How do you know whether a guy is interested in marriage vs just wants to date for a short while?

[jennifer_bloom]

I had multiple guys hit on me while I was out in public but a girl said they are not serious and just want a short fling

[MrOracle]

You make it known upfront what you are looking for, and you take things slowly with him and have lots of conversations about long-term compatibility.

This will get you dumped a lot, because a lot of guys won't be looking for anything serious, so you have to expect that as being part of a well-working filtering process and not take it personally. Also, realize that the more attractive the guy, the more options he has with women, and the less likely he will want a serious relationship.

[Pterodon]

Time is the only way

[OlderAndWiser]

You go on one or two dates and then you ask them.

[romeo_and_cats]

Don't listen to crap of others girls. I remember once a girl loved me very much but hers sister would say "no he's not for you " and bad talk about me, everyday and she trued to communicate with me. Later on her sister was trying to hit on me. So you see why you're going listen to your competitors.

Then second if you don't have that experience yet at your age it's means you never had a love or long healthy relationship, if you did this answer would be clear. Try to change your behavior and observe how you behave, this will help you, just because you attract others it doesn't mean you're great in relationships, that's a separate side, attraction vs relationships.

Relationships doesn't need 1. attraction 2. Sexual tension 3. Or any other magic vibe

When somebody loves they love you. The main prove someone is prepared to be in a relationship and that they love you is to still in a fight and fight back. The main prove they're not ready it's when the first time they fight or argue the other just run and gives up everything. Hence it explains while narssicistics people are STILL alone they always will be with "perfect! Perfect! Magic person" who doesn exist! Period

[slatyb]

You can never know what a guy is thinking. How would that girl know anything you don't? Has she dated all of them?

All you can go by is what a man says and more importantly how he behaves. If you are dating to find a husband, let men know that on the first date. You can do this without scaring them off -- dating for marriage doesn't mean you want to be married within six months of dating. Or just ask them about their goals -- do they see themselves married? Children? When? These are perfectly fine questions for a first date.

[Am_and_Pm]

No shit. U just met.


TF u think this is the bachelorette?

Falling into Love. It takes time, effort, and ****.

I think of falling for someone like this,

U just can't see urself living with someone else. Someone who has built an entire city in ur head. Someone unforgettable. That doesn't mean it will be a tall outstanding cutie.

Falling for someone happens when u least expect it.

I saw a season, well I skipped all of it and only saw the first and last two episodes on the bachelorette. There is this one couple that I think was true. Somewhat. The Canadian bachelorette. The one where the guy was a virgin. At the end he wanted to quit the show because the person he was falling for didn't want to plan her life and he did.

They ended up together because of how things played out.

I say somewhat cz she is gorgeous and 23 and he is 28? And a virgin. 😂🤣😉

Still good episode.

[andreasderjuengere]

You can always ask. Although that may give him a feeling of being 'forced' to make a statement... some guys are sensitive about this. To just ask about a general opinion will not hurt.
One indicator could be: a man who takes things slow and relaxed is likely to have something in mind that will last longer.

[GingerGuy]

You talk to him and ask. And there's no "too soon". Why waste anyone's time? You just have to ask it right that's all. Don't say "do you want to get married?" lol, say "what are you looking for?" And tell him what you want "something leading to long term and marriage".

[etexbearkat]

I think it would depend on how long the dating lasts. I would in a perfect world date a lady for six months or a little longer before I pop the question and ask her to marry me. However, before we chose to marry, I would want the two of us to have a long conversation about it.

[Siren777]

There is something in their demeanor and the questions they ask you that is a dead give away. You could always be upfront with them too.

[ToastyOats]

You never know till you try. The blanket accusations being thrown around by both genders is really hurting people. Also, why not look up some statistics on monogamous men and their characteristics. Then you'll be able to get a good ballpark percentage right away. You won't like this probably but a guy that cuts his own hair, wears simple clothes, doesn't come on real strong is a much better bet for marriage.

[EssenceOfLight]

If you sleep with them few times and they don't run away, the chances are good for a longer relationship. If such a guy remains loyal and is willing to live with you together without conflicts which lead to escalations that can't be forgiven, chances are good such one relationship ends with a marriage.

[REALSTEEL]

just ask him and be blunt about it make sure he gives you a straight answer

[Shihab91]

In my country a girl will never be in relationship with you unless you want to marry her, we don't have such a thing boyfriend and girlfriend without marriage.

[kitty71]

Where are you from? So that means theh first lady you daste is the one you will have to marry?

[jaybee281]

@kitty71 Definitely a Muslim country - or a Muslim community - And to answer the 2nd question - I'd say not necessarily - But the process is much more focused on marriage than sex - like if it doesn't work out then it doesn't - but if it does it's going to marriage - they got that one right - at least almost all of their chicks are virgins

[Shihab91]

@kitty71 what I meant is women won't get in relationship unless you have the intention to marry her. Now sometimes its might not work for financial reasons or they after months they break up but in general no girl will stay with you for more than 2 years if she felt you are not going to marry her. And yes muslim countries are like this

[Shihab91]

This commitment comes after both admit their love to each other

[Vinnygraphix]

Easy he loves you very affectionate will do everything for you but the question is if you could handle it and not cheat on him be he’s doing everything example I was in a relationship back wen I was 23 never had sex wen my girlfriend wakes up in the middle of the night I would say if everything is okay I would get up get her a glass of water I would wait till she falls asleep but then she would use me for comfort and go to another guy for sex and use me for the pampering and $$$$

[DJB72]

Mention it. If he gets a cold sweat he's probably just looking for short term

[Ally247]

Just ask him about his intentions, if he’s unclear then you have your answer.

[have_a_good_day]

I think you can tell with certainty if he is interested in marriage if he says: "I'm interested in marriage"

[sheikalana]

When I was single I used to have this conversation pretty early so I know what to expect. If the guy didn't have the same goals as me then there was no point to keep seeing them.

[Jjpayne]

Usually after the first encounter or the first few. You get a stronger idea for interests and chemistry or the lack there of

[Anonymous]

don't know. some guys will stay in long term relationships without getting married either... it's rude.

[GermanGuy87]

Most people aren’t interested in marriage until a long time down the road after dating for a short while has been successful.

[Smashingdoozy]

You ask them if they are looking for something long term?

[michael1469]

... of course its long time... till the next puece comes along... SMH

[michael1469]

Stupid autocorrect

[Smashingdoozy]

Well no some people are just looking for something casual. Others looking for something serious. But yes till the next person comes along, that is how dating and finding the right person for you work?

[alance99]

Its very difficult to tell at initial stage that a guy is geniunely interested or not but after 2-3 months things start clearing up and by their behavior or sincerity one can know

[Alpha4U]

Its on you to show the guy that you are a wife material.
men job is to attain sex... women is to keep him after sex.
it depends on what you offer to a guy besides sex.

[michael1469]

Best answer right there!!!

[Alpha4U]

@michael1469 Thank you. Sir.

[Myk13]

You can usually figure it out by the end of the first date.

[AmeerX]

Only way to find out is to show interest and keep them on wait and later on ask for marriage

[Romeocuck]

First of don't open your legs too quickly. Second to to him about the important staff that matter to you.. and watch his reactions

[Anonymous]

How come you still ask this at 36? What have you been doing in your twenties? Also i see many of your posts over the years just curious thanks

[jimmy2]

You will know when you feel you can't live without him

[Joshua0213]

Ask him after a couple dates

[In_Trance]

Interact with him and keep your clothes on.

[Drumlin2001]

You could ask them?

[es20490446e]

By asking them.