Is hitting on girls at the club/bar a numbers game?

[Anonymous]

Numbers game in the sense of approaching as many girls as you can and eventually 1 will bite. Should you expect lots of rejection? How is your experience any advice?

Numbers game

It's not (explain)

[Caaarl]

It's something in the middle the odds are not random. Make sure you're not pushing girls away with your actions. If she's not attracted to you there's nothing you can do about it move on.

All rejection in that way is personal. For example, you have a piece of art you drew it might be good but you might not succeed in getting into reality. Learn to accept rejection and move on. Because in many fields the only way you succeed is just by trying over and over again until someone bites.

[Anonymous]

Yes. There's also another factor to it which is diminishing returns. Every girl you approach comes with the risk of other girls seeing that, hearing that, others being told about it by the girl or witnesses or even just being asked directly about how many girls you've tried to chat up that night. The more aware they become of you the lower your chances get. It's not a game I would want to play.

[Asker]

So what would you do

[Opinion Owner]

Find a girl I like that I see regularly at work or class or other activity, whatever you have going on. Develop a bond and escalate into a relationship.

[Asker]

So you don't approach girls at clubs

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. Done my share of approaching strangers. I'm over it.
Girls are really the main reason guys go to clubs and since I've no interest in chatting girls up in that situation I just don't ever go to clubs, let alone approach any girls in a club.

[Anonymous]

Numbers game

[Asker]

Should I try to approach as much girls as possible

[Cursewords]

100% numbers game. If you're decent looking you're basically guaranteed to score. However if you're really good looking you can just focus on the one person you like.

[Asker]

Do you hit on girls at clubs

[Cursewords]

I used to but I've been in a relationship for years.

[Asker]

Do you think it's harder to get a girls # at clubs then other places like library, coffee shop, school etc. when approaching. I feel like they have their shield up at clubs because they're already expecting to be hit on. So you really got to be on top of your game.

[Cursewords]

I think it's easy in both places. You just need to change your game accordingly.

[Asker]

Teach me 😅

[LegateLanius]

Well, there is one problem. If they see you asking their friend out, getting rejected and then asking them out, they will probably think you are using them as a consolation prize

[Names93]

It may very well be a numbers game but for you to play the numbers game that means you also need to go for the women you are utterly not attracted to.

[gobsmacked3]

sometimes you are horny and feel like a fuck. clubs/pubs are very good for this. Directness with women works a treat

[NickoN]

it is numbers game, the more you hit , the more you score. It is as simple as it is

[Asker]

Is it normal to get rejected a lot more then not?

[Asker]

Like 1-5 I guess

[NickoN]

I'm happy if i score 20-30 % , 2-3 girls in 10,
so yes you always get more rejections then scores :P

[abond008]

Both answer are correct.

[Asker]

Expect lots of rejection?

[abond008]

If you. An get 1 in 10 men you are James Bond no kidding. But to rea h this Numbers you will work on Many things + approach a lot of girls too

[Asker]

So getting just 1 out of 10 girls is good?

[abond008]

It is levelnplayer. Like someone whongets consistently. Someone whose life is filled with women.

[LeeKenz]

Yes it really is

[Asker]

So should I just keep on approaching girls even after consecutive rejections

[LeeKenz]

If one is drunk enough eventually they’ll say yes

[Asker]

Why would you say that I wouldn't hit on a wasted girl let alone take her home. I would hope a girl wouldn't have to be drunk just to like me

[LeeKenz]

No it’s... I didn’t mean it offensively. But it’s definitely a numbers game when you’re at a bar. When girls are at clubs and bars it takes a lot more than a pretty face and a good personality for them to say yes

[Asker]

What more does it take besides achol

[LeeKenz]

I don’t know. I’m not a girl who goes to clubs or bars. Besides only being 18 that’s just not the kind of girl I am so I don’t know

[Asker]

Oh yea lol your from the U. S. I'm assuming

[LeeKenz]

Yes I am

[disgustingweebtrash]

Numbers game

[Lumberman53]

Yeah pretty much