I feel like I might have scared her?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a girl long distance for a couple of months, fairly steady too I might add. Like every few days we’ll send a short but substantial message to each other. She mentioned she was interested but confessed that she was nervous about the idea of meeting up but that she would love to, still. I tried to just tell her not to worry, it’s ok because I am too. But we continued talking and opening up about little things here and there. Always very pleasant messages.

But now that the time is getting closer to meet up, she’s pulled away it seems without any response. Is she getting scared? I’m nervous too, I think she seems really great. I’d be really disappointed if this is how things fall off. 😞

[WhitneySnow]

She’s really nervous but it doesn’t sound like anything you did scared her

[Asker]

She seemed that she was being very intentional talking to me, based on the things she’s said. Like I just wonder if I’m coming across as “too good to be true” or something and it’s making her feel a certain way. I know that she at least thinks I’m a good guy based on our conversations.

I don’t know what to do aside from just give her space right now. Maybe I’m just starting to bore her. I don't know.

[WhitneySnow]

I hate the word intentional

She’s just nervous. Reassure her that there’s no pressure for you guys to meet.

[Asker]

So do I lol but it’s the buzzword going around these days 🤦‍♂️

[WhitneySnow]

It literally just means you didn’t do it by accident

Just follow my advice and she’ll probably calm down

[Asker]

What am I supposed to make of this though? Can I be more approachable, if that’s the right word?

I’ve had other girls cancel on me last minute too. It doesn’t feel like it but I just wonder if I’m maybe doing something wrong.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure. I don’t think it was something you did.

Reassure her that there’s no pressure to meet and a lot of her fears will go away.

[Asker]

Thanks @whitneysnow

[Asker]

Damn… she unmatched me.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m sorry. I guess she wasn’t interested in meeting you in real life.