What actually helped you build confidence when you felt unattractive?

[Anonymous]

I have always struggled with self doubt and insecurities even though there were many girls interested in me. Couple of times i run into a guys who told me i am handsome. But i have always struggled around girls i like and fear of approaching. Now there's a thing that doesn't help me at all. I am losing my hair. My temples got bigger and i lost a lot of volume and it makes me really depressed

[Anonymous]

You're going to laugh but, online dating apps.

years. Ago i took a brutual rejection that really messed me up. I needed to know i had value to someone and among other things such as going out and getting approached by women. Going online and using online dating apps really helped re-build my self esteem. Later on that woman that rejected me tried to use me to build her own ego again and i shut her down. She would go on to stalk me for the next 2 years.😆 While knowing her was a brutal part of my life, i needed it. It taught me a lot about women and what they are capable of. It also taught me a lot about myself and the value i bring to this world. NEVER look for approval from a woman. Always know you're enough. She doesn't have to see it, and that's ok. Her loss is another woman's gain. Hair is just window dressing. Is that going to be a problem for some women? Yeah some, just like height will be to some, money will be to some, etc. So just don't date those women. But if it REALLY bothers you then take the power back. Shave your head. Embrace being fully bald. Bruce willis did it, Jason Statham did it. Michael Jordan did it.

[slatyb]

Been there, done that at your age. Years later I started seeing a psychotherapist and she helped a lot. Then I started being more outgoing and discovered that generally people like me. Then I divorced and started dating and discovered that women really like me.

[slatyb]

I was going through some boxes of mementos and found love letters from many years ago when I had no confidence. It's sad -- women were crushing on me hard and I still believed I was awkward and unlovable.

[Nikki1989]

I've never felt unattractive, but I was extremely overweight as a teenager, so I simply changed my eating habits and exercised, and the weight fell off.

[Zionne]

I choose to be happy always, and never mind what people may say

[Levin]

I shaved my head, started strength training (calisthenics) and took up martial arts.

Outside of that I'd work on your mind. There's lot of new age and spiritual channels on youtube which help work on those negative thoughts and loops.

[Anonymous]

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