Girl I really like just came back into my life, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

hadn't seen her for a bit but she just returned home , i want her so badly to be honest nothing else really matters other then being with her.

to explain we've never liked dated or had sex or even like kissed but we spend a lot of time together and she seems to like my attention

i'm torn what to do next , should i try for something that involves just us like an actual date or time together or just be open with her about my desire to be with her

i don't want just sex like an actual relationship that lasts for a long time

Updates

20 d

haven't seen her since i saw her on Monday , do run into some of her girlfriend's at her work though but they never talk to me about her and so i'm not entirely sure what is going on , hope to see her again this weekend but expectations are kind of low at this point

[slatyb]

How hard is this. You've met her before. "It's not side to see you back. Would you like to join me for coffee/lunch/dinner?" Whatever works for you, just ask her.

[Asker]

i agree the next step is getting her to agree to do something with me outside of the place that we normally see each other , just not sure what that could be

also concerned about local people as was other girls i talked to ( didn't date or have sex with but did flirt ) when she wasn't around and who might of though were interested in them don't want to go to a place they work with her , so may have to avoid certain places for now

[slatyb]

What? Take her wherever you want.

[slatyb]

You sound like you are still in high school.

[Nikki1989]

Another one for the "why the hell was this posted anonymously" file.

[Asker]

so i could open up more without worrying about who reads it

[Mariogirl09]

Ask her on a date

[Asker]

i know but what and where? its summer here so lots of options but everything is so expensive , i really could not spend more than $150 and one of those people who aren't really into spending money to impress someone

[Mariogirl09]

A cute picnic date... bowling... go to the park and walk... maybe go to the lake with a couple of beers.. lol there's plenty of cool and fun things to do that arnt expensive... or maybe save up for it?

[Asker]

won't have time to save up its going to have to be soon

there are some cute parks here on the water and such , i could picture us doing that , the bowling alley here closed a year or so ago , there isn't even a movie theatre anymore either but is one is a nearby town 30 minutes away

some of the stuff she is into is seriously girly like dance , yoga , i can't see myself doing either

[Mariogirl09]

How about paint and sip. Get painting supplies and a little bubbly l. Good luck!

[Asker]

i don't know if she's into art at all , not really my thing.

don't think the date has to be anything special , it be special just cause it be our first time doing something like that together but not sure what it should be

i need to think more and perhaps come up with something

[WhitneySnow]

Ask her out

[Asker]

but what? where and is she like expecting me to do something?

[WhitneySnow]

Like ask if you can take her out on a date

[Asker]

but what kind of date? we live in a small town , almost need a change of venue for this , feel like anywhere we'd go here she or me is going to know half the people

[WhitneySnow]

What’s wrong with that? Though I suppose a change of venue couldn’t hurt.

[Asker]

our town is a rumour mill , i guarantee is already abunch of people who know that i saw her today at her work and that obvious i want to get with her

[WhitneySnow]

Well, asking her out on a date doesn’t imply that you want to get with her (unless that’s really why you asked her out). But if you or her are worried about it, just go to the next town over or a nearby city.

[Asker]

when gas cheaper might of been possible to go a nearby city but just the gas might be like $60-$80 alone so getting a little pricey

might be a couple small restaurants in the countryside that were not as familiar in that we could go to and not be as noticed , wouldn't be as far a drive

[WhitneySnow]

That sounds great!

Good luck. Have a great night.

[In_Trance]

Ask her out