Should I pursue my coworker while things develop with a gamer girl?

[Anonymous]

So there is two girls i really like right now. One is a co worker from work, and another girl is someone i met through playing marvel rivals with. i started getting closer or at least i think with the marvels girl. For a straight week we were practically playing games and being on call all day together. But im scared of over smothering her by asking her to hang all the time. Should i space things out when asking, should I not instantly reply to her messages all the time? As far as the co worker im about to change shifts for my school and that means ill be working the same shift as my coworker sometimes. I thought about asking her out but ill feel bad if something is real with the gamer girl

[ManOnFire]

Stick with the gamer girl. Dating a co-worker can and does often turn messy. Not worth the trouble.

[Laws-Of-Existence]

You come up with a verification. For example. Another guy offers to play same games with her. To make it conclusive, twice. Allow her to choose between you and another guy or more. Unless she chooses you every single time, forget her. ㅤ

[Screenwriter]

Go with who you enjoy being with the most, and who enjoys you about equally. I think you'll have to spend more time with both of them to find this out. Not the easiest thing to do, but make it clear that you're not exclusively dating either at some point.

If they ask you straight out, I think you'll have to be straight. If one decides not to continue with you because of this, you have an answer right away...

[Asker]

I truly enjoy spending time with the gamer girl and I think she enjoys hanging out. She knows that I like her because I was straightforward with her. She doesn't know how she feels about me because as u said we haven't spent enough time yet together. I just dont know how to balance spending time without smothering her

[Screenwriter]

What is this fear of "smothering" her? You don't need to be with her every day. See her once or twice a week. You'll find out soon enough if you're suited to each other.

[Anonymous]

I love how one pink says to focus on one of them, but if the genders were reversed zhe would be saying that she needs to play the field. Fucking hypocrites the lot of them.


Dude focus on one. Your coworker has better promise because she's a woman you can actually go out with.

[Lesbologist]

Duh... pursue every option you got and you're not even banging either of them yet... stop asking the internet questions and get the panties to drop.

[Anonymous]

No. You focus on one of them and I suggest it’s not the one you work with, that could become awkward and complicated fast. You don’t want issues lile that at work. And no, don’t start playing games with the online girl, continue as usual.

[queenofcardio]

Pursue the one you feel the most connection with.

[Anonymous]

Avoid coworkers, as a general rule in life

[Asker]

She's gonna be leaving the job soon anyways so she won't be a co worker for forever

[Alex-Snow]

Keep your options open I guess.

[Mariogirl09]

Lose the gamer girl