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Am I crazy/stupid for Falling for a Much Younger Guy?

I'm a 40-year-old single mom who recently started dating a guy who's 15 years younger than me. Initially, I thought it would just be a casual fling. I was undeniably drawn to him, initially mainly because of his undeniable physical attractiveness. However, as we spent more time together, something unexpected happened – I started developing strong feelings for him.

The connection we share is profound, and it's not just physical attraction driving it. We're remarkably compatible in terms of maturity, even more so than guys I've dated who are my age. When we're together, the age gap seems irrelevant, and we have an incredible time. He makes me feel understood and valued in a way I haven't experienced in a long time.

In some ways the age gap is actually a positive thing. For instance, I have a high amount of energy and am super adventurous. Most guys my age can't keep up with me. However, the guy I'm currently with can.

As amazing as things are going, I can't shake off the concern about our age difference. I sometimes feel like I'm deluding myself for being so interested in someone so much younger. Our life stages are vastly different – I'm a divorced single mom while he's a bachelor and a graduate student. I worry about our long-term compatibility. What if our goals and priorities diverge down the line? What if our different life experiences drive us apart? Will being with a much younger guy affect my kids (in a way being with a guy my age wouldn't)?

So, I guess what I'm asking is, am I crazy for falling for someone so much younger? Is it foolish of me to want to explore this relationship further despite the age gap and potential compatibility issues? How do I navigate these concerns and decide if this relationship has a real chance at lasting? Any advice or perspectives would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Am I crazy/stupid for Falling for a Much Younger Guy?
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Also, because I know the 'kids' question is going to come up: if we get to the point of deciding to have kids together (and we're a long way from that) I'd be super happy to have more kids. I always wanted one or two more kids, the only reason why I didn't is because my ex wasn't interested. Moreover, while I am 40, I haven't gone through menopause (and still have regular periods), and I've kept myself in very good shape
If I'm unable to have kids (although I think I will) I'd be willing to adopt
Am I crazy/stupid for Falling for a Much Younger Guy?
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