Is he genuinely into me or just acting like a playboy?

[Elizaloveeee]

I’m 22 he’s 33. He just moved to nyc he is wealthy and gorgeous. We ended up going on a lovely biking date. He then took me on a really romantic dinner date, and after he introduced me to his friends. Then we hung out again I went to play pool with him and his friends. by the way he's VERY affectionate with me around his friends. He had this trip planned to south of France and i saw he changed his hinge location to France for the trip like fml okay even though he’s out here calling me “my girl”. But asked me out to dinner right when he got back. We also did yoga this past week and he cooked for me. Anyway our chemistry is insane, he remembers lots of things about me but I’m not quite sure what he wants. And he doesn’t text me much besides to plan.

[SueShe]

Wealthy? Gorgeous?

Those are 2 key words that are huge red flags and that you should see as such. Also, the age difference is way too large for something serious and long lasting (10+ years) to actually be genuine.

I see it that he is more of a playboy that is collecting bodies. If he has 2 assets that women like, then you can be assured that he is definitely using those assets since they seem to attract women like light attracts bugs at night.

The fact that he is on a hookup site and that he purposedly changes the location where he is at the moment tells me that he is looking for victims in other locations.

What you should do? Let go of that red flag as quick as possible. You are only a body count.

[Anonymous]

He’s not interested in anything serious. Why else would he change his hinge location when he’s going out of town?

The absolute best case scenario you can hope for is that someday he will marry you and then cheat on you every time he goes away. It probably won’t get that far, and if it does, get a lawyer to draft a good prenup that favors you so at least you walk away with some financial compensation. He will never stop cheating on you until at least his mid to late forties when he finally burns out on that lifestyle. My dad was the same way so I know what I’m talking about. Sorry to discourage you but I want to keep it real.

[Anonymous]

Honestly he sounds more like a female than a male. Something doesn’t sit right w me reading all this. What’s the reason he move to NayC? Why was he single? At that age if he’s established financially more than likely he’d have a girl he’s serious about. I could be wrong but he’s probably playing you.

[bowenw]

He sounds nice, but obviously doesn't want to be exclusive with you if he's still using a dating app and not messaging you other than to make plans.

[DishLady]

He's just playing games.

[Nikki1989]

I thought it looked promising until you started talking about Hinge and texting. Obviously not much is happening here. Not seriously anyway.

[Elizaloveeee]

What should I do?

[beenherebefore]

Seems that he likes you but is taking things slowly. It would be nice of you to ask for clarity otherwise if this doesn't work you might think he led you on.

[Anonymous]

[Staximus]

There is not enough information for me to make that judgment. Just get to know him better and see how he acts

[Alex-Snow]

Are you sexually involved with him yet? If do how is that going?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

It doesn't sound horrible to me

[Elizaloveeee]

What should I do? I’m not one to bring it up because it always goes terribly

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Just take control. See how he acts

[Elizaloveeee]

Take control how?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Ask him to do stuff. Set pland

[Elizaloveeee]

This is important. Like what? I asked him to do yoga I initiate and text him sometimes. O can’t be clingy

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Yoga is fine

[Elizaloveeee]

What can I do?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'm sure you'll find out soon enough

[Anonymous]

Have you already had sex with him?

[Elizaloveeee]

Yes we did

[Opinion Owner]

This is why you should not be quick to pull down your panties for a new guy. If you had not yet had sex, and he was still pursuing you, you would know that he was truly interested in you. Now, you don't know if he likes you or he just likes to play hide the sausage.

I know that sex feels good and that when you feel an attraction, you want to sump into bed and make it happen. But there are some consequences of doing that too soon. Think about it.

[Anonymous]

Play boy

[Elizaloveeee]

You 100% sure? He’s been a gentleman