Do men also get desperate about marriage and kids as they age?

[Anonymous]

It's been long said that women get desperate as they get older if she is still single by. But from my experience t's not limited to just women. I have seen a Lotta men go through the same thing... they find themselves 35 and still single and freaking out about it. Pressured to find someone before their prime closes. I have met some guys who would marry just about anyone to have kids with.

[Anonymous]

Eh, I remember thinking more about it when I was 25. Like I thought I would have found someone then married by 25. Then I thought about it again at 35. Then at 40 I thought. I'll give it a few more years. At 50 I think even if I found her and she said, "do you want to get married"? At this point I'd say "why?"😆

[Asker]

i think its because people tend to get more apathetic as they get older.

[ericclayton]

yes, this is universal.

[Abbycado]

I would say that if it was their life's goal to have a family and children, then yeah, they probably do.

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho!

[slatyb]

Some certainly do. We see this frequently from men who are unable to attract a partner due to a lack of social skills.

[Anonymous]

Some men do, but not nearly as many as women. The biological reality is that the things that make a woman valuable to men decrease with age while the things that make a man valuable to women increase with age.

[Asker]

Men don't get more attractive as they get older. It's when old guys try to lie to themselves to make themselves feel better about getting old and ugly

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say men get more attractive, but they do generally become more desirable to women as they age. Maturity, career success and stability, and more desire to commit and settle down are all things women tend to value in men, and they are also things that increase with age, to a degree.

I asked AI, and it gave me this response based on the most recent studies.

Women (Peak Desirability): Studies indicate that men consistently find women in their early 20s (approx. 18–25) to be the most desirable. This peak is high at age 18 and gradually declines, often cited in conjunction with evolutionary factors related to fertility.

Men (Peak Desirability): Men's attractiveness often peaks later, with studies indicating their peak desirability at age 50. A man's desirability is relatively stable or increases until his late 40s or early 50s, after which it begins to decline.

Harsh, but true.

[Asker]

@opinion owner

On average, husbands and wives were 2.2 years apart in age in 2022, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of U. S. Census Bureau data.

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[Asker]

It appears this age gap is largely driven by dudes. Men start 80% of conversations on OkCupid, and they tend to message younger women. The older men get, the younger the women they message (relative to their own age).

Women, on the other hand, message and respond most often to men about their own age. Once they reach 35, women actually respond more often to younger guys.

theblog.okcupid.com/undressed-whats-the-deal-with-the-age-gap-in-relationships-3143a2ca5178

[Asker]

The median age for men getting married for the first time in the U. S. is approximately 30 to 31 years old as of 2024-2025.

www.google.com/search

if 50 yr old men were so desirable, why do MOST MEN get married at 30-31?

if old men and young women desired each other , why is the average age gap only 2-4 years?

[Asker]

Based on Reddit discussions, the most desirable age for men is generally cited between the late 20s to late 30s (approx. 25–35).

This range is preferred because it balances peak physical fitness with increased maturity, confidence, stability, and career establishment.

www.google.com/search

[Asker]

After 40 is when a man starts developing first signs of erectile dysfunction.

By 50, it only gets worse.

so if you think that a 50 yr old man with erectile dysfunction, hair loss, wrinkly, saggy, with a bad knee is most attractive to women, you are lying to yourself.

[Jeff51]

No. I got married 15 years ago and do love it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I would say not as much.