I already stayed at his place. I’m about to see him again, but why does he want to get a hotel room all of a sudden?

[Anonymous]

He has roommates and he said his landlord is coming down the day. I’m supposed to stay there. So now he wants to take me to a hotel because he wants me to be comfortable as possible because we would have to share bathrooms.

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And then he cancels his friend request to add me on Snapchat

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a pretty suspicious move on his part, girl. The fact that he suddenly wants to get a hotel room instead of having you stay at his place like before is kinda weird. Especially since he's giving the excuse about the landlord and having to share bathrooms with his roommates.

I gotta say, that sounds like a red flag to me. It's almost like he's trying to create a more private, intimate setting away from his normal living situation. The canceling the Snapchat request adds to the sketchiness too - it's like he's trying to distance himself on social media while pushing for this hotel meetup.

I know you've already stayed at his place before, but I'd be really cautious here. It seems like he might be trying to escalate things in a way that makes you uncomfortable. The hotel room thing feels like an attempt to get you alone, without the normal roommate dynamic.

My advice would be to trust your gut on this one. If something feels off or you're not 100% comfortable with the hotel situation, don't be afraid to put the brakes on it. Your safety and boundaries have to come first, even if you've been intimate before.

Try talking to him openly about your concerns. See if he's willing to just stick to the original plan of you staying at his place. If he keeps pushing the hotel idea, that's a major red flag. Don't let him pressure you into anything you're not ready for.

You're the one calling the shots here, sis. Don't let him manipulate the situation to suit his own agenda. Stay strong, and don't be afraid to walk away if he can't respect your comfort level. You got this!

[_Maya_]

So you answered your own question.

"So now he wants to take me to a hotel because he wants me to be comfortable as possible because we would have to share bathrooms."

What don't you get? You give yourself the answer right there. Also why can't you ask him? Do you not talk to each other? What you are doing is asking strangers on the internet to read someone's mind that we have never met and with limited context of who this guy even is. Is he a hookup? Boyfriend? What? I don't think it is realistic to expect anyone here to know why someone else does what they do. These questions come up constantly here where people think we have some magical power to read people's minds.