Would you date someone financially unstable if you truly loved them?

[Kelly56825]

I believe love is about more than money, but financial stability can make a big difference in everyday life.

If you met someone you truly connected with, but they were struggling financially, would you give the relationship a chance?

Would your answer change if they were hardworking and responsible, but simply going through a difficult time?

[HollyK21]

If I were single, no, I would not. Mainly because I know what I bring to the table, and as a result I think it’s fair to not accept anything less than 50/50. On top of that, I’d feel like their priorities are out of wack, and finding a relationship should not supersede assuring you’re in a stable place in life first.

[Kelly56825]

Being financially independent can make you more intentional about who you let into your life.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, money has never been much of a priority for me.

[Kelly56825]

I like that perspective 😊

[molonski2]

Last point = yes 100 % , but they would need to be financially literate , that's the big thing , if they were really just horrendous with money and attitude towards money , I couldn't do it.

Love is great in an idealistic way , but it doesn't pay the bills , I note few struggle in Disney movie scenarios.

[Kelly56825]

That's an important distinction. I wouldn't expect someone to have everything figured out, but I'd want them to be honest about their situation and willing to take responsibility for it.

[molonski2]

Yes , I think that's fair enough and a good attitude , but if they came to you and said " 25k of credit card debt , and I owe 10k in parking fines " I'd say that's outside of financial literacy :) .
Keen to learn would be good , interested..
For me , I've always been interested in money markets and property , so nice to have same.

[Billlewis]

I'm married to someone like that right now... but I'm a male, and she's twenty years younger than me, so I don't mind as much. Her family's still a pain in the ass, though.

[Kelly56825]

It sounds like you're speaking from personal experience.

[Billlewis]

Yes, I am. I've been on both sides of the equation.

[stevenkelly]

Honestly, yes but love wouldn't make me ignore the instability.
If they were going through a rough period but were responsible, honest, and actively trying to improve their situation, I wouldn't necessarily walk away. I'd care more about their mindset and how they handle their circumstances than their current bank balance.
But if “financially unstable” meant constantly making reckless decisions, refusing to work toward stability, or expecting me to financially rescue them, that would be a different story. Love is important, but you still need a healthy partnership

[Kaneki05]

Financially unstable? Never. There is a big difference between that and poor though, poor I would along with of course hypocritical to not so but even if I was rich wouldn't matter to me longs if they aren't unstable which would be spending more than one gets.

[Kelly56825]

I agree that earning less and being financially irresponsible are two very different things. Someone can have a modest income and still manage their money well.

[ChiTown33]

That depends what you mean by, "financially unstable". I agree there is a lot more to life than just money. I'd be ok if she was broke i'd be ok if she was unemployed. What i wouldn't be ok with is if she had zero plan and put no effort forth. Because the first part can just be bad luck. This happens to people in life. But to do nothing and put no effort forth is a character flaw.

[bowenw]

It would depend on the circumstances, but I would give them a chance.

[Kelly56825]

Everyone's circumstances are different, and a difficult financial period doesn't necessarily define who someone is.

[bowenw]

I agree. A lot of good people have financial trouble at one time or another.

[Still-alive]

if they have a plan to reduce it significantly and stick to it i could overlook it. im not perfect either lol.

[Kelly56825]

I appreciate how realistic that is.

[Still-alive]

Yeah its one of those thats important but not vital for me provided i liked most other things about her.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

I really don't give give a shit about a woman's money. Debt is a different story.

[Kelly56825]

Agreed, temporary financial difficulties and long-term irresponsible spending are two different things.

[liltitslove]

I would date her if I truly love her, no matter if she's unstable financially,
I'm a emotional person. money isn't that important to me

[Kelly56825]

That's a romantic way to look at it ❤️

[Anonymous]

Yes. I'm financially stable, but that is only accounting for myself. I know I'll have to choose a real career path if I meet someone worth it. How I spend my time is more important to how I spend my money.

[Malwi93]

"unstable" is actually not synonymous with "poor". if you can cover the bsics, im fine

[rgb008]

Nope. Debt is serious.

[KostasKouvalis]

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