Why do I feel guilty dating a romantic younger guy when I like someone else?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s not yesterday’s date. He’s my age.

Today’s date was a Russian guy, very chivalrous, intelligent and sweet. He spoke my language to me all the time and didn’t have a rest until he didn’t agree me to go on a date with him.

I went and he was a great gentleman, we had a nice dinner and a chat, he’s very worldly and has traveled everywhere, has his own business and does great in life. Later he told me he actually is 5 years younger than me.

And that tomorrow he’s leaving for New Zealand, but he will come back for me and that he doesn’t want to leave again and he wants me to be ready in 3 months to travel the world together :)

He also said he won’t make me too long and now he has a reason to come back to this city. We run in rain, he held my hand, and as he was taking a photo, he told me to close my eyes and when I asked why, he just kissed me as a surprise.

That was it… Then he sang me Russian song and gave me a nickname… :)

I had a great time honestly…

But I really like that guy from yesterday’s date and even though we only had one date so far, I feel like a bad person for going on another pretty successful date like that…

I definitely want something serious with that guy from yesterday. He’s wonderful and I like him a lot. And I have not kissed him yet.

And today’s date is texting me regarding our kiss and date “Thanks for the memorable evening, dopamine and oxytocin. This feeling will take me back to you soon. Get ready to leave with me in a few months.”

But to be honest I didn’t really much enjoy the kiss and regret it now… Probably not genetically compatible… Had very pretty eyes and was a very pleasant guy though.

Updates

2 mo

He wants to see me tomorrow too, before his flight to New Zealand, there he’ll stay for a month, then he goes to Korea and all is booked there, after 2 months he wants to come back again to see me and stay here before we decide where we go next :) Very romantic of him…
But I like the yesterday’s guy… He’s more slow than today’s guy though.

Updates

2 mo

I think he’s adorable. I showed him and his videos to my mom and friends and they all think he’s super sweet and adorable.

[Finchie40]

If you really Like the other guy, then you are best to end it with the second guy instead of stringing him along , so he can move on as well. Instead of getting his hopes up that you like him the same way as well. Just tell the second guy that you had a nice time with him but unfortunately I like someone else instead, but you are a great guy and I wish you the best , You have to understand you are just dating there is nothing set in stone with any of these guys’ you are dating , until you decide who you want to be with , so if your heart is beating for the first date then you are best to keep pursuing him instead of anyone else

[molonski2]

We have plenty of Russians here , they are all basically full of sht , and he is just telling you what he knows you want to hear , his age confirms same.

Just completely full of it , don't trust him for a moment , unless your goal is to be left bankrupt , sorry , but they are all pretty much the same.
He is just a stupid kid talking himself up.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not trusting him 😁 And feeling guilty for that kiss…

[WhitneySnow]

Listen to your heart. Go with yesterday’s guy. Today’s guy may be great, but that doesn’t mean he’s the one for you.

[ohsheeT]

The guilt probably comes from you knowing that you wouldn't want it done to you if the table was turned so it's probably a good thing that you feel the guilt just because it keeps you thinking

[Cyfris]

You feel guilty because you are in fact guilty. It is unrespectful to do that behind the back of someone you like. If your going to be a player your soul is the currency no one talks about that you spend.

[Crankor]

There is a very good chance the traveling guy is just a big player. There's no reason to wait 3 months for someone who doesn't even live where you are. What happens if you go with him and things dont work out? You'll be stuck in who knows where after dropping everything you had where you are now.

[DryGermanGuy]

You should wear this costume to indicate to the public that you are a busy little bee! :-D

[Theunfadeable]

🤣🤣🤣

[Tarifa]

I think you need to make up your mind and be completely honest to yourself. No one can make this choice for you, but you can't keep both with their hopes up.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I like the yesterday’s guy… But I am scared. What if he doesn’t like me as much as I do?

[Tarifa]

There's only one way to know. Let go of your fears. But there should be enough signs to make your decision a sound one.

Imagine yourself standing on a trampoline at your local swimming pool. You're a little bit afraid of heights, but the water looks tempting. It signals to you, you know it will be refreshing and you really want to be there. You have to make a decision within seconds, as other people are standing in line to use the trampoline. Close your eyes if you want to, but deep inside, you already know what to do. You're ready to jump. Shake off those fears and goose bumps.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s a really nice advice!

[slatyb]

If you "didn't really much enjoy it", then don't see him again. Just say "It was great meeting you but I don't think it will work. Best wishes for the future."

[spartan55]

I've made a BINGO card of all the countries of your potential suitors. So far Germany and Russia have been crossed off...🤣🤣

[CaptainSmartass]

Dude, Lenin isn't going to NZ. He's most probably on the next Aeroflot back to Moscow, ready to brief his KGB commanders on life in "decadent capitalist America".

Simples...

[jahaims]

Because you are dating someone while you have feelings for others. You should feel guilty. You feel guilty because you are doing something that is bad. That is what guilt is for

[exitseven]

Why canlt you find a nice American?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex was American, for 2 years… My 2nd big love after my ex fiancé… Got my heart broken though…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am just letting these Russian and German put these pieces back together :) and seeing if they can do

[LC75LC71]

You enjoy making things more complicated than they ever should be?

[NathanDavis]

yeah... why do you?

[fish5505_87]

Be careful of love bombing!

[Sweeos]

Girls are just all about the money.

[Anonymous]

You're thirsty for young cock