How can I stop rejecting myself before approaching attractive women?

[Anonymous]

Every time I see an attractive women instead of even attempting to talk to her, my mind instantly goes I don’t have a chance with a girl like her. Or I assume the type of guys they like.. I’m not hideous, just an average looking guy. I’m 6’3, athletic, great personality but I’ve just never been the guy women really take multiple glances at so I never try.. how can I get over this?

[Bianca_Italy]

Say this in your mind: ''If I don't approach the women I like, I'll end up with someone I don't like.''

I think receiving a ''no'' is less sad than sharing your life with women you don't like, isn't it?

[Asker]

You’re making a lot of sense.. I just need to get over the scenario of a woman feeling absolutely disgusted just because I tried to talk to her

[Bianca_Italy]

Look, I'm a woman myself and I can tell you I don't feel disgusted by men.

Just dress well, don't look like a homeless person, don't act like a weirdo, don't approach women in a dark alley, and the worst thing that can happen is a ''no''.

[Asker]

I do dress well, I’m certainly not a weirdo, and definitely avoid alleys lol. I just need to force myself to hear some no’s until I get a yes.

I’m 33, I don’t wanna be 60 thinking damn I should’ve approached her. Thank you so much for the advice tho

[Bianca_Italy]

You're welcome.

[slatyb]

Just force yourself to do it. You don't need a clever line. If a woman makes eye contract with you and holds it for even a few seconds, walk over and say hello. It gets a lot easier with practice. Rejection is no big deal. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

[Dr_Dixon_Cider]

Use my trick... just pretend you're somone else. That's how I get all the pussy. I usually pretend I'm 1990's Snoop Dogg or Ragnar the Viking leader. Megatons ammounts of pussy. Why? Who fucking cares, I get all the pussy.

[Nikki1989]

You have a cognitive distortion. If you don't know what that is, I suggest you do some research. You have some work to do.

[Asker]

I’m pretty aware of this atp. It’s like an all size fits all for me.. I assume since she doesn’t think I’m attractive, she also thinks the same, and so on..

I really wish I knew how to break the cycle of being so terrified of rejection

[msc545]

You may not need to get over this. You may actually be saving yourself a lot of grief.

[lightbulb27]

Get out of your head and into hers.