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I really struggle with dating, I’m quite shy and quiet, never know what to say. There has been a few times where either I’ve tried to ask a guy out or friends set us up and the guys always have some sort of excuse about me. I’m too fat, ugly whatever the case may be I’ve heard it all.
Now I’m afraid to express my feelings because it’s like when I do the guy leaves. My last relationship was 8 years and I was madly in love with him for 7 of those years and never once did I tell him, not that I didn’t want to but because I didn’t feel he felt the same and it was better to just keep my feelings to myself.
I’ve met a new guy I’m very interested in, I really have no idea how to even talk to him and the issue I’m having is I’m predicting the end before anything has even happened. He seems like a very nice guy and I can’t see that he would be mean about talking to me, it seems like we both are crushing on each other just no one is taking the next step, like I’m scared to message him and I imagine he doesn’t wanna be some guy in my dm’s so I feel like I don't know what to even do. Maybe just waiting longer is the best option and he will reach out.
Now I’m afraid to express my feelings because it’s like when I do the guy leaves. My last relationship was 8 years and I was madly in love with him for 7 of those years and never once did I tell him, not that I didn’t want to but because I didn’t feel he felt the same and it was better to just keep my feelings to myself.
I’ve met a new guy I’m very interested in, I really have no idea how to even talk to him and the issue I’m having is I’m predicting the end before anything has even happened. He seems like a very nice guy and I can’t see that he would be mean about talking to me, it seems like we both are crushing on each other just no one is taking the next step, like I’m scared to message him and I imagine he doesn’t wanna be some guy in my dm’s so I feel like I don't know what to even do. Maybe just waiting longer is the best option and he will reach out.
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Just message him. You don't need to scream "I love you", just do something to get connected. And if it's just a stupid emoji reaction to an Instagram story.
You can either try your luck and have a real chance of getting closer to him, with the risk of getting rejected, or you can hide underneath your bed and not talk to him and wait forever until you see him go out with another girl. If you think that will feel better... Ok. Your choice.
If you're afraid of rejection then dont ask him out formally. If you want to hang out with a friend what would you say? Say you have some free time this week if he wants to grab coffee. Its not a huge ask, and its only as big a deal as you make it. If the chemistry is good then make a move simple as that
You just have to or you’ll never see anyone.
I have a similar mentality. Waiting is the worse thing you could do. He could be going through a similar situation mentally. If he likes you the way you want, he won't care how you reach out.
Be bold and be yourself.
Loser