Would you relocate for someone who feels like the love of your life?

[ryang04]

So let’s start off by saying I have always wanted to move away from my home state, but I was waiting till school is over. Also my parents have told me don’t let them be the reason I choose to stay. I have been seeing this girl for a few months and we click like I’ve never click before.

Like she checks every single box and she has stated I have checked every single box of hers, but she is moving. Just out of curiosity I checked if there was a union close to where she is moving and there is. One of the benefits of my union is I can transfer to a different one and continue my education there and they will find me a job with a union company. So in all honesty it’s really not that much of an uproot and I feel like I would be crazy not to take this opportunity.

If it don’t workout I can always pick up right where I left off. I wanted to get other people’s opinions on would you move for the love of your life or even the chance that you found the one.

[SueShe]

Most likely no and this for a number of reasons.

1. I don't date and nor do I have a plan to date.

2. As a student, I cannot afford to lose or waste all the time and efforts I have put in my studies to relocate to a place that does not offer the same curriculum as I don't feel or want to abandon my studies.

3. My field of studies is kind of special and even if I was in a relationship, I could most likely never find a job in that field as there are limited geographical areas where I could work in my field of studies once (and if) I get my degree.

It is no use to spend that much time and energy into studies just to abandon everything for a relationship that is likely only going to last a few months or years.

[DishLady]

No, probably not. I have my life all set up and I'm happy as I am. If there's a fellow and we can make things work without displacing our families, I'd be very pleased.

[AviatorTom]

Sure. Of course I would. A personal relationship is more important than just about anything.

When I was young, I really liked this girl, but it was a long distance relationship and didn't work out. I told her the LDR was probably the reason we didn't work out, and she told me, sincerely, that she would move to be with someone she loves, but that wasn't the case for me. I learned an important lesson; she was a very intelligent and caring woman.

[HawkPerception]

I'd have to be madly in love and absolutely sure with zero doubts that they were the one and I'd live happily ever after with them. But leaving my family and loved ones to start a new life somewhere would be a really tough decision for me.

[Finchie40]

Yes if the chemistry and connection and attraction is there , and we both were on the same page as things then yes I would probably move to be closer to her

[LifeHitMeandRan]

In your situation it makes sense. No major risk to the move. Same for me since I am a CDL holder. All I have to do is transfer my CDL to whatever state I move to.

That being said, if the biggest factor for a move is to be closer to the love of my life, a few conditions have to be met first for me to make the move:

1. I have to be able to find a job pretty easily and quickly in my field without additional training. This one is not a problem because I have a CDL.

2. It needs to be in a location I would love on my own so that, if things went south, she isn't my only reason to remain.

3. The pay for jobs in my field in that area would need to be able to do more than just help me simply survive. I don't want to live life to simply work and go home.

4. Likely wouldn't make a move like this unless and until we are, at a minimum, engaged. For me to reach the point of proposing, I probably already know her inside and out and she does me as well.

[Screenwriter]

You've only been seeing this person a few months. That' the No. 1 issue I see. You don't know them well enough.

However, you have also always wanted to move out of state. That's a plus. I have no issue with you moving if your job and education can continue. What I would advise against is moving in together. Keep your own place and continue dating to see where it goes.

You are still in the honeymoon period and anything can happen. You need to know someone longer than "a few months' and "boxes ticked off." If by a year plus you still feel the same and feel your knowledge of this person's values is solid, then it's likely time to get serious.

Your view of someone can change when you connect often, go through hard times, etc. Move for yourself FIRST and foremonst, and the person secondarily. Because if the relationship sours, you want to be somewhere you'll enjoy living and working and recreating your life. Good luck!

[SolitarySolace]

I did that once… I rejected the comment my parents wanted me to go to in favor of a college across my state where my at the time girlfriend lived. She was still a senior in high school while I attended college in that area. My dad eventually caved and let me go because I shed him if he would do the same. He said yes. Then she cheated on me with a guy in her class and we ended things and I was stuck at that college for 2 semesters before transferring to a college closer to family. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Never again will I do this for a woman.

[liz122001]

If we are just dating no
If we are already in a relationship it depends on if am losing opportunities like moving to a worst school or less paying job but this type of conversation are natural when you are in a relationship cause also I wouldn’t ask my partner to have a worst life just to me to have a better one, I would consider his opportunities too, if she is not doing that for you I would think a little bit more if moving for her is the best, are you doing all the effort or is she doing something too, I did have a long distance relationship for a year and we both make and effort but what are your options? Is she making options to see you too?

[Marshast]

Everyone’s advice on here is a reflection of their experiences, not yours. They can’t tell you about your future based on theirs own life lesson. If you think there’s a way, go for it. No one is living and breathing for you, and I don’t think you are either.

[HarveyLaw]

In your case, I would give it a try. If you have the means to live by yourself there safely, and nothing else is holding you back where you are right now, go for it. It might be your once-in-a-lifetime relationship... or not, but at least you’ll have tried and found out for sure. YOLO.

[sawno]

I was planning to in my last relationship and i'd be prepared to do it.
But it does depend on the destination, it has to be a place I could actually settle which is very much a language thing, but also a culture thing.

[Micheal6918]

Yes i will but if only the person will take care of all the expenses. I have a comfortable house of my own. I think relocating should be the woman's sacrifice but if I have to do it, it means the woman will take care of all expense

[beenherebefore]

I would 100% move for my Husband, who happens to be the love of my life. I would never move for someone who just feels they could be the love of my life.

[ArrowheadSW]

If I met someone who I felt was that compatible, I would consider it. It would certainly not be something that I would do at the drop of a hat.

[ArrowheadSW]

@ryang04 I know a guy who married a lady who said that he "checked all of her boxes"... I was always a bit skeptical of that. He was finishing a grad degree where he would be making $130K when he was done. He came from a well to do family where they bought them a house (fully paid for) a year before he graduated. Of course she was going to say that he checked all of her boxes... LOL... Not saying that is the case with your girlfriend though...

[Kassandra1994]

No because I think I might be cursed in love. Advice whatever you do. Do not do love spells if it backfires you will endnup having bad luck in love.

[molonski2]

Just State to State in USA or say Australia?
Not international? Then yeah of course

But not at a wim

It's seriously serious..

[Anonymous]

Most likely not because that's a massive risk and if even the tiniest little chance of it not going well it would mean I wasted months perhaps years of my life for nothing and have to relocate back to where I came from anyway.

[Nikki1989]

I did relocate, but we both wanted to make the move. I would never move countries purely for a man.

[CarolineWhizz]

There would have to be a very serious discussion first

[Miristheiss]

She can move for me.

If a woman chooses to move away while in a relationship with me she ain't the one.

[Miristheiss]

Why is she moving?

[7Phoenix7]

I would…

but it depends on where I’m relocating to. The weather has to be nice 😁

[SparklingWine10]

it depends on how long we've been together. If we just start. If it was for work no. If married a yes.

[exitseven]

I would move to a different state and maybe I would move to Canada but moving to a country where they do not speak English is off the table.

[Limited_Edition5]

It depends on how long we've been together; if it's more than three years, probably especially if it's a serious relationship.

[Pretendingtobesweet]

If a man finds sexy woman yes if a woman finds a rich man yes

[Sexiestjohnson]

The tricky part of this question is the "feel" part. You have to be sure bro.

[LiamJHayden]

No. Feelings/emotions are liars and I will not unroot my life on the less than 5% chance that it is real.

[foxsquirrell]

If you already wanted to relocate before meeting this girl all the more reason now why to relocate.

[Alexson_stormzy]

Sure... Especially when the required resources are available

[Anonymous]

What is that you wanted in a women / your check box

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, I couldn't do it when I was in this scenario at 16... I regret that mow

[Anonymous]

I have zero problem with moving. But F*** NO, i'm not moving ANY woman.

[Kelley1]

Wherever my husband goes, I will follow.

[NathanDavis]

nowadays, I could relocate, yes

[slatyb]

I might. This isn't difficult. Go and find out.

[soe11]

• Sure, why not?

[Alex-Snow]

Probably... love is more important go for it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I need mama

[Jamie05rhs]

Do it! You have nothing to lose.

[arianna1414]

maybe it depends

[Smileygirl2000]

No..

[canamlusciouslad73]

Likely.

[SlREN]

No I wouldn't

[Skyros]

Possibly

[Kingofkings1992]

Nope.

[abarbie]

Absolutely