Questions: Dating

It has happened to me once and to my 2 female friends. We were 16 year-olds at the time but he was mature for his age. I actually did fell in love with him for both his looks and other traits such as a good, family-oriented boy, he was kind to others and liked reading and liked animals. He thanked me, said he felt flattered but wasn't interest in a romantic relationship, though we can be friends. I could tell he had a hard time saying all that.

If he would've rejected me harshly, called me bad names, acted grossed out or made a scene out of it, yeah I would've hated him forever or probably had self-esteem issues. It still hurt but much less than if he had been rude. We're still friends till this day and both of us dated others.

This happens to guys too. Who do you think gets hurts the most? The man or the woman?

My boyfriend works in merchandising retail and makes his own schedule. He tries to schedule his work when I am working but whenever he has to work when I am off he tells me I "have" to go to his work with him. I do not necessarily mind going because it is time with him but sometimes I am too tired and he says his reason is just wanting me there with him because it makes his work more pleasant and although he has said before that I do not "have" to go but then other times actually used the phrase "you have to" and just makes it feel like it is not really my choice but something that he is really pretty much set on. This is making me feel like he is untrustworthy and afraid of someone coming by our house to tell me something or me finding something while he is away or either that he does not trust me at all.