now! haha

[SkinnyG]

Yes, totally message her within a week and see how she's doing!

[jodiimariie93]

Seems like she's not trying to rush into things because she's been dumped before and don't want to get hurt again.So all you have to do is jus take your time with her till she get really comfortable with you and could trust you enough.that might take some time though but if your really interested in her you could wait.

[very-confused]

Thanks for your reply! Yes, she ended an emotionally abusive relationship 8 months ago. We both have been burned and I am in no rush. I just want to make sure she is interested as I can't read between then lines. She's a very nice girl, good outlook on life and good personality. Yea I like her :)

[just4fun2013]

Sounds like she is interested but she's not rushing anything. Why don't you try to do the same, just enjoy the conversations and maybe try asking her out on a date. Worst case scenario is she says no. But i honestly think she would love to go out with you.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she is playing hard to get at all. She is just a girl who has been burned before and therefore she is being cautious. She doesn't want to lead you on either but definitely likes you. Also, she is leaving the place soon and knows if she expressed her feelings to you then you got into a relationship with another girl, she will get hurt. That is why she doesn't want to open her heart totally for you. I can see this relationship working out between you when she comes back. Enjoy. :)

[very-confused]

Thanks for your response. Hopefully things do work out that way! I'll have to just see eh

[Opinion Owner]

I believe it will. :)

[camcan]

She def likes you. She is playing hard to get and being cautious, just be sweet and you will win her over!