How to know if a guy is interested in you?

[kp1996]

I’ve been talking to this guy for about two weeks now. Before this all happened I told him that I felt my most comfortable self with him and that I like him. We would talking through FaceTime or text but for the past couple of days he barley texts or calls me back. I’m mostly double texting or triple texting him to get a response. He’ll go almost hours with texting me. I understands that he works and that sometimes his shift changes for days to nights but I’m still unaware as to why he can’t make time for me like how I do for him. Yesterday he held a phone conversation and then out of no where he’s barley texting me again. Is it ok to triple text him?

[PrettyPriya]

Okay, so two things. One is that he really could be genuinely busy. Life happens and sometimes we get busy. The other thing I have noticed, and this is a general thing, is most guys aren't big into texting. They just aren't. Sure, there will be exceptions to the rule but I have found most don't care much for it.

This is no different than with my fiancé. It is like pulling teeth sometimes getting him to respond. He is a typical guy that just doesn't text much. I have learned to live with it. If you are having good conversations in real life and on the phone, I wouldn't pay much attention to this.

Everyone is different and perhaps it is just not his thing whereas you very much like communicating that way. He does seem to be setting aside time for phone calls at least. How is the conversation in real life? I assume he stays engaged and they are pleasant conversations?

[kp1996]

The conversation we have are very must Pleasant. We would talk for hours or end up fall asleep on the phone (that only happened one time lol). He stays an hour away from me but every weekend he’ll come to my city to hang out either with me or his friends that stay over here. Mostly out conversations end up in us laughing a lot or just having a good time really. I’m just confused on him not responding back to me. Like I don’t want to over step my boundary by calling him bc I’m scared of him not answering. He normally calls me. I don’t know if he wants me to call him first or keep texting him til I get a responses

[PrettyPriya]

I see no issue with calling him. Also, from the extra details in your reply, I say yes he is interested for sure.

[kp1996]

It’s hard to tell when I’m always double texting him. Like last night I double texted him and I still haven’t gotten a response. Like I want to just flat out text him “do you even want to talk to me?” But then it’ll be awkward or what if he doesn’t respond

[PrettyPriya]

I think a lot goes to he isn’t a texter like I had mentioned. My fiancé is the same. Drives me nuts like it is doing to you. I learned to live with it. 😞

[kp1996]

Shouldn’t he have just told me he wasn’t a tester to begin with? Honest I don’t mind texting or calling him but it’s just the fact of what if he sees my call a prefers not to answer. That’s why I haven’t communicated with him all today I don’t want to look desperate or anything.

[PrettyPriya]

Okay so I agree he should communicate that with you. Maybe wait until tomorrow and call and leave a message. Just say something like “Hey, any chance you have some time this weekend to get together?”.

If he ignores that, you’ve got your answer.

[kp1996]

Ok I will do that. Thank you so much for your help

[PrettyPriya]

You are so welcome and my pleasure. Please do come back and let us know how things went. I hope it is good news!! 🙂

[kp1996]

I hope so too☺️

[Jendcheuebc]

I think you’re making more time for him than he’s making for you. The investment on your end is larger than his which is really bad. I wouldn’t say he’s not “into you” because it’s still early in the stages. Have you guys met up yet? Also some men don’t text a lot in general and maybe he doesn’t feel like you guys have to talk every single day over text or phone calls since you caught up earlier.

[Avicenna]

Being reliable and giving you a lot of attention are the best indicators. Don't give up on him just yet.

[kp1996]

It’s hard because I don’t know if he’s not interested anymore. And I’m scared to ask

[DoctorSex]

How long are your conversations on average when you do talk?

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[kp1996]

Our conversations would be like hour or so. But when we do talk it’s not an awkward feeling or anything it’s like we’ve known each other for a long time. Like we connected

[DoctorSex]

@kp1996 1hour, I thought as much.

So here's what's probably happening.

It takes a lot of time and energy to talk to you. So he poor guy understands that he is going to have to put 1 hour aside in his day, as well as giving you undivided attention. This is fundamentally a "sin" in the Bible of masculinity, if you are not a girlfriend or wife.

Truly be thankful for what you've received, he has given a lot to you. I sent this post to other girl earlier, who is in your exact situation, I hope it helps..

"bro relationships"

Are built on distance and respect. Each man is an empire and he has business to conduct when ruling over his internal kingdom.

Our friendships for the most part are less intimate than female relationships. His behaviour is fine for a guy. Most men reading your question will find no issue with it. We'd just assume he's off sorting empire stuff.

This is why I don't agree men and women should be close friends. Female relationships are far more intimate and you'll end up driving yourself crazy trying to maintain friendships with straight men.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[kp1996]

What does that mean exactly?

[DoctorSex]

@kp1996 lol 🤦

[Guy13]

You are too forward for the boys in which you engage.

[kp1996]

I see so how do I not be so forward to them?

[Guy13]

Light-heart, OKAY?

"B-tch has baggage... worse-I don't need a Femi-Nazi !!
GUYS, being as disorganized and unclean as most are, free-flow. We know the "bullwhip" is coming. It is life.. I may or may not be ready to be broken at that Point in Time. This one though is already bat-shit Crazy... getting shot on the backside is not in my Design...
:) There is your Guy "Normal Curve" of WOMEN...

[In_Trance]

Ask him

[kp1996]

To nervous to ask. I’m scared of his answer.