Questions: Dating

They say if you text someone and don't get a reply, to give them 4 hours before texting again. After 4 hours you are more likely to get a response.

The problem here is it was 4 hours that I sat and stewed over it, after sevond day in row of this crap. So I think I killed thid none relationship... lol 😆

Word on the street is that the average person usually reads a text within the first 3 minutes of receiving it 95% of the time.

Anyone seriously or sincerely interested responds immediately. Even if its just to say; "I am busy, but will get back to you soon."

If they are mildly interested, or worried about coming off as too eager... then they take a few hours to respond.

Now some people intentionally wait until the next day, because again they don't want to come off as too eager or desperate.

So which are you, the respond immediately type or play it cool type, or the next day type?

I have this friend who apparently is said to be a 7 out of 10 but he’s depressed and has no job but he gets so much attention from women and he’s like full on depressed and anxious. I have a decent job and women don’t want to date me. Why? Like he talks to women that are like 22-25 and I can’t talk to any women cos they just dismiss me. Why is this? What’s so good about depressed guys?

I like AXE because it fulfills it's intended functions of a deodorant and its generously cheap.

On the other hand it's so popular, that it won't make me stand out in that department. In fact some a-hole might use the same exact deodorant as i do.

I wonder if it repels away women?

I don't need expensive deodorants like Gucci Guilty.

I hate to say it but as man I usually have my mind made up within 30 seconds of meeting a woman of how physically attracted I am to her.

Emotional attraction does still weigh heavily into it though. She can be hot af but if I can’t stand her personality and/or she’s has no genuine interest in me I can move on. I can also move on a lot faster nowadays vs. when I was younger.

But the issue is often come across women I find that are 5’s or 6’s. They aren’t repugnant or anything but I don’t feel any butterfly’s in my stomach either. More often than not they really like me because while I am nice to them I also don’t bend over backwards for them either. I’m just as happy to be there or not be there. Either way is fine. So it’s easy to be myself.

But as a man I find that the ugly truth is I have never found myself growing in attraction for average looking women despite some of them having excellent personalities. I really have tried to “check myself” on this. Tell myself to look deeper. Tell myself to “grow up”. Feel guilty af about it.

But if tried to force myself to date and commit to average looking yet great personality girls in the past. It always ends in disaster. I quickly lose interest in sex and find myself having less patience about their problems. And I know that’s not fair at all.

Is it possible for a man to slowly fall in love with a woman he isn’t attracted to?

I am asking this because I have an opportunity to get married to an average looking girl who is outstanding in all other ways. She’s a very hard worker, respectful, excellent personality, moderate conservative, has no vices, etc. She’s also younger (27) yet mature and independent.

Yet she has a rather unattractive face and I feel Iike complete shit saying that. She’s was born with that those facial features and has zero control over them. I keep kicking myself not to judge that but it’s hard.

I’m talking to someone and they tells me a lot to not take it personally if they dont reply to messages or if they dont text me. They’ve mentioned this a lot lately and I’m just curious as to why they’d keep saying this. They told me that they appreciate me and they’ve just told me to not take it personally if they don’t reply. What’s going on? Just curious what you all think. I overthink because I’m a trauma survivor and I am so used to toxic relationships