Why if you wait to ask a girl to hang out or make a plan it is viewed negatively?

[Anonymous]

[Ill_made_Knight]

Do as you like, but as the old saying goes, strike while the iron is hot. If she's available right now and you are too then the moment is now, wait and she may be seeing someone else, things may come up, the conditions are right. Even if she says no the dialogue is now open.

[slatyb]

No one cares what you do, but if you want to date a woman, just ask her. If you wait then you will watch her date someone else, get engaged and married. I've seen it happen.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody likes a time waster. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Women like to be asked, but women like to control when and where you ask. I know you can not read minds (none of us can). But do it wrong and she's going to let you know.

Just remember, women have their way of doing things. And so should men. Regardless of whether you did it right by her standards, NEVER ask a woman out more than once. She may want you to. And she may angle to get you to ask again. DO NOT DO IT.

[ProbablyClueless]

Kinda comes across like a lack of confidence, or like you aren't really sure that you want to connect with her.

Women are really sensitive to that kind of thing.

[Asker]

Why would it be viewed that way? I don't get it.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because actions speak louder than words, and the woman doesn't know the reason you're waiting. A lot of guys talk a good line, but they never take action. As a result, women have learned to see delays and hesitation as a sign that she can't have much faith in his willingness to go after what he wants in life.

[Asker]

Even if I'm 23 and she is 21?

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes. 21 years is plenty of time to get that emotional baggage.

It's pretty common for women to have negative experiences throughout their childhoods and teenage years with men. Sometimes it's a dad that didn't show up the way she needed. Other times it's bad high school boyfriends. It can also just be people being unreliable in general.

[In_Trance]

You've been asking about this for weeks now.
Make a fucking decision

[Anonymous]

Only if it is too long a wait

[Asker]

What is considered too long?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Depends on the length

[Asker]

How long is considered too long?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

That's a judgement for the person involved
Some might say a few days, others might say a month or more

[Asker]

What if she is a former coworker and she reached out to me months after we weren't coworkers anymore? Should I wait?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Just talk and set something up

[Alex-Snow]

Why wait... seize the moment... life is short