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Why do you even need to give a goodbye speech to someone you've only known for a short time? Simply cutting off your interest is also a response.
I've been hit hard by ghosting a few times. Thought it was because of me... just chicks cheating and they want to get rid of me. Once I understood that... then I don't take it as I did something wrong and just move one.
Look... you ever deal with a psycho chick that just wants to argue... I'm just trying to not see her again, she's trying to force it... ghosting is basically the best way I can handle her ass.
I just realized you're a pink account... but you understand right. You've probably had to do it to guys that were fucking psycho and you just knew they are not a good fit in your life right? I'll admit ghosting is harsh, expecially when a short explanation would've done just fine. But some people... ghosting is all you got because they will argue, beg, plead and make you spend hours explaining a bunch of shit when you just want to end it already.
For me, the cheating chicks... instead of trying to ghost me, just tell me. I wouldn't of sent 40 texts afterwords or asking about what I did wrong. I hate those bitches in particular because I think they did it for the attention. They wanted those 40 texts. Just for attention.
Just tell me you were cheating and want to be left alone. Bitch, I'll leave you alone. Leave me thinking love is on the line though... FML.
You realized she is pink as fast as iron man that you are blue... a bit faster. But she followed you a year ago on you 4teengurlz account. And... iron man falsely accused me of following him, while he was the one to try following you and you had to block his perverted ass. Anyway let's talk about succubi.
They're the real jannies... not of a forum, but of life. They turn us into Buddhists. Or monks in general. Forgiveness is quite synonymous with non-attachment and better stresses that it is not about forgetting, but learning.
No attachment to carnal emotions. If you want to be fulfilled, don't depend the thing they call "love", which is just emotional-lust in reality. Compare the 2nd chakra to 4th if needed.
And yes, jannies, because they do it without pay: attention + cheating reveal they themselves are the exact polar opposite of a mature nun with self control, they are actually in severe torment, drowining in the mud, and their ugly behavior is a sort of cry for help... not knowing that only they can help themsleves.
Maybe they were bullied growing up, Their problem. It does not matter what made them into such whofes. The instruction i give them all is: stop lying. Lying literally breaks off a piece of one's soul (since part of you automatically beilieves in it, while the main you does not) this soul fragments becomes what is literally demonic...
So let's engage our demons slaying cocks with them. They don't deserve the real cocks.
@Smart_Monk That Iron Man situation was weird... as well as some of the others that thought I was a woman. I mean once I do realize I'm talking to a woman, I'm not sending them a 'follow' request and trying to talk to them in their DM's. Some of these people just need to find a real girl IRL and they need to do that fast. I mean for reals, I wrote like 2 paragraphs talking about my dick and he still messaged me. Now that I have this new profile picture... the gooners are leaving me alone again. If you asked me what charka their stuck in... it's the red one with an insatiable hunger, so the orange one as well. Mine being more in the blue one where creativity is going on so hard that I just jump into the material and ignore who they are until I remember to make sure who I'm speaking to.
In my words, they're thinking with their genitals. lolz.
@Smart_Monk Oh, I never got the chance to block him either... he removed himself when I told him I'm a dude.
@lesbologist it's hard for me to wrap my head around how it is possible to be this childish at his age. Just saw him tell someone "go sexually hit this on girl" because she blocked him for doing so, he wants her to be harassed by others.
@Smart_Monk I mean I'll act like I'm sexual as a joke with some of these chicks, but they're aware it's a joke... like they're not blocking me type of stuff. Some of these dudes are actual serious predators with a serious agenda. Some of the chicks too for that matter... horny chicks and gay dudes is exactly why I had to take down my real pictures as D_Bone. There are some really horny and desperate people out there.
@Smart_Monk I mean just look at him go... and he was hitting my DM's at the same time -->
Do skinny guys really tend to have bigger dicks, or is that a myth? ↗
I saw that before.
I know how common horndogs here are, i myself in messages even told them I AM A TROLLING DUDE on pink accounts and they still didn't shut up.
But what i see from that one ubermod is straight fooked in the head. Not only was he hitting on you with you having abblue account and repeating that you have a dick (he is probably bisexual ffs) but that chick who blocked him, he then tells other horndogs to hit on her, to punish her for blocking him.
What is he thinking, it's not despair because it will not help him.
And horniness because then jacking off would solve it. It is probably low self esteem... wait he is a janitor. Like most jannies, craving the power to ruin someone else's day.
They need to stop and ask themselves "maybe i should act better to get better outcomes". It is as if such a thought doesn't cross their heads. I would go as far as saying any unpleasant encounter is part of karma, and like any debt you have to shut up and pay it, not enlarge it.
I'm starting to agree that people never change. I thought i change a lot since i try to learn from mistakes, but i was always fairly self aware, which means i also haven't really changed. I suppose people like him, at his age, will never quit being fooked in the head.
You are clearly one of those low value selfish people. Dude, you are talking to them, hanging with them or etc
It doesn't take much to send out one polite end text. Instead you are just disappearing like a fart in the wind. You are just showing your own value.
@Evil_Mouse_Trap Good thing you pointed at AI, the user above feels increasingly tool-assisted to me, given how monolithic their answers are lolol
It’s not always a bad thing lol. If I don’t reply anymore, I’m no longer interested. There has been times it can be accidental when I’m just too busy with life. Other times when a guy is coming off too strong, rude, egotistical, fuck boy, self-center, and yeah… I don’t feel bad not ghosting.
It happens, yes, but the issue is that sometimes one person feels more than the other, and it’s easy to make assumptions based on their response. It can be discouraging when things suddenly go silent. That’s why communication is so important
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It’s a disrespectful thing , whether you like someone or not , the respectful thing to do is to give them an answer, instead of just disappearing without an answer unfortunately that’s one of the biggest problems with today’s’ society , so many people have become selfish and disrespectful , that do not know what it means to be respectful or how to be respectful , and then they wonder why no one really gives a fuck about them. You can’t fully be respected if you can’t respect in return. If you choose to be disrespectful , then don’t be surprised when you start being disrespected by other people in return , basically what goes around comes around , we are all people that come from different walks of life , but we all pretty much eat the same and shit the same , no one on this planet is perfect whoever thinks they are , are clearly talking out their ass. Dignity and respect goes a long way in life , you aren’t going to be liked by everyone , but you will be liked by many , if you have dignity and respect , the choose is yours. Ghosting someone is a disrespectful selfish decision, because you are only thinking about yourself. And unfortunately that will get you no where in life. It only takes a few seconds to text someone back to let them know you are alright , it’s the respectful thing to do , whether you like them or not I can’t stand people that are rude and disrespectful that think their shit doesn’t stink , it’s not like we walk around with signs flashing over our heads stating what we are into or what are relationship status is , so when someone is rude and disrespectful to me from the very beginning, they mean nothing to me , all I see is a selfish POS person that needs a wake up call.
Awesome brother you sound old-school like me I just got done giving a similar lecture I was born in the 60s, while the human race has never been perfect they were definitely a lot more morally and mentally balanced back when I was growing up and they had a lot more mutual respect for each other
Yea I am old school for sure , it’s how I was raised and taught to be , I also value old school relationships as well, the traditional ones , but sadly it’s harder to find these days , I feel our society has gone to hell in a hand basket , with how selfish and disrespectful people have become , compared to how it was back in the day , it just seems like there is more disrespectful people then respectful people these days. And it blows my mind. I feel social media is a big part of the reason as well , with how people see things and allow themselves to believe in most of the nonsense , before social media apps were even a thing , people were more respectful and polite to each other , we didn’t bombard our lives with useless shit that was happening around the world , we didn’t care what other people were eating or going on vacations or doing with their lives , but now people constantly think grass is greener on the other side instead of watering the grass they are already standing on. Relationships and marriages are constantly failing these days because of selfish mindsets , Selfishness is sadly one of the biggest relationship killers and pretty much everyone has selfishness inside of themselves , only wanting what they feel is best for themselves , without truly giving a shit about anyone else’s’ feelings , especially their partners’ feelings. People point fingers constantly without pointing fingers at themselves first and sadly that’s the problem with this society , barely anyone can take accountability for their selfish behavior or actions, it’s always someone else’s’ fault but never their own fault. If people actually put their phones down and looked at the world around them., they will clearly see social media is filled with bullshit , Social media was designed as a money making platform to draw people in to make money , instead of having salesman knock on our doors trying to sell us some overpriced vacuum cleaner they use social media to sucker people.
I agree. There have been many times I will meet someone on line and they are just bad i warn them then good bye. There are other people i respect and will just say I'm sorry not going to work nice meeting you but most of the time it's people who want money. Good bye
It’s kind of like dropping the door on the person behind you and not caring because you’ll never see them again.
It's totally an act of selfishness ! I was born in 1965 and people's demeanor behaviors actions morals and personal conduct was much different back then! all of this ghosting and leaving people hanging is a new age thing, I noticed if I'm messaging somebody they will disappear in the middle of the chat no goodbye or I'll talk to you tomorrow or anything ! at first that kinda hurt my feelings and was quite offensive because I didn't come for that type of behavior, when I'm done talking I say I gotta go or I'll talk to you tomorrow or talk to you later or good night or something to end that conversation, when you leave somebody hanging that changes the whole perspective on the interaction and the relational aspect, people will also tell you I'll call you right back with no intentions of calling you back because they do it all the time that's their way of ending the conversation, that's bizarre behavior why not just say I'm gonna get off the phone/chat now or we'll talk again some other time or I gotta go now or good night or whatever, to end a conversation properly is a sign of integrity and mutual respect just by saying goodbye or I'll call you tomorrow or something that provides psychological closure and tells the other person they're valued, because small things matter small things are the foundational building blocks of strong relationships
No, it is bad.
Ghosting is generally considered a harmful way to end or avoid communication because it leaves the other person without closure or explanation. It can create confusion, overthinking, and emotional discomfort, especially when the connection or interaction mattered to them.
While some people may use ghosting to avoid conflict or difficult conversations, it still tends to be unfair to the other person because it removes any chance for clarity or understanding. A simple honest message is usually a more respectful way to end communication.
The way I see it, the problem is not ghosting its the violation of the unspoken social contract
Meaning if you were texting and never met or met just once and it didn’t go great, nothing was promised
So you can ghost with a clear conscience
But ghosting someone you’ve been seeing and have implied to be interested in is just weak willed and selfish
Because the unanswered questions will be baffling.
No one deserves to live in doubt as to what happened or what went wrong
And some closure costs nothing
Doesn’t have to be dramatic
If someone ghosts you its probably for a good reason if im honest and these people need to learn self reflection a lot of the time because the warning signs are usually there but they were too self centered to notice.
Yes in some cases its really unfair and cruel but given my own experience with ghosting people its a lot easier to because they are usually people who don't do well with honesty and act mentally unstable when confronted with the truth so its better to just run and hide from them.
I tend to attract crazy people and have had to rely on ghosting because they'll do things like scream, cry and beg even hit if anyone calls them out on there shit. Usually I've called them out weeks before and said things to them like "I really don't like when you do/say that" or "if you do that i won't speak to you ever again " and then they act shocked when people ghost them
That's funny because an advice video I watched says it works even better on women, as they don't expect the man to do the ghosting and it makes her desperate for your attention if you have a chance with her.
I can't say I've experienced this myself as I've only ever been with my boyfriend but I remember going on a date with a total freak before meeting my now husband.
The guy begged for a second date with me after saying the fact I looked like a child made me more attractive along with cat fishing me and me having to pay for everything and let him use my phone to call his mum to pick him up.
I kept saying id think about it but he wouldn't take no for answers. Made an shit excuse to get away from him and blocked him on everything.
Then he gave his friend my number and told me id really upset his friend I explained how he behaved on the date and then his "friend" asked me out on a date obviously I rejected him too
Not boyfriend why did I say that lol husband *
Wdym he catfished you? Did he use a false photo?
He lied about a lot of stuff and his pics looked nothing like him.
He told me he was a law student and turned out he was working cash in hand on a building site every so often
I am guessing you were immediately turned off by that and he was dumb for doing it. The reason he did it is because if you look a certain way you're not appealing to women and if you don't have a higher status then your woman (in a society where women now work more then men) she's going to find you a lot less attractive unless you're making money through crime.
Catfishing should be illegal (been through it myself when I was a teen) but I can sympathise with why men lie about their status as someone who has a much higher intelligence then what befits my status.
I've never liked this term ghosting. Who ever came out with this is a moron. Ur talking to someone and go to meet em and they don't show? Or talking to someone and then they stop calling? People that this happens to is their own fault. If u can't get into the real world and meet some 1 face to face, then that's on that person. How can 1 be so lonely/gallable, too be talking to some 1 you've never met? How you going to be messaging someone u haven't even heard their voice? Smh it's sad really. That PEOPLE let this word have substance. I'm not sorry for being insensitive. People u need to wake up. NOTHING GOOD EVER WILL COME TO YOU through YOUR PHONE. So many different people control the things u see. Control the way u see em. Control the context of thing u watch... stop using your phone or computer looking for your 'Mr Doesn't Exist'. Getting back to you roots, 'if it's too good to be true, it probably is'
If I don't care for the person, I really don't care If I DO care, I'd rather get ghosted then end on a bad note, or knowing they found someone else and get angry and jealous. I was talking to and had feelings for a girl online for 7 years, then she randomly unfriended and ghosted me with zero explanation. I was hurt and sad at the time, but looking back NOW, especially after another recent experience, I'm glad she ghosted me instead of telling me she married that Omar guy, because that would've been worse honestly. I don't know if I'd even want a short message. If I'm in love or really close to someone, I'd honestly prefer that they just ghost me, and I don't know what happened to them, instead of them telling me I did something wrong or they need to end things because they found someone else, because that hurts even more.
Why do you need have the conversation? Manners. Not being a coward. Facing into challenges. Putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
Here's the flip side of your question. Why do you need to run and hide from life and what does that say about your character?
What if you were in that situation and people ghosted you? It seems you're not capable of asking yourself those questions. You're a person I'd have no problem using and tossing like yesterday's garbage.
It's just a loser thing to do.
It's like joining a sports team and after everyone pays into it and practices you just don't show up out of nowhere and other people put effort into playing ball.
They took off work, planned ahead, spent time in their life thinking about it etc.
Maybe you don't value yourself very highly and that's why it doesn't seem like you're asking anyone to sacrifice anything. Maybe you're selfish and just don't care.
Refusing to ghost isn't about you. It's about them. When you choose not to ghost someone, you are choosing to EDUCATE someone on why you're leaving, and what they can change about their behavior. Or simply letting them know you don't feel the chemistry and leave them wondering what they did wrong.
Ghosting is honestly selfish. You don't give the person an opportunity to become better. You just leave them insecure, alone, and without any roadmap on how to come a more social, better person.
I think ghosting gets treated as one thing when it's actually several different situations.
Ghosting after a few messages?
Not a huge deal.
Ghosting after weeks or months of talking, dating, or building emotional connection?
That's different.
🚩 Red Flag Analysis
Risk Level: Medium
Green Flags:
✅ Ending things honestly
✅ Sending a simple goodbye message
✅ Respecting someone's time
Red Flags:
🚩 Disappearing after creating expectations
🚩 Avoiding uncomfortable conversations
🚩 Leaving someone confused without closure
Reality Check:
Nobody owes a long explanation.
But basic respect usually looks like a simple message rather than silence.
I agree with your original post. I don't think a goodbye speech is necessary if you've only known them a short time or only hung out with them for a bit. I remember getting an email from someone who I met up with ONCE and it wasn't even a date. It was a lady from a hobby related club. Saying something like she mis-led me. Like "WTF?" We just met for a hobby related activity.
I think its horrible after youve developed a rapport with someone. If you barely spoke, whatever. I always try not to ghost and tell them why i dont wanna talk anymore then THEY ghost ME! Like…. ok? I thought i was doing you a favor since i know how bad being ghosted feels
Apologies, I disagree with the conscious
There is absolutely nothing wrong with ghosting them , and the alternative achieves NOTHING , when the time is right , on many occassions " no need in great " ..
What all these moronic simps? Find something better if they are that pssed off simple.
You can keep it short and simple if someone can’t respect that block them. But it’s just cowardly. Sure you don’t HAVE to do that…. And someone who ghosts just tells me what kind of person they were anyways. They legally don’t owe me an explanation….. but I don’t legally owe them a good opinion of who they are as a person either.
Ghosting is the single most evil common social behaviour. If you ghost, you are an arsehole.
Ghosting is fine if you need to get away from a bad person. If somebody is not a bad person, they don’t deserve that kind of treatment. If they care about you at all then it’s emotionally cruel and makes somebody feel like discarded trash that nobody wants. “Sorry, I don’t think it’s going to work out” takes about 10 seconds to say. Common courtesy is lost on your generation.
It's not ideal but I don't think it's as bad as people make out. Goodbyes are awkward, are they not? No one really wants to be dumped, or be a dumper.
I think its a really careless thing to do to anyone. It may be hard to tell someone your feelings but I think by ghosting you are just taking the easy way out for yourself
If the person is behaving badly they deserve nothing from me... otherwise its best to be civilized and respond.
no. i would like and deserve an explanation. not left worrying maybe that person died or something bad happened. being more direct and honest is way more mature than just... leaving without a trace. it's disrespectful of that person's time.
Life's short live it up. If someone doesn't want anything to do with a person and just stops all contact look at it as less worry and problems done the road.
I work as a dancer in a club and I give my number out to literally hundreds of guys just to get a bigger tip from them. Ghosting is the best thing ever lol.
Sometimes ghosting really isn't. Go out once. No spark. Both leave with no plans for a second date. Is not calling to confirm you are not interested really ghosting?
I feel say is straight to the face. Cpwards ghost.
Once you know where you stand, then go your own ways.
But be careful who you ghost, as you might need them later
No one can force you to have basic decency if you don't want to.
Closure is always good. Ghosting ensures closure doesn't happen for the one being ghosted.
No. You should at least tell someone "this isn't working for me anymore and i'm done " rather than leaving them confused.
It's not, at least you get to meat the GhostBusters :P
No actually it's not you childish immature pos learn to grow up and show some maturity
It's not a good thing that's for sure.
It's cowardly, so yes.
Spoken like a typical Gen Z er.
@wellbye So you’re a Catfish
eh. i don't mind it tbh.
Not when truly necessary.
Is this society today?
agreed
You're a coward.
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