When a woman says "one of my psychotic ass exes"... is that a clear warning sign?

[Anonymous]

[Chazmatazz269]

Definitely
It’s extremely common for women to blame all of their failed relationships on their exes. It’s almost as if “women can do no wrong and men can do no right” is written into their DNA.
However, the harder they try to characterize their exes as evil, the more likely they are personally responsible for the breakup and they’re projecting their own flaws. It’s also a good defense mechanism. If she can convince you that her exes are loose cannons, you won’t try to have a conversation with them. Thus learning the truth about her.
Fair warning though: as soon as i started asking women to be honest about their own part in failed relationships, i stopped getting subsequent dates. I kid you not, the patent answer was “i chose the wrong men”, after a long pause of course because not one of them had ever thought about it like that. Women won’t choose to be with someone who holds them to account. So you can’t ask outright. You’ll have to find cleverer ways to get to the truth.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

And then if she would have chose you, you would have been another "wrong" man.

[Anonymous]

Trauma is not created by the presence of pain, but by the repression of it. If she uses words "psychotic ass" then she is externalizing the pain into words instead of feeling it. Which ensures that her subconscious doesn't get over the ex. ㅤ

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

@chazmatazz269 why the hell did you remove the opinion:

"Children copy the instructor, not the instruction. Coercing a noble action makes the child coercive, not noble. He might act noble out of sheer torment but the splitting of thinking from feeling and doing results in mental and physical illness and all "sins", laziness and lust and gluttony are coping mechanisms to numb the pain from having their thinking, feeling, and doing fractured by force instead of a supportive environment made safe enough for cleverness and intellect to sprout naturally and not precociously from pain."

Under your question where you wrote paragraphs about spanking? Do you have traumas? Of course you do.

Here is the thing. When you were beaten, or a boundary was simply enforced without violence. Children naturally complain about encountering a boundary. This complaining is healthy. When you are told not to complain, you are traumatized by the silencing. Not at all by the initial boundary. You learn "feeling pain is wrong" which makes you into a psycho no matter how smart you are. The smarter you are the more elaborate and scientific excuses you will find to justify abusing children. Feel the pain, your life will be less miserable than one needing to delete opinions.

[choco-latte]

What does gender even have to do with this? There are guys who do this too.

Are people these days acting like narcissists don’t exist? Or like these kind of people don’t pretend to be good at first? It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s being 100% truthful because there’s always two sides to every story, and sometimes people just flat out lie too… but it doesn’t mean that she is.

[Asker]

It was a woman who said that to me. That's why I identified the gender. This was a personal experience... My remarks aren't a gender attack. I think that if people admit to being multiple "psychotic" exes, then questions should be asked... research should be done.

[choco-latte]

Multiple, sure. It should definitely be questioned because there’s a clear pattern

[RachyRach]

If she thinks more than one of her exes is a psycho, the problem may be with her.

Or she just knows how to find and date psychos lol

[OneViewpoint]

BAGGAGE ALERT... WHOOP WHOOP WHOOP... BAGGAGE ALERT

PLEASE PROCEED TO THE NEAREST EXIT

STAY CLEAR OF THE BLAST RADUIS

LOL, "ONE OF my psychotic ass exes" implies she has had more than one. Which means she is a piece of work herself.

[Kvass]

Yes. Someone who chooses crazy partners is either another lunatic or really dumb, better stay away.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

In my experience they are often taking about themselves

[Nikki1989]

Nah. The world is full of psychotic ex-boyfriends and husbands.

[Asker]

What's going on with all of this deflecting? A WOMAN told me this! That's why I identified the gender! I don't understand why the response is "The world is full of psychotic ex-boyfriends and husbands"... as though that's the blanket excuse for women behaving the same way! It's not an excuse for ANYONE REGARDLESS OF GENDER!!!

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

It would've been a green flag if she actually knew what she is talking about. But she does not.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Whenever there is repetition of negative experiences, there is a warning to contemplate lol

[RavVid]

I would think so. She has either poor judgement or is a CB that causes it.

[Anonymous]

That's not a red flag. That's a Godd*** flashing neon sign.😆

[Chayce]

Nah. Too old to be worried and scared of another man.

[Anonymous]

Not always. Because crazy lunatic men do exist. Everyone says their ex is crazy but mine 100 definitely WAS

[Asker]

Not always what? I just shared what a woman said to me, so that's why I identified the gender. I noticed that you are the second person here thinking I'm attacking women. I wish people would stop reading into the question.

[Opinion Owner]

Your question basically implies crazy psychotic men don't exist.

[Asker]

No, it doesn't. I just shared a personal experience. A WOMAN told me this. Any person with a brain knows crazy is everywhere! IT'S NOT GENDER SPECIFIC!!! I didn't imply ANYTHING! WTF?

[Opinion Owner]

@asker

When you shame women for saying their ex is crazy. It basically means no male exes can be crazy

And I think any man who posts a question like this over the internet is a RED FLAG

[Asker]

I asked a question. I didn't shame ANYONE! If a woman asked the same question about men, I wouldn't attack her for asking! I don't understand what's happening here. This is crazy! You are jumping to conclusions and turning this into a personal attack! How the hell do you conclude that I think"no male exes can be crazy"? You actually think that because I posted this question? Again, WTAF?

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

No one is rushing to conclusions. But it's wrong to not let someone call her ex crazy if he WAS crazy

[Asker]

You absolutely rushed to a conclusion about me! You BLAIMED ME for "shaming" all women because ONE woman told me this! She told me this of her own accord! When ANYONE (male or female) identifies multiple "crazy exes," I think any sane person should pay close attention. My question and statements have gotten completely twisted here. This is INSANE!!!

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

No one twisted your words. You posted this question just to hate on women and this itself is a big enough red flag itself

And what if a woman had the misfortune of having dated 1 crazy man? Is she automatically a bad woman just cuz she had bad luck?

[Opinion Owner]

And what if a woman had the misfortune of having dated MORE THAN 1 crazy man?

[Asker]

So... now my post means I "hate" women? WTF? Please tell me you're kidding!!! What if a man "had the misfortune of having dated MORE THAN 1 crazy" woman? Is he "automatically a bad" man "just cuz" he had "bad luck"? You are making NO SENSE!!! I'm starting to think that you're triggered because this hits close to home for you! I'm sorry for your pain!

[Opinion Owner]

yea it does hit close to home...
because knowing that i am not crazy but being accused of being crazy JUST BECAUSE I had the misfortune of having met a crazy guy

[Opinion Owner]

yea it does hit close to home... me being called a red flag etc
because knowing that i am not a red flag but being accused of being crazy JUST BECAUSE I had the misfortune of having met a crazy guy

you absolutely know you asked this question as a way to insult women... don't pretend you aren't aware

[Asker]

No, I DID NOT!!! But, because you are PERSONALLY TRIGGERED, IT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE! YOU ARE CLEARLY NOT PSYCHIC!!! You just ADMITTED that are dealing with TRAUMA! You can get help with that,! I sincerely hope that you do! But I will NOT be your scapegoat! I don't deserve that! Good luck in the future!

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

He abused me = he didn't buy me Starbucks

[Alex-Snow]

It might make for a challenge

[Anonymous]

For her? No. Maybe be was a psycho

[Opinion Owner]

If she IS into psychotic guys and she likes you, you should worry

[Asker]

I believe you.