Why does online dating feel so traumatizing and hopeless for me?

[Anonymous]

In 2024, I was tricked and led on by a guy who lied to me that he was interested in me for an ego boost. We long distanced for 4 months. He sent me loving texts daily and talked daily. I became so attached to him, that I couldn't let him go. After he confessed the truth, I blocked him. I suffered an enormous blow emotionally.

The next year, i met a guy who was desperate for marriage and children. We long distanced since he lived 2 hrs away, met a few times. But he never made our relationship a priority, started not texting me back. Then I found out he lied about everything. I wasted 5 months on this dude

Then a few months later, I met a guy who just wanted to "go with the flow" to see where things go... just so he can secretly use me for sex.

Then another week later, another guy told me he wanted a wife and kids and how wonderful it be to come home to them. He sold me a magical wonderful dream for about 2 weeks, said sweet loving words. I fantasized about him every night. Till he revealed that he wasn't ready for a relationship now. A commitment phobe

It's just been such a devastating experience. I just struggle to find the will to go on. Just so beaten down. Makes me feel like there are just no decent guys on these apps.

I try meeting guys in real life but they rarely ever are interested.

[ohsheeT]

Before you do it again let me teach you how to read guys

I mean for real with everything that you just went through you should know how to read guys

There are so many things that guys do That will tell you everything about them in a heartbeat You just have to pay attention to it If you want to know Let me know It might save you from heartache Again

[Asker]

sometimes i get so lonely that i just latch onto anyone i could find. even though I do see the red flags.

[ohsheeT]

Well don't do that. I do know what you mean but there are ways to fix that

[ohsheeT]

Add me or dm. Me if you want I can tell you what I do and it helps

[Sunnyrjs]

Online dating is like hit and miss where you miss more and hit very less.
And on top of that if it is long distance then it has very less chance of working even if both people want it to work.
In your case that wasn't such so it's understandable that you feel sad about it.
And at this time me giving you any advice is not something you want, so the best I can say is I hear you.

[Nikki1989]

It is very rare to find a quality date online for most people.

[Jeff51]

Go out and have fun and maybe you will run into someone you like talking to.

[Asker]

Guys never talk to me in real life

[Anonymous]

Well, you get further than I ever do. I'm lucky to get a match, and a conversation is either fleeting or nonexistent.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 The good men are on there. Those are just the guys you ignore.