Is it a red flag if a guy says he’s never been with a pretty Black girl?

[Anonymous]

[7Phoenix7]

Hmm notnecessarily.. It depends on how he said it and what he meant by it.

If he was simply saying that he’s never dated a black woman before and he thinks you’re pretty I wouldn’t automatically see that as a red flag.

If he’s fetishizing you or making your race the main reason he’s interested, that would concern me. His actions over time will tell you a lot more than a single sentence..

[7Phoenix7]

It also reminds me of my older sister. She’s a beautiful dark-skinned woman, and she always hated hearing things like, “Wow, you’re so pretty for a dark-skinned girl.” It sounds like a compliment, but it implies being dark skinned is something that normally makes someone less attractive. That’s why I’d pay attention to whether he’s complimenting you or unintentionally making your race the focus.

[Asker]

Thanks that’s what I was wondering about because he thought I was mixed at first

[Anonymous]

No it’s preference. There’s a lot of black women who’d never date a white man. Are they racist? Maybe. But even if they are that’s their choice. It’s not a crime to hold racist views, at least in the US.

[Asker]

I’m not talking about never dating I’m talking how he had to mention pretty in it

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing wrong w that. Maybe from his POV they weren’t pretty.

[Asker]

Yeah but he thought I was mixed I don’t thought it was weird

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing wrong w making an assumption. We assume things all the time.

[goaded]

Was the question racist? What do you mean by "been with"? What if he's never "been with" a woman before?

[Alex-Snow]

I do not think so... I have never had sex with a black girl (yet) and I hope that does not put me in red flag territory

[Likes2drive]

Why would that be a red flag, probably never been with a black girl at all much less a pretty girl

[Anonymous]

No. He just stating an observational reality. But that doesn't mean he's NOT fetishizing your race either.

[choco-latte]

Red flag in what way?

[Asker]

Well never mind I think I was overthinking that

[Staximus]

Has he even been with any black girl?

[Asker]

Nope I thought it was because how he mentioned black

[AgentG111]

Sounds like he's definitely into you!

[Anonymous]

Yes.