Is it okay to text a guy to confirm a date for tomorrow night?

[FitGalinNYC]

I had a wonderful first date with a guy I met last week from a dating website. He sent me a text the next day and asked me out for tomorrow. We talked on the phone once but the call got disconnected ( my battery died). Is it OK if I text him tomorrow to see if we're still on for tomorrow night or am I being overly anxious? I don't want to seem desperate and I really like him. I hear all the time how men love the chase. Don't wanna chase him!

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I should also add that I signed on the dating websight and he has been on there every day since our date. Sometimes 2-3 times aday! I know it's only been one date and I'm not upset that he's keeping his options open but maybe he set another date for tomorrow.

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Well, I did text to confirm and I got stood up anyway! When I text him he said he forgot he had a X-mas party to go to but it will get done around 10 and if it's OK we can still get together. I told him it's not too late and to call me when he 's on his way and that I may have him meet me out. I ended up staying home and I even started getting ready, but he never called! So rude. Being stood up is the worst feeling. Now I wish I didn't even text him to confirm.

[MadameGrimaldi]

It's okay to confirm. It doesn't look desperate, just follow your confirmation text with a "I like to be on top of things" text. This way he thinks you are just someone who like to have things in stone so you don't waste your time. It'll look like, if he doesn't confirm you have other things you can do and your schedule doesn't revolve around him, but you still look interested too.

[MadameGrimaldi]

@update: Don't look too much into that. Just don't give him the goodies right away. I know a few guys who went on match.com just to get laid. Be sure he actually wants a relationship before you give it up too soon. Unless, that is what you want of course.

[MadameGrimaldi]

@update: Well, at least you know that he is not the type of guy you want to be around.

[FitGalinNYC]

I just got 3 text messages from him saying "OMG I knew this was gonna happen. I came later to the party and had too much to drink" then "I feel so sick" then "I hope you not mad". He is a 39 year old man he acts like a juvenile! I didn't answer any of his texts and even changed his name in my contacts to "LOSER!DONOT ANSWER"

[MadameGrimaldi]

Lol@what you changed his name to. Good idea, I never thought of that. I definitely wouldn't go out with him. He seems like the type of guy that takes kindness for weakness.

[FitGalinNYC]

Haha..I always change the name of ***holes in my contacts. Its a reminder to myself later how pi**ed off he made me and to not get weak. At least I'm glad that he text me. Not that I'm going to answer him back but I know the best revenge is to ignore someone like that.

[MadameGrimaldi]

Changing the contact name is a good idea. I support your decision.

[Arwens-Fire]

One of the best lessons I have learned in life..."Never try and date someone who FORGOT they were suppose to spend time with you."You made the mistake of accepting his makeshift date.He was trying to "fit you in" and you allowed him to which is disrepectful so it's almost no surprise he stood you up. You kiinda walked into that yourself. :(

[FitGalinNYC]

Honestly I didn't see this coming at all. He said he forgot about the Christmas party not about me. I told him we can get together another time but he assured me he didn't want to stay at this party. I really don't see what I did wrong. I already feel bad for being stood up but you're making me feel worst. It's bad enough to get stood up. I don't chase guys, I don't call guys and I usually don't text to confirm.

[Arwens-Fire]

I feel as though he could have still made the effort to make a designated time to see you and spend time with you even if he had to change the day to do it.Instead of suggesting "left over time" after the party and YES he did forget about you. I'm sorry if you feel bad,but it's happened to me before too.But I always see something indicative of maybe why I shouldn't have given that person a chance to begin with.If I were in the same situation,i would have competely rescheduled because of the...

[Arwens-Fire]

sudden "holiday party" (which very well could have been another date he was going on being that you said he was on the site 2 or 3 times a day).I think he created the holiday party and was out on another date.But...thats just my opinion.AND...i believe there are other ways of letting a guy chase you instead of not contacting them first etc.I think that sometimes opportunities are missed by applying such rules.

[FitGalinNYC]

I'm old enough to know that even if you play all your cards right, people are not always going to play nice. The only thing I feel I shouldn't have done was to text him to confirm. Because I gave him a chance and even mentioned to him lets do it another night. If it wasn't for that, he probably would have never called to confirm and I would have made other plans. The last thing I'm going to do now is to start telling myself I should've seen it coming and blame myself. He is the LOSER period.

[Arwens-Fire]

well good for you,good luck.

[MrOracle]

Given that he initiated the date via text, then of course it is just fine to confirm the same way.

It's not like you are calling him 9 times a day or anything. A simple text to confirm is totally normal, and not at all desparate or clingy.

[Ugliness]

It's never okay to text. Don't wimp out. Call by VOICE.

[kheserthorpe]

Go ahead and confirm. Also feel free to set up dates with other guys. You're not a couple yet.

[foolycooly1001]

fine with me

[Arwens-Fire]

Text and confirm.