Is ghosting people a good or bad thing? If it's a good thing, then tell me why?

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AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Unless a person has been particularly rude or knowingly offensive, ghosting is a coward's way out. People are using technology to avoid facing people and life's awkwardnesses.

Sometimes it gets the point across - I don't like you, or you did something I didn't like, don't do it again. But often people need information to understand how you perceive them, and what they did, and what you'd prefer they do and not do, going forward.

If two people go on a date and don't like each other, not contacting each other again is typical and common. But ghosting is a lousy method to 'correct' someone else's behaviour when they're irked. It shows very little patience and a whole lot of judgment, too. If someone's trying, and open to feedback, try giving it to them.

There's so many different circumstances, it's impossible to address them all and create one methodology that applies to all scenarios and people. But if society keeps going this direction - ghosting at the first sign of being annoyed or not liking one thing someone said or did - society will slowly crumble, on a social level. It's not a coincidence that the world is in a 'loneliness epidemic' right now. It was starting long before covid did.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Good, to lmk you ain’t worth it!
Ghost me, you’re automatically dead to me. ✌️
I don’t ghost people. I just fade away slowly because life happens, and I don’t need to explain. Unless you deserve it!

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I think ghosting is sort of mandatory when you're dealing with someone that's just going to ask a bunch of questions and not want to accept any of the answers. Those kind of people are very similar to pushy telemarketers... on the same level as them in fact. Basically no other option. On the other hand though...

I've been ghosted, usually from a girl that was cheating on her man with me, and it just sent me into question mode myself simply because I didn't know any better. Women understand they can just tell me they were cheating on some dude, don't want to get caught, and I'll fuck off, right? I think it would be wiser if they didn't want me to blow up their phone with questions.

TheUniqueOne96 · Accepted Answer

Bad thing.

Like how much of a rude asshole does one have to be to just suddenly stop talking.

Just say 'I'm not longer interested' and that's it, like how fucking hard can that be.

'But he'll get the message if I don't reply' - yeah, he'll get the message that you're a rude immature little dick too.

If your life is in danger or you're scared of getting hacked or stalked, then it's totally fine, but if you just can't be bothered to say no, then you're an asshole and I think it's a massive problem with online dating, at least I think it mostly happens then.

@MCheetah basically summed it up best.

coachTanthony · Answer

Ghosting is never a good idea unless your safety is involved.

invalid1 · Answer

This is an excellent question.
I find myself in the minority of men who think it is a good thing! Basically, principly... it is reciprocal! I mean we learn ghosting by being ghosted.
However, I 've come to realise that I don't hate the people I ghost! We happen to have different perceptions.. What I will have to say, and what they will see in my life which I post.. Is something perceived out of context of knowledge, background, and attitude. Simple as that!

I mean I have just ghosted two old friends... Because I didn't find social media helping our relationship! that clear? So yes, ghosting is a good thing! But it can be a bad thing if used just out of despise to people or some sort...

PositiveFlight · Answer

Ghosting people is immature and cruel. It says more about the person doing the ghosting that can’t just be straight up and honest. It’s common now days. This texting only climate has made it so most people can’t communicate properly. It’s caused people to be lazy with words and expressions. Unfortunately it has also caused people to be reckless in their relationships to where they can’t even own up to or answer tough situations. It’s a way to not have to take accountability through being a coward instead.

ManOnFire · Answer

Ghosting is one of the worst forms of escaping a situation. And it tells you an incredible amount about such a person. Once they ghost you, block them so they can never try to come back, because ghosters often try to. Don't ever let a person back into your life who could walk out in such a cruel way.

TheVigilantOne · Answer

I don’t call it ghosting as it sounds silly I just say ignoring someone as that’s what you’re really doing and it depends on the situation.

If you don’t want to talk to someone then say you don’t want to know them anymore it’s easier and that person can move on but…. If it’s like say someone you’ve been with a long time who’s nasty ie abusive then ignoring them might be the only way.

I told my then partner I didn’t want to be with them anymore due to the abuse I suffered at their hands nothing I said took effect so I just started ignoring them and it worked the only problem I’m Facing now is harassment due to me leaving first, but that’s narcissists for you.

liligigi · Answer

It depends. You should tell the person that you want to stop the communication if this person was respectful of your boundaries in the past. But some people are abusive, or disrespectful or just don't respect boundaries (don't take no for an answer for example), and these people don't deserve an explanation or a farewell.

Moose304 · Answer

Ghosting in my opinion is the act of an immature person. I don't do it, yes I have been known to block a person. If I go out on a date and get bad vibes I won't call her back, but if she makes contact I will return the contact at least once making sure she understands I am not interested. If she does not respect that I get a court order. But ghost? No!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes yes if someone ghosts you then you can conclude they are a selfish POS ya de yah.

But who exactly enjoys the process of discovering someone is a selfish pos? Also if you ghost someone you can selfishly assume they “know exactly why” and more often then not they don’t.

Also if more and more people do this to each other in society then how can we expect to trust and commit to people.

About 5 years ago I dated a younger woman and she completely ghosted me after 9 months. I knew it wasn’t going to last long. I also knew with the age gap that outcome was impossible so i was semi mentally prepared for it. But it still hurt. Hurt a lot.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Being ghosted by someone you barley know is doing you a favor. People make it out to be this soul crushing experience but in reality it just saved you a lot of time. The point of dating is to get to know someone, well they just showed their colors. It's that simple. Consider yourself lucky and move on to someone else.

purplepoppy · Answer

It can be a good thing. Some people are too stupid to waste breath on arguing with and it's better to just say bye and move on and ignore. Not every problem is worth sorting out

Jimrat86 · Answer

How about changing it to say " Ghosting after agreeing to meet up". If someone says one thing then does another, I think it speaks more to their character. There are some situations where it is just easier to cut it off, but habitual ghosting is a problem that needs to be addressed. Makes paying for all these apps a complete waste of money for people who are actually serious.

Msputiton · Answer

Neither it's just a thing that happens.

I mean if you ghost someone you been dating seriously or a really closefriend. Wow that's bad.

But most people ghost people they barely care about.

The person being ghosted gets really upset about it. I think that person needs to take a deeper look at themselves.

Because it most likely is an indication as to why that person ghosted you in the first place.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

People that ghost just show how childish they are, that they can't be adults. and respect others enough to at least say, screw you I'm done and never talking to you and then block them.

menina · Answer

It's bad. If you don't want to talk to someone just tell them. Being honest and open is better than simply disappearing. Unless the other person is dangerous.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Terrible and cheap. "I'm not going to talk to you." How about you own your shit, get a backbone, and speak to someone like a human being, not just disappear.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Both. It's good if the person won't listen and is destroying you mentally. If you already warned them plenty of times and don't get the message, it's time to let go.

MCheetah · Answer

No, it's a bad thing. It's what immature, narcissistic, cowardly losers do, and people like that deserve to be alone, since respect and manners is too difficult for them.

MystiKaL · Answer

People who chat and lead someone on, then cut them off without reason, are absolutely pathetic and I have zero time for them. There is a word to describe these people. C*nt.

DoctorSex · Answer

Know what you want in life and go for it. If the person asks for an explanation then give it. But your time and your attention is the most precious commodities you have. Kind regards, DoctorSex

BellaB8466 · Answer

I found ghosting from a guy right off the bat is better than a guy who dragged me for 2 weeks and texted me. pretended to like me then blocked me. like to ghost someone right away is more honest.

nspencer · Answer

No not even if I went on a date with someone one time and they keep reaching out and I’m not feeling it. I’ll just be sorry this won’t work out. Ghosting is so cowardly.

melanieeeB · Answer

It can be good and it can be hurtful, fact is that person didn't wanted to communicate and they're letting you go, not playing anymore games and just disappearing.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. People should know why they have been rejected, especially if they never have been rude or aggressive.

shaysh87 · Answer

ghosting means you have no courtesy, consideration or problem-solving skills

bubblegunnn · Answer

Nah its not. If u lost interest then tell them. They r have feeling too

Bethany22 · Answer

It's a bad thing. Dark modesty is what I call it

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I don't really care. If you ghost me I know you're not worth it anyways.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Move on and don't cry about it 😂. Obviously someone who ghosts you doesn't deserve you anyways.

Blackcupcake · Answer

it depends… if it’s a creep then yes. if it’s a normal person then proper communication is better than ghosting.

boggboss · Answer

Terrble it tends to leave the other part pretty fucked up

Staximus · Answer

The only appropriate time to ghost someone is if they are toxic, a danger, or unacceptable liability to you, but I would still tell them first because I have a big mouth

Anonymous · Answer

Ghosting is the coward’s way out. If someone is so afraid of having an awkward conversation then there is not much of anything they’re actually capable of doing.

Jltakk · Answer

Absolutely not a good thing. It shows an inability to communicate truthfully your intentions to another person.

ZenJen444 · Answer

Depends, I usually ghost drama kings and queens, gossipers, insecure , jealous, and people who aren't doing nothing with their loves. They know their behavior is poor so I owe them no explanation

MountAverage · Answer

Strange question. Kinda implies that it can only be inherently bad or inherently good. That's just silly.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Rude. Weird. Only people who are messed up psychologically do it. So if you get ghosted you really dodged a bullet.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Not a good thing, but sometimes has to be done.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I think ghosting is a bad thing. Why can't people be honest?

Anonymous · Answer

It's bad. But it's not that bad. Once you've been ghosted many times you should be used to it. It still sucks, but it's just part of the impersonal world we live in.

Rania05 · Answer

Because it's annoying and very impolite of an act

BJP21 · Answer

If you are suspecting a online romance scam, ghosting is your best line of defense.

Luopio27 · Answer

There are too many people who dont take no for an answer.

lottiebannotie · Answer

It's not a good thing but if it happens regularly to you check yourself

Wise4myage · Answer

Its a bad thing because it leaves people feeling bad and wondering why it happened.

freakygirl24 · Answer

It's definitely not a good thing. You should be straightforward no matter what. Ghosting is for cowards.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

It's good thing, only insecure people think its bad thing.

Sere1706 · Answer

It is a bad thing unless you do it because the person you’ll be ghosting is a freak or potentially dangerous person. In that case ghosting is the way.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes it's better than dealing with them

sheikalana · Answer

I believe it's a very mean thing to do.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I can't stand people who ghost

DiegoO · Answer

It's coward and cruel.

es20490446e · Answer

Short answers.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes it has to be done.

Vivaldi · Answer

I don't believe in ghosts.

Nominal · Answer

Its a bad thing.

pascalfornalz · Answer

It's bad if it's unwarranted.

Iron_Man · Answer

Bad thing

EaterPeter · Answer

No but again depends

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