I'm from an Asian background and get asked out by white Aussie guys a lot. I'm happy to go on dates with them, but I'm very uncomfortable with how fast they move.
They get all touchy and try and smooch me on the first date, and expect me to put out for sex before we even commit.
It's very confronting for me, as in my parents' culture, women aren't meant to slut around. We're meant to look for guys who are intelligent, supportive, caring etc. I'm not wired to sleep with a guy who doesn't have those characteristics, no matter how good looking, and so dating really is just an opportunity to get to know them in person one on one.
If I refuse their advances and politely explain to them what I'm looking for, they start complaining about how I'm "friendzoning" them and make slurs about my background e.g. "if you want to live like that, people like you should go back to where you came from". Their friends would then make fun of the guy for dating a "chink" or "third worlder" or how he "won't be getting any noodles any time soon".
I hate it. Why can't people just respect that everyone makes individual choices?
To me, looks are very important, and I can't help that I am attracted to Caucasian men, but why is it that they're not interested in getting to know me or respect me? I just don't get it. Are they just narrow minded or racist? I don't know
Sorry, I don't mean that EVERY Australian is like that..but 90% of the one's I meet are like that, and it's not just in the field of dating.
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Have you considered dating people from other backgrounds?
To answer your question, I believe that like in any country, racism does exist in Australia and it is extremely prevalent here. Much more so than in many other developed countries I've visited. There are stupid, narrow minded people where ever you go, and unfortunately, it is sad to see that there is a very high concentration of such people amongst the younger generations in Australia today.
Now, with respect to dating. Let me say that I don't believe you are any different from the vast majority of women I meet in Australia today. Like them, you seem to have a preference for the white man, and hope that he'd be prince charming inside out. Good luck. Keep in mind though, that by denying other men a chance, the older you get, the less desirable you'll be on the attraction scale and will hold less power to reject. By then, the good men from other backgrounds might be taken!1
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