Is finding a good wife impossible?

Question

Every girl has a million options you can’t blame them for viewing us as replaceable.

The ‘bare minimum’ is rare, a guy that is loyal and has good intention. Women take this for granted, they have no problems leaving a good man because of their ‘feelings’ no girl can promise you loyalty

Women want two things at once, freedom and independence yet for the man to be leading her, in charge and the provider. You can’t have both!

Divorce is a female sport. Marriage is a bad agreement for men. Women can leave you for no reason, take your kids and take everything you built, run off with a new man and you’re still paying her dividends. Peak devastation and humiliation.

Social media programs women into thinking ultra rare men are common and attainable. Unrealistic standards. Women even think if a guy loves you he should spend a lot of money on you.

Only men aren’t good enough and have to self improve not women. It’s everywhere on social media, that men are useless whereas women are perfect as they are and deserve the world. You can’t have it where only one gender has to work on themselves, it’s so one sided.

Lastly, peace is nicer. I think both genders are agreeing that it’s just better to keep your peace. You want companionship, but realise many girls all run on this propaganda machine

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Gosh, this is so manosphere and red pill coded. Lucky for you, Holly’s got some time for the bullshit today, so let's unpack:

“Every girl has a million options and view men as replaceable”

Realistically, having 100 matches on a dating app is not the same as having 100 viable, healthy relationship options. I’d say the vast majority of those "options" are low-effort, looking only for casual encounters, or are simply unsafe.

“Women take a “good man” for granted and leave based on “feelings”.

What you call "just feelings" is often a lack of emotional intimacy, neglect, or weaponized incompetence. In reality, relationships do not fail because a woman woke up one morning and felt like leaving. Decades of relationship research show that when women initiate breakups, it is usually after months or years of trying to communicate unaddressed issues, feeling emotionally abandoned, or carrying the entire mental and emotional load of the household on her back.

“Women want independence but also a provider who leads”

Strawman. Women are not a monolith, different women want different dynamics. In modern dating, the vast majority of couples operate on dual income. In case you didn’t know, most adult women work full time and finances are shared. Desiring an equal partnership where a man is still capable of emotional leadership (like taking initiative, being dependable, sharing decisions) is not a contradiction—it’s just a healthy, modern relationship. If you’re finding women who want traditional providers but offer zero traditional reciprocity, then you’re choosing the wrong partners, not describing all women.

“Divorce is a female sport and she takes everything you built”

Sir, family law is based on partnership contribution, not gender bias. While it is true that women initiate most divorces, we also suffer a much steeper drop in our standard of living post-divorce than men do. Courts don’t "take everything and give it to the woman." Alimony is increasingly rare and often temporary. It’s designed to help a spouse (who likely sacrificed their career to raise children) get back on their feet. If a man pays high child support, it is because it costs money to raise his own children, not because the ex-wife is getting rich.

“Social media programs women to have unrealistic standards”

Huh? Social media warps everyone’s perception, even yours. Sure, we can argue that algorithms push extreme content, but you are hypocritically ignoring that men are programmed by the exact same machine. Algorithms can push hyper-attractive, materialistic lifestyles to women, while simultaneously pushing content to men that tells them women are gold-diggers, disloyal, and hypergamous. The average woman in the real world is not looking for a 6 ft 5 billionaire; she is looking for a partner who communicates well, shares chores, is consistent and treats her with respect. Shocking for you, I’m sure.

“Only men have to self improve, women think they are perfect”

Here you go🙄. Let’s exclude the multi-billion-dollar self-care, therapy, cosmetic, and wellness industries are overwhelmingly driven by women trying to improve themselves into this narrative. Women spend massive amounts of time, money, even emotional energy trying to improve our mental health, our communication skills, careers, and appearances. The online spaces you choose to watch might claim "women think they are perfect," but real-world data shows women enter therapy at significantly higher rates than men. True self-improvement is an individual responsibility, not a gendered one.

All this to say — if you’re burnt out and sick of rejection, then just say that. If you choose to stay single for your peace of mind then that’s completely valid. But there is a massive difference between saying, “I’m choosing to focus on myself right now” and saying, “half the human population is a brainwashed, malicious collective out to ruin men”. The first is a healthy personal boundary; the second is a coping mechanism to avoid the vulnerability required to find a real relationship.

*drops mic*

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

In 2022, the US recorded 2,065,905 marriages. Just because you were not one of them doesn't mean it is not happening. Perhaps do some research before making a fool out of yourself.

Effably · Accepted Answer

Mate. The second you go from Random Guy to an actual person there is only one of you. There being a dozen other options does not mean there are a dozen comparable options.

While there is a gender disparity on dating ability and while that has been made more exaggerated than ever due to dating trends and, quite frankly, good healthcare that does not mean there are now two hundred you. People do not want template guy or girl but someone who means something.

Also, in case this has been missed by anone, as humans we are programmed to have this at a biological level. While births are near half and half babies are more likely to be men. Because of this in any healthy society there have always been extra guys around. No point wishing for a past that never was.

aceleon · Accepted Answer

if you think this way why even bother continue to think or talk about this? unless you are not peacfull at all and feel actually misearable about it? i give zero fucks about what woman wants and i never ever feel the urge to talk about it unless it is asked.

if you were as hopeless and distastefull towards the idea of marriage you wouldn't feel the need to talk about it.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I don't look for a wife in the first place, be it a bad or a good one, I don't have this kind of thirst within me. I never had it actually.

All I wanted was to have a good life.

Loving and being loved has always been part of my definition of a good life. But weddings & mariages really not lol

Abbycado · Answer

Not for you. You spend too much time here complaining.

BubblyJoyBaby · Answer

I stopped reading after “divorce is a female sport”. 🚪🚶🏾‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

good women don't want jaded, bitter, hateful men who blame women for not picking them. Toxic men don't deserve wives.

Staximus · Answer

The problem is everybody thinks there’s such thing as a perfect marriage, especially women.

LazerBean · Answer

Not for good husbands.

slatyb · Answer

For you, it probably is.

Ariesman81Nshiiit · Answer

Don't let em top from the bottom

Anonymous · Answer

*sex, not gender

Avocadorable · Answer

If you want a good wife go to Indonesia.

jahaims · Answer

Lmfao

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