Why is he avoiding telling me how he feels after my confession?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy. I recently told him that I have feelings for him after knowing him for 15 months. I told him I'm not pressuring him into a relationship. I just want to know how he feels. He told me that he needs some time to think about what he wants to say to that on top of other things that are going on in his life. Over a month goes by and he still hasn't told me how he feels. Recently, I revisited it with him by saying it's been over a month and that I am feeling torn because he hasn't told me how he feels about me. I told him it's not fair to me to not know I said whatever the answer I will accept. And that he is an important person in my life, and that I would never hurt him. I saw him in person that same day at the baseball game, and he said hi to me and using my first name. After the game, we said hi to each other and he smiled at me. we also talked a little bit more than that as well. He also called me all the way home. After all that has happened that day he never once brought up the message I sent him. I'm just wondering, why do you think he is not telling me how he feels after me making two attempts? I told him I would accept what he says either way, but he still wouldn't answer my question. I'm just all confused.

[Anonymous]

Ok well first off you telling him how you feel doesn’t warrant a response. You’re saying it’s not fair that you told him how you feel but he hasn’t told you. I would argue that it wasn’t fair that you put that kind of pressure on him. Did he ask you to tell him how you felt? If not than that was unwarranted. He doesn’t owe you an explanation if he doesn’t want to. Maybe he sees you as just a friend, now you made it awkward. You know as well as I do that if he rejects you things aren’t going to be the same. You say you’ll accept it, but you really won’t. Chances are you won’t talk to him as much, or act the way you used to before he knew how you felt. Women don’t take rejection well. You’re putting more pressure on him than he is on you. Chances are he doesn’t feel the same, but he doesn’t want to hurt you. .

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't feel how you want him to. He should tell you that instead of nothing. It does help anyone and seems to have hurt you.

[HollyK21]

No answer is an answer. There’s nothing more for him to think about, if he liked you back he’d know already and have had an answer. I don’t even think you should want to wait around for someone you’re sure about while they allegedly can’t figure out if they even like you. Don’t waste anymore of your time, count this as a rejection and move on. You should never be someone’s option.

[OneViewpoint]

There ya go!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes no answer is an answer. He doesn't want to hurt you on that answer. You should move on. He doesn't have the guts to be up front with you

[Asker]

On my second attempt to contact him about it I told him I would accept any answer so he should figure that I might get hurt.

[Asker]

He should figure that I expect to get her I mean, but I would accept it

[Opinion Owner]

doesn't mean he still isn't a coward

[Danny_dan92]

You think he has something to say