Why hasn’t my boyfriend proposed after four years—is he unsure about me?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years next Friday and he hasn't proposed to me and when I've asked why. Its always thats a big thing and he doesn't have enough money but i told him i dont need a big wedding and fancy honey moon and that i would be happy with a 50$ walmart ring and a camping trip. I've cooked cleaned and never asked him for money and I've helped him emotionally through 3 deaths in his family and moved 3 states away for him and im 30 years old and im soon to be 31. I've done so much and I think I've earned it. I have a amazing personality im not nagging to him and I take care of things like a partner should. Im a nurse and I have that caring nature I don't know why he won't propose to me

[slatyb]

Isn't it obvious? If he wanted to marry you, he would have asked. He doesn't want to marry you, but he prefers being with you to being alone. So he strings you alone, all the while looking for the woman he wants. When he meets her, he will have the courage to break up with you.

If you want to be married, don't move in with a man without a decision date -- in a year we're either planning a wedding or breaking up.

[Nikki1989]

You must have some patience. You might have to be firm with him.

[Asker]

I have been firm in told him by my next birthday and he said in a irritated voice that why do I have to rush things but I've been with him 4 years

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds confused and is stalling. As you know it is ok for a women to ask a guy to marry. Think about it. But if he will not commit then maybe he is not in love with you. Is your relationship more about being roommates or sex partners? Something is missing but it takes two to commit to a successful marriage and he sounds doubtful.

[Anonymous]

Its because he's waiting for someone else. Trust me. Mine is too. Just dont have a baby with him thinking itll trap him or make him love you more. It won't

[MrChinaski]

I proposed after 4 years. It's not unheard of.

But, right now he doesn't want to marry you. That's the one thing you know for sure. The question is whether he ever will.

[Anonymous]

It could be because of financial worries, but you seemed to have alleviated that. Personally, it wouldn't take me that long.

[In_Trance]

So you ask once anonymously, and a second time with your profile... Right on

[jahaims]

You don't communicate properly

[GothEgg]

doesn't want marraige or kids.