Should I let my boyfriend give me a hickey?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I'm 13 I'll be fourteen next month and I have a boyfriend who just turned fourteen about three or four months ago And we only make out. We have Both agreed Absolutely No sex. Especially in the eighth grade My mom is kinda strict but she is okay with me kissing boys My boyfriend recently asked if he could and would my mom flip if he gave me a hickey? I know I could definitely hide it at school but at home. No I know this is probably trashy but I really want to experiment
Should I not
Should I and hide it
Should I talk to my mom

I'm Soo inexperienced Soo please give me your opinion and advice thanks

[UniqueLiz]

I get why you want it, experience. But if you were a mom would you really want your kid to let some guy that you probably never even met to give your daughter a small bruise? If you think she wouldn't mind then go ahead and talk to her about it. But definitely don't let him do it and then hide it from your mom. She could find out and you could end up figuring out she would've been ok with it but since you hid it you get in trouble.

[Asker]

My mom has met him
She likes him
So it's not like he's a total stranger
But I am definitely not going to behind her back
I just don't know if talking to her about it is the best thing

[Mattbowles]

Does it turn you on

[Asker]

Does what
The idea of him giving me a hickey?

[Asker]

Because he can just touch my hand and I am turned on

[Mattbowles]

Yer do you think that would be a turn on

[Asker]

Yeah

[Mattbowles]

Just by you hand have you told him what turns you on

[Asker]

Kind of
Sort of

[Mattbowles]

Just go slow is kiss as far you gone

[Asker]

Yeah and holding hands and stuff and kissing

[Mattbowles]

So you not gone to far then yet start with forplay

[Asker]

No not really

[Asker]

He wanted to try while we were making out

[Mattbowles]

You know when your ready pm if you want know more

[Asker]

I followed you can you pm me I don't have enough levels

[45puppys]

Don't do anything that your not comfortable with! Don't rush things, and if your not ready your boyfriend should understand and respect you!

If you do have a hickey you can hide it with concealer or foundation. Or just have your boyfriend give you a hickey somewhere less visible.

[Asker]

He doesn't pressure and he totally understands
I'm wondering because I want to
But that is a good idea

[45puppys]

Your welcome!

[Asker]

thanks so much
He's my first boyfriend so all these subjects are new
So thanks for the help

[DarkWasTaken]

Search Hickeys in google image and tell me, do you really want one?

There's absolutely 0 benefits to getting purple bruises for the sake of love, it leaves bad marks and doesn't look attractive at all.

It doesn't even feel good, it's just a bite.
Bite your arm for a second and ask yourself, is there really that much to experience?

[Asker]

I honestly just thought it would be something cool to try but
Honestly I don't know
I want to obey my mother and make my boyfriend happy

[DarkWasTaken]

In all honesty, there is nothing cool about it.
A hickey is basically a bruise caused by popping blood cells. It's a bruise that can get infected since it's inflicted by your SO's mouth/teeths which carries a fair amount of bacteria.

It's dirty looking ( As you may have seen from Google image ) and does not feel good.

This is one of those moment where you must look at your boyfriend and say "No".
There is no argument to be had.

It's not just about obeying your mother, hickeys are simply not worth getting.
Your boyfriend won't die if you say no. It's actually perfectly normal to put boundaries over things like that.

[Asker]

I don't think it's such a bad thing

And we definitely have boundaries

[DarkWasTaken]

We're having this very conversation because you know it's bad.

Tell me, would you hit your boyfriend until he had a bruise or deliberately cut off a part of his skin with a sharp object "Just to try it out"?

if you answer to this is "No" then it should also be your answer to hickeys.
They're literally the same thing.

[Asker]

Those are two different things

[DarkWasTaken]

How are they different? Enlighten me and realize yourself.

[Asker]

One is out of anger and abuse
The other is during romantic acts

[Asker]

Two different scenarios

[DarkWasTaken]

No, that's what you made it out to be.

Out of love or out of anger, a bruise is a bruise.

If I were to Slap my girlfriend in the face during sex to make it more "Rough" and it left a mark, it would still be considered physical abuse.
You just don't leave marks on your significant other. There's absolutely nothing good about it and people WILL see it as wrong.

It's one thing to hug and cuddle with each other. It's a form of harmless physical love.
It's another to deliberately choose to harm your significant other's skin and call it love.

[MistaM2daE]

I gave my ex hickies all over her! Once on her belly once her neck and... it sorta happens if u deliberately do it it's not that interesting anymore..
It happens during makeout or sex
But personally i think ur too young.. if u really wanna let him then tell him do it somewhere others can't see lke ur belly..

[Dinnye001]

I'd suggest you don't.

What is the point in causing a small sized internal bleeding? And it looks stupid.

[Asker]

Keeping a happy relationship

[Dinnye001]

If that is required to keep the relationship happy, there is something wrong.

Srsly. Don't.

[Asker]

It's definitely not required
Just helpful

[mikeyjm93]

I'd say not yet coz ur mum might think u two have had sex and will probably flip out. I dont think its worth it but it is ultimately ur choice

[Asker]

You think I shouldn't. Ok
But the thing is my boyfriend really wants to and I am trying to figure out how to ask my mom

[mikeyjm93]

It shouldn't matter if he wants to, its about if you want to and if he really likes you, he will wait until you say its ok

[Asker]

I think I said that wrong
He is perfectly fine with waiting
He said he wanted to show his feelings in a different way than sex
I think it's a cool thing to try and I want to
But the only thing is my mom

I'm a goody two shoes
I don't lie to my parents and I am really bummed about what to do

[mikeyjm93]

If im honest, I've seen lots of girls with them and given lots aswell and honestly, it does look really slutty which is why its called a tramp stamp and its not a way to show someones feelings coz it doesn't mean anythin and if ur worried about what ur mum thinks, then just straight out go up to her and ask if she would flip out if he gave u one

[mikeyjm93]

People dont do it to show their feelings, people do it to say "back off, she's mine" to other guys and the same with girls giving guys one

[Asker]

Well it's not to send a message
Because I would hide it if he did

[mikeyjm93]

He would be sending a message coz he wants people to know that u are his and that they are not to hit on u

[Asker]

He tells them in person already lol

[mikeyjm93]

Its physical proof for people that he doesn't know that might think you're cute

[Asker]

Well I would not show it and he already knows that
So it's not like that

[mikeyjm93]

This is just the reason why everyone that i know has done it to their girl

[zac17]

I've done the same to my girlfriend and I say you should do it it's really hot