Polls: Dating

i haven't been fortunate to have experienced many myself largely due to the fact i was single and on a limited income most of the time. so valentines day would typically be a non event for me most of the time

but wondering how many have you experienced so far in your life? and by truly romantic , mean a valentines day when your actually with someone and do on a date with them , have dinner , sleep together etc

I've seen a lot of people take pics at the arch of triumph in France. Or the eiffel tower.

I think what makes it "romantic"/seductive Is the fact that women know men built the city. They went to war and made the city rich. They established the trade routes. They built the churches. The shops. The houses.

And then they think to themselves "im on a date with one of the alphas of this city."

It has nothing to do with anything else. It's just a spotlight on men and how superior we are to women.

Vs. Going on a date with an alpha of some hick town. Like who gives a fuck lol. King of the cowboys.

Thats why where your stomping ground is is very important

Some people say that the theory of Alphas and betas is bs and I agree to a point. No one is completely Alpha or completely beta, I've noticed this myself, it's not black and white.

I'm a shy and quiet guy however I have my dominant moments and I'm far away from being a wimp. However the reality is that we all have a personality that is naturally more dominant or more submissive also known as being more Alpha or more beta.

So the people who believe in the Alpha and beta theory are wrong because they take it to the extreme, to the black or white mindset but it doesn't mean they are completely wrong.

So there's this girl at work I like, but I don't see her very often due to our shifts differing quite a lot. I've had one or two brief conversations with her in real life, which went well I think, but none over text. I have her phone number because we're both in the company groupchat of our local establishment, and I honestly don't want to wait again untill I see her next time, and even then, I might chicken out. It's just so much easier over text, and I know it's a valid approach, so why not do it?

My problem is, would it seem too random/forced if I shoot her message out of nowhere, with no prior text conversation? Should I just immediately ask her out, or start with small talk first? If I start with small talk, what the hell would I even begin with? I have no idea. This is too difficult.

Also, I'm kinda afraid that if I do get rejected, the whole mood at work will be awkward once I share a shift with her again. Is this reason enough to not even go through with it?

Whether you are single or paired up. You looking forward to this day?