He wants to meet me in a hotel instead of his place; what do you think?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a man that lives in a neighboring city for about a month. I went to his house before, now he wants to meet half way in a hotel. He is willing to pay but for some reason I feel sleazy about this and I am not sure why. He claims he needs a "break" from working on his house and being at home.

The last time we were together I got the "I don't want any attachments" speech and pretty much the relationship seems to be focused around sex. I really wish I could have more so I feel a hotel is so impersonal, however, I really like this guy and don't know him well enough for there to have much more developed. I feel he is uncomfortable bringing me to his house as this must mean some sort of attachment thing for him.

I have never met anyone in a hotel unless it was a boyfriend and I was already dating them.

[risingphoenix201011]

Then tell him you aren't comfortable with meeting him at a hotel then. That's exactly what he wants, sex. He's basically turning you into a weekend bootycall. You have to hold out on him if you really like him, because once you give that up, that's all you're gonna be to him. Nothin but a piece of ass.

[JustChris]

Spot on. I definitely agree.

[Asker]

We already had sex.. unfortunately.. but was hoping for more

[risingphoenix201011]

Well that's it right there. He told you he didn't want to have attatchments and you had sex with him so it will never progress to anything more. There may be a chance, but you're gonna have to cut out the sex. Trust me I've been in a situation like this so I know how it goes. The only time the guy ever wanted to see me was when he wanted some booty. Yet in between he'd say nice things in order to keep me around when he needed me. I wouldn't expect more to come out of this tho.

[T00THpaste4]

You women act like it's a bad thing to be a piece of ass. I love it when girls call me up for some d***! It makes me feel like I'm doing SOMETHING right for women. I mean seriously, I would never hit a girl up every weekend if she was terrible in bed. Even if he doesn't like you romantically, you should take what you get. Don't be a spoiled brat and always try to get a gold medal (pun intended). You should be proud that he recognizes that you know how to work that p**** like a warrior princess!

[risingphoenix201011]

Maybe it's because we know we have a little more value than the whores you hang around. And if you want a relationship being a piece of ass isn't going to get you what you want. Sorry I'm just not desperate enough to want to hand out my p**** to every guy that expresses interest in me.

[Asker]

Yes, on the one hand if there were no interest at all I would not have heard a thing from him. On the other, I know that a relationship is not what he is seeking.. at least he is honest.. that is better than a guy leading you down the merry path of !#$ only to then find out that is all he wanted...booty... and romanced you to get it... I don't consider myself a whore for having sex with him.. and if that is the case.. he is a whore too. I was just hoping for more...

[risingphoenix201011]

That comment I last posted was in response to the other person commenting. I'm not calling you a whore. A lot of us have been where you've been and done that. We are not "spoiled brats" because we want something with more substance.

[Asker]

Oh, I know you weren't I was responding to both about being a slut/whore. In other words.. I don't have to "take what I can get" in response to Toothpaste man. I don't think we are spoiled brats either.. just because we want more than sex.. and I am like you to in the sense that I am not going to give it up to every dude just because he is interested.. I am not that desperate either. For me I have to half way "like" the dude in some way or he ain't getting it at all.

[LexiNinja]

This sounds sketchy as hell. He probably has a wife or girlfriend and you're just the side chick. He's using you for sex. Why go to a whole other place when you can just f*** at the house?o.o I don't know, sound like a scenario with a prostitute. I say don't go.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's married? Or he thinks its too personal to bring you to his house. I think this guy only wants sex and you need to think about you want a relationship like this or not.

[Asker]

He's not married.. but yes.. need to think about if sex is all I want/need from him

[Anonymous]

He isn't 100% sure you aren't some crazy chick and doesn't want you to know his home address. I don't always take girls home for this reason unless we have a long history together. Most chicks are crazy, but you have to be careful. Stalkers aren't just of the male variety you know!

[Asker]

I've already been to his house

[T00THpaste4]

Or maybe he's cheating on his girlfriend with you! :-O

[Asker]

Good point! never thought of that.. he did say he was with "family" last weekend.. mmmm

[T00THpaste4]

You're getting laid AND he's paying for the room? !Why ruin a good thing?

[Anonymous]

That doesn't sound like a good idea at all.