Why do girls act interested then suddenly date someone else instead of me?

[Anonymous]

Hello i am 20 years old and i never had a girlfriend!!!

I don't easily fall for someone and i could probably count girls i really liked on finger

The problem is that i follow same exact patern and it happened 3 times in my life

I liked girl and then there was texting, hugging each other, teasing, having great moments together, one would think that everything is perfect and out of nowhere she gets a boyfriend!

Am i doing something wrong? They act like they like me for a long time and then this shift happends, i can't believe that i am giving friend vibes i am clearly trying to engage and have moments

My personality can be hard to understand and it's like i am wearing a mask, maybe i need to be more expressing, It's just that i amnot bad looking and i am probably the most loyal guy there is, i am funny, smart and tall, don't drink, don't smoke, on my way of becoming f ing olimpics champion, not saying that they should like me for thoese reasons only but, can't say that i am rad flag, some horrible guy either,

There were a lot of girls who were trying to ask me out and said they liked me, so i can't be that bad 😂

It is so easy to understand every single human beeing, but when i like the girl i have no idea what is she thinking and feeling or whatever she is doing, i feel like i am total failure when it comes to girls and i shouldn't even try no more because, it always ends with my heart getting broken

[lilBigPotato]

"They act like they like me for a long time and then this shift happends"

Maybe don't let them wait for a very long time until you make a proper move... They might lose interest or think you're not interested. Or you just were reading the situation wrong and they weren't interested in more than friendship to begin with 🤷‍♀️

[HollyK21]

It sounds like too much time is passing without you actually asking them out, and if that’s the case then what’s stopping you?

[Asker]

I am taking some steps and building up connection, i can't just drop i like you out of nowhere, i initiate creating moments to hang out and try to get more physical

[HollyK21]

Respectfully dude, I don’t think that method is really working in your favor. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely agree with the idea of not rushing into something. However, by trying to go about that strategic sort of waiting game you play, it ultimately seems to plant you right in the friendzone.

Personally I feel like the greater chunk of creating special moments, hanging out and all that other stuff comes after establishing that you are interested in one another and would like to pursue something. That does not mean hop, skip, jump into a relationship, it simply means that the intention has clearly been set when it comes to time being invested in one another. Without intention, there’s no direction and it leaves room for you to be on one page and her on another; aka while you think you’re relaying romantic interest with the moments you’re creating and whatever else, on her end you’re just a guy she’s becoming friends with.

I see no issue with asking a woman on a date, it’s not asking for her hand in marriage, it’s not even asking for a relationship on the spot. It’s just setting a tone and helping you determine what happens next rather than stumbling along blindly.

[Mark_Est]

Cause they are low value modern women / std farmers.

Dont waste your tine on them. Look for feminine friendly virgins only. They will make for a great girlfriend and your life will be so much simpler/smoother going forward.

Dont simp on some scrap that look good under all that fakery but infact are fully rotten

[WhitneySnow]

Congrats on almost being an Olympic champion. If you make it in 2028 you’ll have all the girls you could ever want (though whether you like any of them back is a different question).