Is ghosting ever justified… or is it always disrespectful?

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Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

I absolutely have ghosted people before, especially on this app when they turned out to be a fake pink account or blue account that just asks sexual questions and is obviously a pervert.

I don't find it to be a issue in those cases as I don't feel like I owe them an explanation. They should just be normal human beings and treat me with some modicum of respect. So for cases like that, I think it's justified.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

For the most part it's disrespectful but there are cases where ghosting is the only way. Like if that person did something very disrespectful or mean to you or downright abusive then it makes sense to ghost them.

ohsheeT · Answer

2 people start out as friends and if thing happens and one person doesn't believe that that relationship is for them? There's no reason to just walk away. I meanyou can say, Hey, explain yourself, be calm. It doesn't mean that you hate the person. It just means that there's pieces and parts that are not compatible. It doesn't mean you can't be friends , but

A lot of The Times there's one person that's hurt. And instead of trying to understand it or think about it , they're hurt , and they want to argue and fight and

I think if one person did something just totally wrong to the other person , it's fine , just not to even say goodbye , just go because there doesn't need to be any more communication after that

DishLady · Answer

It's always disrespectful. The ONE exception is when someone's so toxic their texts seem like they're possessed. THEN just block them and don't look back.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It’s always disrespectful, and sometimes justified. Justifications don’t make behavior less antisocial, only more forgivable.

Anonymous · Answer

I think we first need to define what ghosting is. Because if you're a woman and you message me, and I don't respond. I did not GHOST you. I rejected you. Same if the roles were reversed. And I bring this up because there can be differing opinions on what a "relationship", "situationship", "friendship" is. EVERYONE is deserving of at the very least a modicum of respect. And you should be honest with people. But some people are more cognizant of other people's feelings than others. And some people take more responsibility than others.

I personally have always appreciated it when a woman is honest with me. As I told a woman who EVENTUALLY😆, rejected me once. "Would you rather take 5 bullets to the stomach and bleed to death slowly, or take one bullet to the head and die right away". By avoiding rejection or "ghosting" a guy you're only prolonging the inevitable. He's still going to feel the same pain you're just dragging it out and probably making it worse.

Now I DO understand some women will use the excuse that rejection makes some guys angry. So by ghosting it's safer for them. Let me clue you into a secret (that I don't think is a secret) EVERY GUY GETS ANGRY AT REJECTION.😆 I've gotten angry at every rejection I've taken. But not necessarily always at her. Sometimes I was angry at myself. "How did I misread her"? Sometimes I was angry at her "why did she lead me on" (some women do do that). a lot of the times I was just hurt. And as a guy you cannot show hurt. Women can cry, men cannot. That is not an acceptable emotion to show weakness. So we show anger instead. But no matter whether I've been angry or not I've NEVER EVER directed it at HER! Because a man should be a man and swallow it.

The point is there is a price for EVERYTHING you do in life, both good and bad. And sometimes it is justified and sometimes it is NOT. It doesn't change the fact that you should ALWAYS do the right thing. I wouldn't say ghosting is NEVER justified. I would say it's generally not justified. Like if someone has messaged you 300 times and you've told them in every way possible that you're not interested. Than I could see ghosting them. Hell at that point you should have long since blocked them (if you have that capability). But I think this is why "ghosting" is such an issue today. It is assumed that the other person is deliberately baiting another person. Waiting till they're hooked, and then ignoring them. And I have no patience for these types of games. I think too many people today think this is acceptable behavior. If I suspect you're doing this I just cut you out of my life, and move on.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Ghosting often isn't as bad as we might think. Let's say someone is messaging you and you don't want to hear it, or you don't care to communicate with them. We can say, "Hey, I don't really care to hear from you", and lay out the reasons. The person might feel awful that they did something to bother us or whatever. And the situation might not really have warranted being that harsh. Ghosting is just a low key way of saying, "Hey I'm not really interested in being in contact".

Screenwriter · Answer

If it's someone you have little to no connection to, just letting TALK drop isn't that big of a deal. One would assume after a week or two, someone simply isn't interested. So, letting a new, non-serious chat relationship wane seems fairly harmless.

Ghosting someone you've know for years with no, "Look this isn't working. We've tried, but goodbye." seems harsh. There shouldn't be some long, drawn out "explanation" but some effort at closure.

If a person was a sincere friend and someone you've been with through thick and thin,, just stopping contacting them seems lazy and chickenshit. Be an adult and say thanks and good-bye. After that, no further response is necessary.

dragoblack · Answer

I understand why women do it, and it's because there are too many men that flip switch from compliments to verbal abuse when rejected. But in matters of just ghosting, when trying to get to know eachother or even having a person to person conversation, it is incredibly rude. And when it comes to dating apps, if a woman just isn't interested, just dislike or unmatch, it's better than false hope by staying matched.

MrChinaski · Answer

Disrespectful doesn't do it justice. 'Evil', 'Cowardly', 'Depraved', 'Morally bereft' ... all useful words. (Other than in the tiny share of cases where there are safety/harassment issues.) I mean how hard is it to text 'This isn't working. I think it's best we don't talk anymore'?

Zack-Bann · Answer

I think ghosting someone you haven’t met in person and barely talked to is ok.
It’s part of the game in a way

But ghosting someone you know or someone you already agreed to meet in some context is a dick move no matter what
There’s no excuse that makes ghosting an ok solution in those cases

snowboarder720 · Answer

It’s very very very disrespectful and a defensive mechanism. Communication is key and ghosting dissolves that.

It’s not disrespectful to say “I’m feeling a lot of things right now and I need time to process some things to myself and I’ll get back with you after X hours.” Whatever the time may be. Just ghosting them is how you literally destroy relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

I only ghosted 1 person. She left a few things out of her dating profile, like her grandfather was a grand dragon to the kkk. I also worked in law enforcement and the girl I was dating had her ex and uncle incarcerated at the institution I worked in. This is a conflict of interest, so I ghosted her for three weeks. After ghosting her for three weeks, I finally told her that it was over, and she proceeded to tell me if she ever saw me again, her family would ensure I’d be in a shallow grave after they put a hole through my chest with a shotgun.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

I don't think it's ever forgivable. If something happened, emergency, or something like that, a simple phone call is enough. But completely ghosting without explination, is cuz they don't care enough about you to be worried about your feelings. So, they are not worth 2nd guessing yourself. His loss.

WonderingManII · Answer

I think 90% of the time ghosting is a bad thing to do to someone. I know for a fact that most of the time I got ghosted, I did nothing wrong! I think they just decided that something I said made them feel uncomfortable, and instead of dealing with it, they just vanish.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I almost prefer ghosting if it's short-term, whatever the reason is that person doesn't want to see. You is not worth any stress. Long-term though it's fucked up.

Still-alive · Answer

Ghosting to me is more harmful than telling the person you aren’t interested directly. It can still hurt but allows me to move on quicker.

These two scenarios are the circumstances where i see ghosting being ok

- you feel like they might get violent and afraid for your physical safety if you reject them

- you have explicitly told them not to violate your boundaries but they do anyways

other than that just be a man or woman and tell them! 😤

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s only justified if the person is actually threatening or at least insulting to you. Otherwise you should at least give them the courtesy of telling them off and telling them why you won’t be talking to them anymore.

molonski2 · Answer

My opinion  It's a very realistic and function manner to express a point , often justified = yes , and why should there be a need for absolutes? Ever  Better to ghost.

msc545 · Answer

I think it was definitely easier since dating apps became a thing. It's been a lot harder. Of course, there are other factors that contributed to it being harder too.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes. Most of the time it's is rude and immature, if intentional. I've only done it by accident.

Billlewis · Answer

I think it depends on whom you ask; nowadays, ghosting is an almost exclusively female phenomenon.

Shy-boy53 · Answer

Personally I think it’s disrespectful, if you have run out of things to say to the other person you should at least be honest and tell them. It just leaves a lot of open ends in a way if you don’t

jshm2 · Answer

Ghosting isn't really a thing at all. There is no "law" that says you must talk to someone who has talked with you.

exitseven · Answer

I would say it is always disrespectful. It shows cowardness and a lack of courtesy. I ghosted somebody once. I regret doing this.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Naive people are easily stressed over unimportant things.

Anonymous · Answer

It sucks a lot. Has happened to me on here too many times with people I really enjoy talking to.

ABitShattered · Answer

If you're having a great connection then dropping off the face of the earth I think that's wrong. Give as much to your departure as you can to at least have some opportunity for closure.

fonduegirl · Answer

Justified if the person has explicitly asked you to leave them alone but you don't listen

WilliamPamer446 · Answer

It is sometimes but you have to face conflict or "edgy talk"

genericname85 · Answer

personally i don't care tbh. everyone does it. why do you need them to tell you that they're not into you, when ghosting makes that obvious?

Siggie2 · Answer

It is justified if you want to break contact with someone. If you want to keep the relationship/friendship then it's disrespectful

Snowman84 · Answer

I would always end a relationship properly. It seems unnecessary cruel.

Brady · Answer

Sometimes peopl don't want 2 tell someone no, it's ovr. They don't want 2 make someone feel bad. Someone ghosted will get it.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's disrespectful but sometimes it's justified in some specific cases...

Phoenix98 · Answer

The vast majority of the time it's disrespectful however in rare cases it can be justified.

AydenHazor · Answer

Generally it's disrespectful, but if you've already set boundaries that they're crossing anyway then you're justified to cut off all contact for good

Zionne · Answer

i don't reply to all messages, especially when i don't know the person

Tonita91996 · Answer

People do a lot of rude things but it’s not going to stop them from doing it. Nothing you can do to prevent it.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Always disrespectful. I'd rather be told to shut the fuck up or something pertaining towards that than be ghosted.

Dullie · Answer

Well if the person was genuinely busy thats a justification

sage2021 · Answer

It's usually not justified.

Shiprex · Answer

Disrespectful 100% it's also immature

loveslongnails · Answer

It's just cowardice in electronic form.

AgentG111 · Answer

To a degree it's completely fine!

Alexalex92 · Answer

Disrespectful 😞

wkksjdjfjg · Answer

Disrespect without a valid reason.

RavVid · Answer

It is always rude.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a sign of a coward personality.

Hopeless30 · Answer

Nope its rude 😒

In_Trance · Answer

It's justified

CubaPirate · Answer

Nope 🙅‍♂️

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