The dating world is harder for men. Is this a truth or a lie?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

Yes its harder for men in different ways, and harder for women in others. Men regardless of looks, weight, personally it are met with rejection 10 times more then women. That is that I don't get dates 9 times out of ever 10.

With that said if your fat or ugly, it doesn't matter if your a women or man its just really hard no matter what.

But it your and average looking women, and you wanted a date with a average to above average looking man... then yes you problem only have to ask out 3 guys to get a yes. And if you are an above average looking women then you got the pick of the litter.

But regardless of those facts... if your online dating it doesn't matter its supper tough, but it does seem that in most cases the women had the trump card in the final say. I mean if a women is chatting any guy after the 2nd to 3rd day you would assume a date if she so wanted it would be a lock.

[MCheetah]

100% objective truth. The women who try to claim otherwise annoy me, because even in the negatives and hardships, they still feel the need to "one up" men in this pathetic excuse to be "equal in everything" to us even though they have it easy.

MOST women actually get so much male attention, they dislike it and some will try to claim it as "harassment." You don't get to claim that, and then whine that you "can't find anyone." Piss off!

This is one of those things where women simply win in life, 100%. Just take the damn win instead of making excuses for why YOU are picky, entitled, or shallow. Even tall and handsome men get about as much attention or less as the most unattractive women. Men who are short (under six feet), unattractive looking, or overweight, get NO attention at all.

Women have it FAR easier when it comes to finding love. End of story.

[Pinay_ako]

I like the meme so cute. Tom and jerry days

[MoniqueTLC]

I think it is. We've been socially conditioned to believe that men need to make the first move, show interest first, take the lead etc, and if they don't, they're deemed as not being confident, assertive or dominant enough.

@tonightyouu makes a good point.

[SayCheez03]

That is really true! I even saw some videos of girls pretend to be boys using online dating apps, and most of them gave up quickly. Men without a doubt have it far harder..
I imagine the difficulty for a woman is dealing with all the attention, or the creeps?

[MoniqueTLC]

@SayCheez03 I think for women, one, because of how 'we think' it should be, we haven't built any confidence to do the approaching ourselves because we're scared of rejection, and some women might think it's 'not their job' to approach a guy (which I don't think is right).
I think some women are inundated with options (online dating apps). And for guys, online is so superficial, and because the ratio between men and women is so vast, women are not even looking at profiles if the first picture is not good enough or the bio doesn't spark any interest in them.
and guys perhaps approaching them that aren't necessarily creepy, they just don't know how to approach, or lack confidence which makes it awkward.

[Asker]

Or they're unattractive. Looks definitely can be a problem too here. Just saying

[MoniqueTLC]

Indeed

[SayCheez03]

Oh, I was always very shy and socially awkward.
I had girls go out of their way to approach me, but I never was good at communicating.

Do you give advice?

[jrez98]

Ill say yes

Based on what guys have told me on dates, they've said its a lot more harder then what girls have to deal with.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes and no. Yes if you’re short, not so good looking, awkward but also no even if you’re a solid 10 looks wise if you don’t have the confidence, it will be hard for you otherwise.

[dragoblack]

Absolutely. With so many people working long hoursjust to survive, online dating is the go to. there's high standards from both sides, constant ghosting, lack of wanting to put in effort to get to know a person, insecure guys that can't handle rejection and start throwing verbal abuse causing women to ghost guys more often, the scams, solicitation, and catfishing, amount of women that prefer a relationship full of drama than a healthy one, the over entitlement of "wanting to be treated like queens" but don't want to reciprocate, the amount of hookups that result in relationships if the sex is good... aka relationships built on sex, the ones looking for sugardaddies, the lack of women who don't want to be passionate about what they enjoy. The lack of mutual conversation leaving the guy being the one showing interest. The one's who assume gestures such as guys paying for everything is mandatory... how dating society has evolved is into something toxic and virtually unworkable.

[JulianGronkowski]

Truth. I’m 27 and have met thousands of women. Most have wanted to keep me as a friend because they “love my personality”, but exactly zero wanted to date me. I’m 5’11, 175 lbs, have a few outdoor hobbies, make 6 figures, and apparently have a good personality. But since I’m average looking, I guess I have zero chance. At least that’s what I’ve observed to date. A few years ago I accepted this fact, and haven’t tried to date since. Since that time I’ve become debt free, and am building my investments and savings for retirement and a home of my own. I’m disappointed at today’s state of affairs, but happy with my personal progress. It is what it is, and I hope more men wake up and find happiness in other areas of life.

[USLegionary]

Women have an easier time dating and hooking up

[slatyb]

It's a lie. There are more or less equal numbers of men and women, although there are locales where there is an imbalance. Since the numbers are equal and they are pairing with each other, it takes the same amount of time on average to find a partner.

[TonightYouu]

That depends on how a man pursues if a guy wants a serious relationship he has all the control and all of the power

if a guy just wants sex you’ll have to play by a woman’s rules to get it ( rapist being the obvious exception to this rule)

men control relationships

women control sex

seek relationships men and sex will follow

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Getting a date is harder. Getting through a date or dating someone regularly is probably just as hard on both. With exceptions, of course. There's always going to be the random mental case who makes it much harder on the other person.

[Avicenna]

That's an oversimplification. For men under 30, it's definitely harder. But it's harder for women over 50. And it's harder for women to find someone interested in a permanent relationship.

[Twalli]

Generally true. Girls are usually more selective. When I started online dating I didn't put my height and got a lot more hits (1-2 a month). As soon as I posted my height it was rare to get more than one hit every 3 months.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Dating itself is easier for us. Going on dates. But finding the right one is still just as hard.

[Anonymous]

I believe it is thanks to all the bullshit woman put us (men) up with. Iniating first contact, paying for dates, being rich/wealthy doing all the effort. While girls just do nothing or don't have anything to give other than sl*tty behaviour.

[RiseofArtemis]

The real issue is modern women have no value in relationships anymore other than to make your life a living hell. Most simps will let her do whatever she wants because they think its normal. A woman wants to be put in her place by being told she can't do that or else there will be consequences.

Modern women don't grow up, they stay entitled children due to not being raised properly and having no father figure.

[Subarugirl]

It depends... finding a good person to date, that compliments you, meets your standards and who loves and respects you is difficult for everyone.

[Fireguy17]

Dating can be hard for both women and men.
I don't think 1 gender has it worse than the other.
So many posts here about dating, they don't respond, am I pretty.
I would say it's pretty equal.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well it's only hard for guys who are not good looking...

[Asker]

Even for average looking guys its hard

[Rockstarrrrr]

I don't know man... If you're good looking, women will like you no matter what... If you're somewhat charming that will also make it easy... If someone is not good looking or charming and charismatic then of course it's going to be hard... Simple and fair

[_Just_A_girl_]

Be a high status dominant conservative man you'll never fail

[Anonymous]

Try and sign up as a girl and see how many "hi" or other effortless compliment messages you get from males on a weekly basis. They get those often.

We get zero.

[AsaKyo]

I think it is more so for ugly people like myself who also have depression

[Asker]

So men and women are the same if they're both ugly? You dont think an ugly girl can still get some attention?

[AsaKyo]

I'm sure some can, I'm just not one of them

[Asker]

You doubt yourself. But you're not invisible

[exitseven]

I think that today it must really suck for everyone.

[art84]

Yes it's harder cause women are the ones we get to pick who they date.

[Anonymous]

It gets easier for men in their 30s+ and harder for women in their 30s+

[coachTanthony]

Facts my homie.

[AndrésC64]

If you're talking about just getting dates, then it is absolutely true.

[NathanDavis]

everything is harder for idiots...

[VirginousBeta]

It's harder for men who are shy and introverted since we are supposed to initiate

[BlackElph]

It honestly depends on the person

[Asker]

In general

[BlackElph]

Probably men

[Anonymous]

Hell yes its harder for men.

[Anonymous]

Its pretty obvious that it is shit for guys

[Iron_Man]

I think so women expect a lot

[scott04sa22]

Dating is harder if your with the right person

[HippieVeganJewslim]

It does seem like truth.

[Zolly99999]

Absolutely 100% true !!

[Anonymous]

truth. its horrible

[Heolurt]

It is a proven truth.

[msc545]

Definitely this is the truth

[kursedlife]

Yes. Especially if you're not good looking.

[BLP11520]

My sons say it is all the time

[Tyrael]

I'd say so yeah

[Avatar74]

True

[Fuentes]

Yup lol

[In_Trance]

Lie...

[Papabubbles]

Absolute truth.