Should I just accept my boyfriendis going to put it in my butt occasionally?

[Anonymous]

I find the idea humiliating, I don't know why... he says it has to happen eventually, and Its part of life, I should get used to it. He won't unless I let him, but he really wants to, but it seems like itll hurt like hell.

I tried talking to mom, she just said its part of sex and I should get used to it if im gonna have a man.

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1 mo

I finally gave in, I love him and he did something inc4edibly sweet I prompted and I made h8m promise that if I didn't like it, he wouldn't ask again... Anyway, we found something new we both like in it... he likes the tightness & the dominance of it (way he put it was now he's taken every holes... & i like how he didn't need to use a condom &, honestly, I do still hind it humiliating, as one person said I have a hole. made for his cock just an inch away, but I kind of amenjoying that & the ouch

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1 mo

*did something sweet without being prompted

[Tamera952]

Humiliating? You should try to figure that one out— But the sooner you get it over with, the sooner you’ll see that it’s not that big of a deal. It is uncomfortable, to be fair, but if you breathe, and go slow, it will not hurt that bad.
I’m shocked you brought it up to your mom, and am amused about her take on it.

[Asker]

We were kinda half estranged when I was young, for the best, she wasn't ready at all, but as an adult she's made a point to try to be there for me in a not-judgey way... so, now we have dinner and margaritas once a week and bitch about life

[Tamera952]

That’s way cool actually! Good for you! —thank you for breaking it down for me. I appreciate your reply.

[Screenwriter]

If you don't want to do this, don't. Anal sex is not some eventuality because you're with a man. For some reason, it's a trendy thing. But if you have a working vagina, I don't see why a man would get bored with this.

Your body, your choice.

[Tamera952]

You don’t see why? Umm, well simply put, Because it ain’t NOWHERE near as tight as the bootie. Some snatches are loose and gaping, like you could drive a semi through there!

[Screenwriter]

@Tamera952 Yes, there is something to that factor, but you can damage the anus doing this. I've never heard of a vagina being so loose that it doesn't work. I think this is a myth so men can use anal sex as an option!. Guys and their penises! Heavens!

[OneViewpoint]

Nope. You don't have to accept anything. Your body your choice. Your boyfriend is entitled to his opinions. So are you. The boy may need to hear the word "NO" occasionally. His opinions are likely being shaped by porn. If he wants butt sex tell him to go find a gay guy.

[Alex-Snow]

No not at all. It is your body and your choice. Many guys will be happy with PIV sex. Maybe offer ur boyfriend a good bj or hj instead? How old is he? Is he new to sex and just wants to try anal?

[DishLady]

No, not if it makes you uncomfortable.

[EmmaMary]

It's definitely time you found yourself a new boyfriend.

[dudeinohio]

Uh no.

[dudeinohio]

You are in a tough situation. You are caught between sexual incompatibility issues and your own standards. Do what you think is right. If done right, it doesn't hurt. Problem is, many guys don't prepare her properly.

[slatyb]

That's up to you. A long time ago we invented a very short word for thes situations: "no"

[jshm2]

Well.. Not really. It may be what he wants, but it's your decision.

[worldscolide]

No.. Eww why would he want that when the bag is so close and far better? I'm betting he is a closeted bi, or homosexual.

[worldscolide]

Vag**** not bag. Fuck you auto correct

[worldscolide]

And for the record I strongly disagree with both your mom and your boyfriend. If you don't want butt sex, then it's your body your choice.

[Pterodon]

Well I totally disagree with both of them. You don’t have to allow ANYTHING to penetrate your body if you don’t want and no it isn’t just a part of everybody’s sex

[Anonymous]

'tired talking to mom' sure you did bro lolz

[exitseven]

No, if you don't like it, put a big STOP sign on your butt.

[Still-alive]

Say no and if he’s got a problem with that you may need to look for another guy

[Anonymous]

I would tell him he has latent homosexual feelings that he can't deal with in any other way.

[msc545]

Use more lube.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Sounds like a mom

[In_Trance]

Yea ok