How to know if guys are actually interested or just desperate and lonely? How to know if I’m below avg or avg? How to not care if I’m below avg?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

This is a good question it’s not wrong to feel lonely it’s natural many people who are single feel this way because most people seek a deeper connection. With that being said it’s also normal to not be wanted out of desperation such as I wouldn’t want a woman with me simply because she’s desperate either.

Someone whose simply desperate will have a much harder time creating a genuine connection they might go so far as to be your boyfriend keep in mind more manipulative people can fake it better. But these are pretty good indicators.

Hot and cold…. If someone’s desperate they will talk to you when they don’t have anyone else to talk to and disappear again. They might be using you for sex, to emotionally vomit, or just to pass the time and not be bored. Now someone can not be having sex with you and still use you those other ways.

You don’t feel a real connection they show up they do boyfriend things. But there isn’t really deep conversations their eyes glaze over and may even seem genuinely not interested. Even resentful…..

Another major thing is sex. If they want sex too fast that’s a major red flag especially if they get sex in leave or get denied sex and leave. If they wanted anything deeer they wouldn’t be chasing sex or sex alone.

Not asking open ended questions. Conversations are monotone, small talk, and basically just talking about themselves without and depth to it. Not asking about you or your life…. Nothing like that.

They need validation from other women. That’s a big one. They flirt a lot maybe even on dating apps maybe even banging other women…. Also if a dude is talking even in the dating stage TONS of women at one time. Yeah….. you’re just someone else feeding him supply.

[Anonymous]

Knew within the first sentence you had self esteem issues. Didn't even have to finish the question.

Because if a guy is talking to you the LAST thing that should be popping into your head is, "why"? I mean, of course be cautious. That's just prudent. But you should ALWAYS believe you are enough. Because you have friends and family that care about you. That is not by accident! That is PROOF that you are worth knowing and learning about.

Also, no guy chases a woman out of desperation. There are some guys that will just try to sleep with a woman. But those guys are pretty easy to discern to a woman that values herself and is not just looking for male attention to stroke her ego.

[Nikki1989]

Assume all men want sex because many think with their dicks and have little else to offer.

[Abbycado]

They’ll want to get in your pants and nothing else.

[Zally]

It sounds corny. But how can other people love you, if you dont love you.

And if you dont love yourself, change whatever it is that stops you loving yourself and then after that, you aren't going to care much if guys like you or not. But when he's serious about you then you'll know cause he will make it clear

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't care what others think as it really doesn't matter. Find someone who prioritizes you.

[David318578]

Impossible to know if your bellow average without seeing what you look like

[In_Trance]

Keep your clothes on and see how long they stay around

[Anonymous]

Ask a fortune teller and she'll tell you the truth.