If a girl does not reply to a text in a timely manner, is she not that into me?

Question

Thinking about that movie, "hes just not that into you" I wonder if the reverse is true.

I know with women, they will almost chase a guy that they are into, and he can give pretty strong signs he doesn't want them, but they still push for it.

Now, guys text...and girls don't reply. I imagine if I were "that guy" she was totally into, she would text back soon, within an hour at least.

So, if she doesn't reply in a timely manner, then...?

A, B, or C,..

thoughts?

btlyr · Accepted Answer

It depends on the situation. If she's generally good with replying to texts, but every once in a while she takes a long time to respond, it's probably that she's busy. If she replies consistently but takes a while, she probably doesn't want to look needy/desperate. If she sometimes just doesn't respond and writes short abrupt texts, doesn't make an effort to keep the conversation going, then she's not interested.

However, there should be an "other" option. I'm in this situation right now where the guy that I'm interested in has sent me a text that left me completely perplexed and I don't know how to respond. Plus, I am busy so I'm going to respond later, when I have time and when I have figured out what I should say.

KryHeart · Accepted Answer

Depends on the girl and the situation. For me, it could be any one of these.

1. I do this if I'm not interested in a guy, but only if we've texted before and I know it isn't going anywhere, or I know the conversation will flop.

2. I find it extremely hard to do this if I really like you, so this isn't my first choice.

3. I work theatre/waiting tables like...80% of my time, so I often don't have my phone with me.

Fashii · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, timing is everything. I feel a little sad at times when there is a mutual attraction but it does not coincide with my lifes current plans or schedules. I have learned that it is not always a matter of like or dislike but a matter of timing as well.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Accepted Answer

I'd like for everyone to take a notice at the polls. See girls. when you worry about seeming "desperate/eager" all you're telling us guys is you're not interested in us. STOP DOING THAT! If you're interested, don't worry at all about coming off desperate or eager. Hell, EAGER IS A GOOD THING! It shows us you're interested in us and want to be with us and that gives us a boost to our confidence as well as making us more likely to be with you. Damn derpy woman logic -_-

martyfellow · Accepted Answer

Yes, unless she is really busy with something, it means she's not that interested.  But you know, most attractive girls  are inundated with propositions from all kinds of guys, so you have to make a real impression on her before she even thinks about you, one way or the other.   In other words, it's hard to get through their shell of indifference, and even get to know her a little, so that she actually thinks about you or even recognizes and remembers who you are.

Anonymous · Answer

This is why when I meet a guy I really like and we exchange numbers, I tell him I'm not a huge texter. It takes a lot of pressure off of both of us. As long as she's replying at all, that's a good sign. I have been guilty of leaving my phone in another room, doing something to distract myself, and texting back hours later, hoping they don't think I was doing it on purpose. I have also received texts from guys and waited intentionally because I don't want to seem like I'm desperate. It could go either way.

I think the best way to figure out how interested or not interested she is, would be to talk more in person. That's a much better way to judge how she's feeling about you.

Anonymous · Answer

i know that I will read a text from the guy I have had a big crush on for years and I will wait 30 minutes to an hour befor texting back and if he calls I let it go to voice mail and call back the next day. no matter how busy or un busy I am. I know stuid right! but the point is just because she takes for ever don't mean she ain't into you, because trust me I'm very much into this guy and have been for many years. I'm just hard headed, and play hard to get. and don't want him to know how much I'm into him. it looks said if a chick text right back, makes it look like she is waiting on that text or that call.

christyfanning · Answer

Well I personally am a really bad texter, so just because I'm not replying right away doesn't mean I don't care about him. On the other hand though, if the guy I like texts me then sometimes I'll reply back right away, but I don't want him to get the wrong idea so then I'll wait a while so he doesn't think I'm desperate. Haha guys aren't the only ones who like to play games. There will always be times where she may not have her phone, so you have to think logically that she may just not be able to reply. If that is a regular occurrence however she probably isn't that into you, OR she's majoring leading you on. I hope that helps.

Purplelove010 · Answer

I say A because if she really liked you she would try every way that she could to get in contact with you. If she was busy & didn't have her phone on her she would've let you know about it. Plus if she really liked you & if you really like her it wouldn't matter to her or to you rather yall coming off as desperate or not because you wouldn't look at it as being desperate when you really like someone.

sikoo31 · Answer

Yo, you're asking the wrong Q here; a better Q would be:

"If she's not replying to me, should I waist my time with her?"

The answer is no. No matter the reason for her lack of timely replies, if she's not giving you the time you want, stop trying to get her to pay attention to you and find a girl that will do that on her own.

I just stop texting them if they don't reply, cause, f*** it, there's lots of girls I could be talking to, why waist my time with this one?

Cfctorres · Answer

I always think about stuff like this in reverse... If a girl texts me and I'm holding my phone, whether I like her or not I'm probably gonna reply. Sometimes I don't reply for a while because I don't have my phone on me or I'm too busy. I think girls are the same.

AndyWes · Answer

Probably. Though I've been dealing with a situation, girl who has a boyfriend but likes me, twice stopped replying to texts. Though she's been very flirty, and one of her friends has told me she likes me and I should ask her out, and another teasingly let me know that the girl texted her about me.

So, probably, but it's uncertain.

heartchu564 · Answer

C. If she's still answering I would not be worried. For me, I'm not by my phone a lot so I don't purposly not text by fast, it's just I'm busy. Now if I don't like the person I will not answer them at all. So if she's answering then I wouldn't be worried

yellowmamba024 · Answer

If it happens all the time, then it's A. If she likes you, then it's B. But I voted C because from my experience, it's that. I rarely have a girl never replied to my messages. Only two girls did that to me. Like they have replied but there are times they don't reply to my messages.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

Really it could be any of the above. It depends on the girl and the situation. There is never one right answer with this type of thing. It would be convenient if we always knew what was going on, but nobody has that luxury.

opus_damian · Answer

This kind of questions show how we all create stories for our own success or failures. That's what Tony Robbins constantly warns us about. She's just busy!

ryanontario · Answer

if she doesn't respond she just isn't that interested , if she was interested she would reply at some point soon after you texted her she's not going to wait a week later to reply if she's interested

HandsomeRaj · Answer

glad you got it in this case. Good luck :)  The answer for the question you asked is otherwise lengthy ha ha

Bbwalldude · Answer

As a guy, I usually try to text back right away, but sometimes I need time to think of what to say, something better than just a 'lol'. Something more meaningful...

louiseee · Answer

It really could be any of the choices.  Depends on the girl.

posted · Answer

I always assume A. If a girl isn't into the conversation, she won't be responding as quick.

thisusername2 · Answer

You need an option D any of the above could be the reason.

jacquesvol · Answer

Pick your choice: #-She's just not that into me #-She is trying not to look too desperate/eager (this supposes she'd like to answer)

sweet_18 · Answer

If she is consistently not replying in a timely manner then she's not that into you.

DiamondNight · Answer

depends on the girl, I often text people back the next day because I'm lazy and forget about it.

If a girl does not reply to a text in a timely manner, is she not that into me?

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