Is love at first sight real, or is it always just lust that grows?

[MissSunshine2]

My grandparents were two exceptionally sexy people, from their youth, into their elderly years. They looked remarkable. My granddad met my nan at a party. She was a stunningly beautiful woman, especially when she was young. In a really earthy way, big melting chocolate brown eyes and a mass of thick, wavy dark hair. The moment my granddad laid eyes on her when they were young people at a friend's party, he told one of his friends that she was the woman who was going to become his wife. Then, he made her his wife. Do you believe he experienced love at first sight, or lust at first sight? I'm not exaggerating at all about my grandparents' good looks. The rest of my family are attractive, but those two were exceptionally hot from their photos. They passed some time ago, so they won't read this.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you tell me that you just met someone for the first time and you are in love, my question is, "What is it that you love about this person?" Everything that you tell me with either be something about their appearance, or something that you assumed, based on their appearance. That is called lust + fantasy. Sometimes those feelings develop into something stronger, sometimes they don't.

[serious]

No. Absolutely not true. There is nothing like love at first sight. That is a just a movie and fairytale concept. In reality love can never happen at the first sight. Yes, physical attraction can surely happen on the first sight but the next step will be getting to know the person (personality) and love is something that develops over time and not at the very first sight.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[lilBigPotato]

Unless you're incredibly shallow and only care about looks, love at first sight is impossible. At most you feel strong attraction and then the person happens to be amazing and it develops into proper love. But it could also be that you crush hard on their looks and then the first time they open their mouth they just talk bullshit and you lose all interest.

[_Jenny_]

@MissSunshine2 it must grow on you

[_Jenny_]

@MissSunshine2 Thank you Miss Sunshine for the MHO

[mstbooblover]

Falling genuinely in love happens first of all in the mind, and is something one cannot control. Lust, which is a logic result, comes also of course, but not immediately.

There is nevertheless a subtle difference between love at first sight, and at first sight craving for sex. The former concerns the person, the latter only the body.

[HelpfulWoman_]

Love at first sight is just a male visual cortex malfunctioning so badly he mistakes your existence for a snack. It’s not romance, it’s a territorial claim disguised as poetry.

[Nikki1989]

Intense attraction, 100%.

Love? That is really a stretch. Love needs time to grow.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he experienced infatuation at first sight, which is not the same thing as lust. Then it slowly grew into real love.

[NathanDavis]

I also stopped reading after "sexy grandparents" lmfao...

[sawno]

Lust that grows, you can't love someone for who they are at first sight.

[sage2021]

Nowadays it's lust.

In the olden days it was real love just like your grandparents had.

[AngryCarl3]

Lust at first sight is definitely real. Love takes a little longer.

[Staximus]

I think it’s bullshit, you can’t love somebody you don’t even know. It’s just infatuation

[Anonymous]

How did she look? How tall was she? Sounds like lust

[Anonymous]

Yes it can be real or let your eyes and lust just deceive you