Would you date someone much wealthier and older who seems into you?

[Anonymous]

Just for context I work in a luxury boutique menswear store in the city. Im a nobody in the store and just take orders. Im basically invisible to most customers as there more busy focusing on there own lifes which Is fair enough and I've never expected anything different from them.

Most customers are RICH and i mean old money rich so it can be intimidating at times but most are actually very down to earth and respectful.

I come from very little compared to them and have a very normal life. Im lower middle class and was told to change my accent when serving customers as no one wants to her a brummy accent when buying pocket squares so I just put on a softly spoken posh accent im so used to doing it now it isn't hard.

We have a customer come in regularly atm called Tom. Tom is a little older than me, id say eary 40s whilst im late 20s. he's very chatty and is actually one of my most favourite customers as he doesn't act like the others and as he's always super friendly and casual and has a great sense of humour. he's also very attractive.

Im not really sure what he does as a job i think he does something with money but I don't ask. he's very wealthy anyway and always shows up in a nice car.

Anyway my work had its 30th anniversary party a couple weeks ago and we invited a lot of are regular customers most didn't come as obviously they are very busy but Tom came and had a drink with us which was nice and he bought his dog with him.

I was playing with his dog and we got chatting. We had a really good back and forth, laughed a lot and there was definitely abit of a spark there. All my colleagues were stairing

He said but he really liked me and thought I was nice girl and wanted to take me out some time if that was okay.

I said I didn't think it would be appropriate but he slipped me his phone number and he keeps coming into store now to see me but i don't trust him.

He probably just sees me as someone he can play with and then throw away

[Anonymous]

You might look into it. See how well you two click. You won't know until you check it out. I'm wary of "old money" though. A lot of those people are fucked up and they never had to struggle to earn a living like the rest of us. They tend not to understand "the real world". However he might not be "old money" and might actually have had to earn his way up the ranks like the rest of us. And not all "old money" people are fucked up.

[Asker]

Oh he's old money. His dad also comes in time to time but they do seem like a lovely family

[Opinion Owner]

Did you ever see the movie "Shopgirl"? Steve Martin plays a very rich guy (but not old money rich), and he is dating a much younger woman (Clair Danes), who works in a department store. Entertaining movie but not sure how much of it applies to your situation.

[Asker]

No I've never heard of it

[Opinion Owner]

It is a pretty good movie. Very funny in spots. It also has a serious side. There is a co-worker to the Clair Danes character who sets out to seduce the rich guy. She got confused and seduced the wrong guy and didn't find out until the next day. It was hilarious.

[Iron_Man]

if a girl ever told me it’s not appropriate then I would be out of there so fast and never come back to that store and I would never force my phone number on her. I’m out.

[Asker]

I kind of said that because I was at work and I didn't know how my bosses would react. Plus if it didn't work and then he made a complaint about me thats me without a job

[Iron_Man]

It’s obviously that you’re interested the next time he comes in just fix what you said. Besides he’s very aggressive. I think he wants to take you out. Why don’t you give it a shot and see how it goes and let me know on here. I’m curious now you can always mention me and I’ll come into this question.

[blshbnz]

I would just text and give him a few calls to see how he acts. Age gap is not a problem.

[Jersey2]

Give it a go. It could be the real deal. He may be at a point in life where he wants kids. For that he needs someone younger but not too young. You seem to fit the bill.

[Jersey2]

Oh, but yeah, change you accent as it won’t fit in his world. It isn’t being fake, it is you changing your life for a better life no matter if this works out or not.

[Anonymous]

No. I want someone my own age and don't consider wealth as a significant factor.

[The_Wolf_2002]

Yes when I was doing job i had sexual relationship with my group leader she was i guess 40 we had sexual relationship for a year then i left the job.

[Aphrodite820]

If they were a good person and if we clicked.

[slatyb]

No, I wouldn't, but you might.

[Anonymous]

That's not a terrible age gap tbf

[Anonymous]

Too old for me personally