Am I weird for falling for a guy 15 years younger than me? If not how do I quit feeling weird about it?

[Anonymous]

Over the past month and a half I've been dating a guy I'm absolutely smitten with. However, he's also way too young for me (15 years younger). When I went out with him the first time I didn't think things would really go anywhere, but I ended up feeling this intense attraction and connection with him. I now have super strong feelings for him. He's also super sweet, super supportive of my need to put my daughter first, super funny, super smart, and super hot. He's incredibly easy to talk to and we have a lot of fun together. There's an intense level of chemistry/attraction/sexual tension between us. I'm simply head over heels into him.

I feel incredibly weird for feeling this way about a guy that much younger. I've always been weirded out with couples with really big age gaps, but now I'm kind of in a relationship like that. When I'm with him I don't notice the age difference. However, sometimes when we're apart I feel insanely weird for doing this. Just this last weekend he and I banged for the first time, and then banged a lot more throughout the rest of the weekend (I didn't have my daughter that weekend by the way). At the time it felt amazing, but now I just feel like some weird older woman whose out of her mind for doing it over and over again with a guy whose way too young for me.
Am I weird for falling for a guy this much younger than me? If not how do I quit feeling weird about it?

[ohshee]

When I was 15 and a half 16 years old I was babysitting for some lady and when she got home the lady that she was with asked me if I wanted a ride home can I sit here come to find out I live like two blocks away from her but we stop by her house first things happened and we ended up seeing each other for just about a year and the reasons why I think that she liked me so much was well let's just say there is a few of them and then almost a year later she told me that she wanted to get back with her husband they had been talking I didn't even know that she was married but anyway she didn't introduce me to one of her friends that was 37 I think 36 and her name we seen each other for a year and she told me she liked me for the same reason that the first lady did but my first I've been three or four relationships we're with older women I mean double my age just about and I absolutely loved it I think you have to do whatever your heart tells you to do don't do what other people say because all the reasoning that they give you is because of how they feel this is not about the inner me it's about you and that guy I should go for it if you're happy go for it

[Thewiseowlman]

There's nothing to be weird about it in terms of you both being attracted to each other. I guess you feel this way because it's usually an older guy dating a younger girl in most cases but honestly an older woman dating a younger guy is becoming more common these days.

The real question is where do you see this going? If it's just casual, it's not going to be too complicated but if you're looking for something more serious with this man, then it will get complicated since he's young, probably not ready to settle down, and since there is a child involved this will complicate things more as well.

[Asker]

I'm not really sure where I see this going. At first I thought it would be a fun fling at most, but it's turned into a lot more than that.

If I can get over feeling weird about it I don't think it would be that hard to work things out. He's already got a pretty solid job near where we both live and I don't think he'll be leaving anytime soon. I suppose I can't be sure if he's ready for real commitment, but so far he's seemed pretty interested in it.
Also, if we get far enough, I'd actually really like to have more kids. The only reason why I didn't is because my ex didn't want more. As of right now I'm also still capable of getting pregnant.
Not that I'm planning on that anytime sure. We're definitely not at that point. I just know it's a question that comes up when thinking about this kind of relationship long-term

[dorksided1]

Weird why? look at the connection how you guys get along, age is nothing but a number if you are both consenting adults. If you are head over heels go with it, don't over analyze it be in the moment and happy

[Sixgunsound]

What happens between consenting adults is their business nothing more. I used to support my government, before I confronted that bias. It SUCKS. But you will find ways to work it out. You obviously love each other which has been known to find ways to overcome a lot of things.

[FunkyMonkee]

There's nothing wrong with it. Mom & dad were 10 years apart. Jerry Lewis married a girl that was still shitting her diapers when he was still famous and making movies. For that matter, his son was famous at that time, too and had a number of hit records!

[HD1450]

Society is trying to make you feel that way because you are going against the grain. If you both are adults then do what your heart tells you and who in Heavens name are these people that are trying to pass judgement on you ! Just remember that old saying, people who live in glass houses !!!

[Anonymous]

I think you have to "change" your views on the age gap. And if you can't do that, then stop seeing him immediately before your feelings deepen further. It's only going to hurt and be harder the longer it goes on, so if this is something that's eventually going to come between you anyway, why put yourself through that?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yes you're weird, but that's OK. Love yourself, have confidence and own who you are.

Fuck just about anything else

[Berethor]

With such age gap in your favor, you likely using him more than he is using you. :)

[Asker]

Why do you think that?

[Berethor]

Because you got yourself a guy who is 15 years younger than you, you are a cougar. :)

[Yourfriend2021]

It doesn't matter but a lot of women try to insult men for dating younger women all the time. People can love who they want, forget everyone else and their biases.

[Asker]

It's not just that. It's that I thought it was weird when women went out with guys that much younger and now I'm doing it. That makes me feel weird. Part of the problem is I'm working against my biases

[Yourfriend2021]

You can't really help you who like, so try to change your biases.

[Avicenna]

Since you're both adults, I don't see a problem here as far as your ages go. However, the fact that you're a single mom will probably become one.

[driven159]

Age is a number and has nothing to do with anything enjoy what you have and be happy it's a lot better than being sad and by the way you're not the only woman to have feelings for a younger man get over it and be happy

[Anonymous]

Uh, no you’re not weird. Just enjoy the relationship for what it is. Women always think that a relationship has to “go” someplace or have some big progression or future. can't you just enjoy each other’s company?

[OddBeMe]

Ehh, older men do it. Why can’t you? I can see how some relationships outside age group could still be good. But most would be better sticking to their age group.

[Anonymous]

No and how to quit the weirdness, clearly tell the world and it's mother you don't give a F what they think

[Asker]

It's not just that. It's that I thought it was weird when women went out with guys that much younger and now I'm doing it. That makes me feel weird

[Cowboy6666]

Well instead of him chat with me and you will feel better :P

[Asker]

No thanks.

[Cowboy6666]

Well I dont bite, I was just saying friendly chat, no weird chat. lol

[TrillXHippy]

Gosh how crazy it is to just bring up what if it was the other way around

[Iron_Man]

Usually it’s the opposite

[Asker]

What do you mean? How is it 'usually the opposite'?

[Iron_Man]

Usually women like you date a guy 15 years older

[Asker]

I know, right! That's part of the reason why I feel so weird about it

[Iron_Man]

Well if you’re happy and if things are working out continue on

[BLP11520]

Who cares, are you happy?