Is ghosting people a good or bad thing? If it's a good thing, then tell me why?

[ALewis30]

Yes

no

[AmandaYVR]

Unless a person has been particularly rude or knowingly offensive, ghosting is a coward's way out. People are using technology to avoid facing people and life's awkwardnesses.

Sometimes it gets the point across - I don't like you, or you did something I didn't like, don't do it again. But often people need information to understand how you perceive them, and what they did, and what you'd prefer they do and not do, going forward.

If two people go on a date and don't like each other, not contacting each other again is typical and common. But ghosting is a lousy method to 'correct' someone else's behaviour when they're irked. It shows very little patience and a whole lot of judgment, too. If someone's trying, and open to feedback, try giving it to them.

There's so many different circumstances, it's impossible to address them all and create one methodology that applies to all scenarios and people. But if society keeps going this direction - ghosting at the first sign of being annoyed or not liking one thing someone said or did - society will slowly crumble, on a social level. It's not a coincidence that the world is in a 'loneliness epidemic' right now. It was starting long before covid did.

[ChooChooHaha]

Doesn't matter if rude or offensive either. How about someone bothering to commu icate? You know?

[Pinay_ako]

Good, to lmk you ain’t worth it!
Ghost me, you’re automatically dead to me. ✌️
I don’t ghost people. I just fade away slowly because life happens, and I don’t need to explain. Unless you deserve it!

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think ghosting is sort of mandatory when you're dealing with someone that's just going to ask a bunch of questions and not want to accept any of the answers. Those kind of people are very similar to pushy telemarketers... on the same level as them in fact. Basically no other option. On the other hand though...

I've been ghosted, usually from a girl that was cheating on her man with me, and it just sent me into question mode myself simply because I didn't know any better. Women understand they can just tell me they were cheating on some dude, don't want to get caught, and I'll fuck off, right? I think it would be wiser if they didn't want me to blow up their phone with questions.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Bad thing.

Like how much of a rude asshole does one have to be to just suddenly stop talking.

Just say 'I'm not longer interested' and that's it, like how fucking hard can that be.

'But he'll get the message if I don't reply' - yeah, he'll get the message that you're a rude immature little dick too.

If your life is in danger or you're scared of getting hacked or stalked, then it's totally fine, but if you just can't be bothered to say no, then you're an asshole and I think it's a massive problem with online dating, at least I think it mostly happens then.

@MCheetah basically summed it up best.

[ChooChooHaha]

110%. He'll also get the message you're a coward. Not only rude and immature.

[coachTanthony]

Ghosting is never a good idea unless your safety is involved.

[invalid1]

This is an excellent question.
I find myself in the minority of men who think it is a good thing! Basically, principly... it is reciprocal! I mean we learn ghosting by being ghosted.
However, I 've come to realise that I don't hate the people I ghost! We happen to have different perceptions.. What I will have to say, and what they will see in my life which I post.. Is something perceived out of context of knowledge, background, and attitude. Simple as that!

I mean I have just ghosted two old friends... Because I didn't find social media helping our relationship! that clear? So yes, ghosting is a good thing! But it can be a bad thing if used just out of despise to people or some sort...

[PositiveFlight]

Ghosting people is immature and cruel. It says more about the person doing the ghosting that can’t just be straight up and honest. It’s common now days. This texting only climate has made it so most people can’t communicate properly. It’s caused people to be lazy with words and expressions. Unfortunately it has also caused people to be reckless in their relationships to where they can’t even own up to or answer tough situations. It’s a way to not have to take accountability through being a coward instead.

[ALewis30]

I agree with you. I wish things go back how things used to be.

[ManOnFire]

Ghosting is one of the worst forms of escaping a situation. And it tells you an incredible amount about such a person. Once they ghost you, block them so they can never try to come back, because ghosters often try to. Don't ever let a person back into your life who could walk out in such a cruel way.

[RangerBlue22]

Yeah I had a former female “friend” who ghosted me and then tried to reconnect 2 years later. When she first messaged me I was curious what she would say. She acted like nothing is wrong and I proceeded to call her every name in the book, told her to pound sand and then blocked her ass for good.

[ManOnFire]

@RangerBlue22 Wowwww. It's so crazy the way ghosters will actually still be thinking about you, even though they were the ones who wanted to cut you off. And then think they can just pop up when they want to.

[RangerBlue22]

If she would of owned up to her bullshit and apologized I might (emphasize “might”) of carefully forgiven her. But instead she acted like nothing was wrong and her fakeness infuriated me.

I knew this girl for over 10 years. Ironically she was very mature, honest and cool when I knew her when she was 20/21. When I connected of her later she actually retrogressed and got much worse. She became a “modern” selfish pos.

For example she told me she was planning to stand up a guy on a date JUST because he called her “babe” twice in a text message. I read the entire message and while he was being flirty he never mentioned sex or anything creepy.

I told her it was fine to cancel the date but at least give him the common courtesy of knowing she couldn’t make it. If she was so deathly afraid of his response then block him AFTER sending it. She then got all squeamish and uncomfortable. She knew I was right but she wanted to indulge in her selfishness.

So as it turns out he texted her to cancel which left her all relieved. But I then told her “look he had the courtesy to let you know you couldn’t make it. What were you planning on doing?”

Anyway she’s a picture perfect of how modern culture has brought the worst out in women.

[ManOnFire]

@RangerBlue22 You are very right about that. Especially the fact that she wanted to stand him up simply because he kept calling her "babe." That is very much like modern women to get in their feelings about stuff like that and make a thing out of it. The mature thing to do would've been to honestly tell the guy something like "Hey, I'm not too comfortable with you calling me babe and we haven't even dated yet." Instead chicks like that just want to have a reason to be rude and discourteous to a guy.

Hell, yeah you did the right thing by blocking her when she tried to reach out again.

[RangerBlue22]

It’s sad. Really sad. Because she was very different when I knew her back when she was much younger. Ironically I became friends because she was very mature at 21. She wouldn’t of done that back then.

Then she just went full Benjamin Button.

Anyway if women want me to improve then they need look in the mirror about their behavior. You want a man to put the effort into dating you? Well maybe tell your friends to stop being cunts to innocent guys just because they lost interest. Men aren’t going to put in effort if they are going to risk getting ghosted.

[ChooChooHaha]

@RangerBlue22 😀😍😎

[ChooChooHaha]

❤❤ AWESOME!

[RangerBlue22]

@ChooChooHaha thanks. In retrospect I bitched quite a bit above. Trying to be more positive nowadays lol.

Anyway there are consequences to shitty behavior no matter who you are. Some people need to learn that. If someone decides to ghost me then i help them KEEP that decision if they try to reach out to me later. Especially if they act like they forgot what they did.

[ChooChooHaha]

@RangerBlue22 SAME!

[TheVigilantOne]

I don’t call it ghosting as it sounds silly I just say ignoring someone as that’s what you’re really doing and it depends on the situation.


If you don’t want to talk to someone then say you don’t want to know them anymore it’s easier and that person can move on but…. If it’s like say someone you’ve been with a long time who’s nasty ie abusive then ignoring them might be the only way.


I told my then partner I didn’t want to be with them anymore due to the abuse I suffered at their hands nothing I said took effect so I just started ignoring them and it worked the only problem I’m Facing now is harassment due to me leaving first, but that’s narcissists for you.

[liligigi]

It depends. You should tell the person that you want to stop the communication if this person was respectful of your boundaries in the past. But some people are abusive, or disrespectful or just don't respect boundaries (don't take no for an answer for example), and these people don't deserve an explanation or a farewell.

[Moose304]

Ghosting in my opinion is the act of an immature person. I don't do it, yes I have been known to block a person. If I go out on a date and get bad vibes I won't call her back, but if she makes contact I will return the contact at least once making sure she understands I am not interested. If she does not respect that I get a court order. But ghost? No!

[Anonymous]

Yes yes if someone ghosts you then you can conclude they are a selfish POS ya de yah.

But who exactly enjoys the process of discovering someone is a selfish pos? Also if you ghost someone you can selfishly assume they “know exactly why” and more often then not they don’t.

Also if more and more people do this to each other in society then how can we expect to trust and commit to people.

About 5 years ago I dated a younger woman and she completely ghosted me after 9 months. I knew it wasn’t going to last long. I also knew with the age gap that outcome was impossible so i was semi mentally prepared for it. But it still hurt. Hurt a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

*wasn’t impossible.

[Blueeyes81]

Being ghosted by someone you barley know is doing you a favor. People make it out to be this soul crushing experience but in reality it just saved you a lot of time. The point of dating is to get to know someone, well they just showed their colors. It's that simple. Consider yourself lucky and move on to someone else.

[purplepoppy]

It can be a good thing. Some people are too stupid to waste breath on arguing with and it's better to just say bye and move on and ignore. Not every problem is worth sorting out

[Jimrat86]

How about changing it to say " Ghosting after agreeing to meet up". If someone says one thing then does another, I think it speaks more to their character. There are some situations where it is just easier to cut it off, but habitual ghosting is a problem that needs to be addressed. Makes paying for all these apps a complete waste of money for people who are actually serious.

[Msputiton]

Neither it's just a thing that happens.

I mean if you ghost someone you been dating seriously or a really closefriend. Wow that's bad.

But most people ghost people they barely care about.

The person being ghosted gets really upset about it. I think that person needs to take a deeper look at themselves.

Because it most likely is an indication as to why that person ghosted you in the first place.

[Aerissa_Jade]

People that ghost just show how childish they are, that they can't be adults. and respect others enough to at least say, screw you I'm done and never talking to you and then block them.

[menina]

It's bad. If you don't want to talk to someone just tell them. Being honest and open is better than simply disappearing.

Unless the other person is dangerous.

[ChooChooHaha]

Terrible and cheap.

"I'm not going to talk to you." How about you own your shit, get a backbone, and speak to someone like a human being, not just disappear.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Both. It's good if the person won't listen and is destroying you mentally. If you already warned them plenty of times and don't get the message, it's time to let go.

[MCheetah]

No, it's a bad thing. It's what immature, narcissistic, cowardly losers do, and people like that deserve to be alone, since respect and manners is too difficult for them.

[ChooChooHaha]

BASIC communication is too hard for them.

[MystiKaL]

People who chat and lead someone on, then cut them off without reason, are absolutely pathetic and I have zero time for them. There is a word to describe these people. C*nt.

[DoctorSex]

Know what you want in life and go for it. If the person asks for an explanation then give it. But your time and your attention is the most precious commodities you have.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[BellaB8466]

I found ghosting from a guy right off the bat is better than a guy who dragged me for 2 weeks and texted me. pretended to like me then blocked me. like to ghost someone right away is more honest.