Going out with a date?

[InStrictConfidence]

How do you handle bills? When you go out on weekends to museum or dinner or food shopping?

In 1. If you are getting to know and not a couple.

2. If you are a couple, not living together?

Do you talk before who pays the bill? Share 50:50?

Does a woman has to ask if she should pay before you enter the restaurant?

How do you do it?

Updates

1 mo

Is it different with 20 - 30 - 40 - 50 or where you grow up and live?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Case 1. Early stage

I assumed each of us pays our part for as long as I remember. No girl ever challenged this assumption so far, since 30 years.

Case 2. Couple

Our finances are then somewhat blended together, so sometimes I pay for both, sometimes she does, if the price tag rises we probably split instinctively. Again, this has never been discussed or challenged, decisions go autopilot mode seamlessly. And again, it's always been like that, from teen years to now.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In fact I discovered that this topic was something debated, regularly, when I landed on g@g, 2 years ago. So I strongly assume there's something cultural or the people of g@g don't represent the general population lol

[bowenw]

Whoever did the inviting should pay, but after getting to know each other don't hesitate to discuss finances and split bills or take turns.

[InStrictConfidence]

The first date, ok. But the second time... the tenth time...

[bowenw]

If it’s a regular thing in an ongoing relationship I think it should be split or take turns.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Nikki1989]

I have never overthought that. If he/she wants to pay, that is fine; if they want me to pay, that is fine too. Discusing it beforehand is a buzzkill.

[InStrictConfidence]

Depends the income I guess.

To sit in a restaurant and say "by the way you pay today, is that ok?" Would not be ok to me! That's an buzzkill for me.

[slatyb]

If I'm dating someone who earns much less than me, I pay. If we're a couple, we put all the money in a pot, remove our joint expenses, and split the rest 50/50.

[InStrictConfidence]

How would you know? I guess to ask "What do you earn" is strange

[slatyb]

I don´t need an exact number when I know their occupation.

[Anonymous]

I'd always assume I was responsible for the first few dates unless she offers on her own. If I was in a relationship, I would hope we talked about it.

[InStrictConfidence]

I expect the man pays the first date. Ice cream or dinner.

Of course I always have money with me. One time the man said he only had card but we can only pay cash. I thought he would gave me the money later but he didn't. We don't have contact anymore.

Later - even in the dating time without asking to be exclusive - it would be ok if we split. Or if the woman pays the whole bill as an offer. Usually I say: I pay before we enter the restaurant, museum or whatever. Bills one time the man or the woman next time, if both salaries are nearly same. Or split 50:50. Both possible.

To me its always difficult to talk about money.

[Pterodon]

Be prepared to pay for yourself including a ride home. Always have a way out

[InStrictConfidence]

Yes sure. And only have the 1. Date in public places and go home when other people are around. Or tell your best friend where you are and communicate every 1 hour with your best friend. Or make your you will be called every 1 hour and use a word if you are in trouble and need help.

To cover - it ia called.

[Paige2006]

He pays

[InStrictConfidence]

What do you give back - on the 2. 3. 4. ... date?

Does a man expects sex?

[eagle1951]

the guy pays