Is momentum or strike while the iron is hot a real thing in terms of asking a girl to hang out?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

1. Don't ask a girl to hang out. That's so lazy. Plan a date and invite her.
2. Wait a while so you can watch her go out with other guys, get engaged, and marry one while you are still deciding.

[Asker]

How long is too long?

[slatyb]

Two days is too long. Grow a pair, plan a date, and invite her.

[Asker]

You don't think asking to see her that quickly is a red flag?

[slatyb]

No, waiting is a red flag. She'll think "If he were really interested, he would have asked me immediately. He waited around until he got bored and then asked me like I'm the last option."

[slatyb]

But keep making up reasons to avoid the possibility of rejection and you won't ever be rejected. Instead, you'll always be alone.

[Asker]

Got it. Let me ask you. It was after or right before midnight and she texted me first. I don't remember exactly what she said but I responded. Long story short I asked her what made you text me? She said I was thinking about you. I probably responded with something awkward but it definitely wasn't something flirty. I don't remember but she might have been at a party or out somewhere.

I could make a move on that?

[slatyb]

Duuuuuh?

[MrChinaski]

Many women admire decisive men. They stand out from the grey goo of self-conscious ditherers.

[Asker]

How long is too long?

[MrChinaski]

Just ask her out.

[Nikki1989]

Obviously.

Life is short; what are you waiting for?

[MissSunshine2]

Yes. It is for many people.

[Abbycado]

Absolutely!

[Asker]

Why?