Polls: Dating

I do both in my free time, plus help blind people. Rescued and cured so many cats and dogs.
One kitten that was very fond of me died in my arms today. The hardest part of this work is to bury them after spending time.
I tried so much today for the kitten, bath, medicine to saline gave everything but she still died. Had to dig and bury her,...
I sometimes have cried after they die after spending a long time with them, and a lot of girls aren't very fond of guys like that, from my personal experience.

I have had two relationships in my life upon which I periodically reflect and wonder what might have happened if I had tried harder. One relationship happened in 1980. It was a co-worker who I started dating and I really liked her, saw no warning signs or red flags, and we were very compatible, but the circumstances in my life led me to moving from Tampa back to Jacksonville. I should have tried to keep it alive over the distance but I didn't and I have heard from her in decades.

The other was an online acquaintance that could have blossomed into something more but there was a great distance between us. We talked for months and she impressed me as being a great woman and she undoubtedly would be a very loyal partner. I was willing to travel to meet her and then the pandemic hit us and there were travel bans imposed. The idea of waiting indefinitely overwhelmed me and I met someone locally who really wasn't a great match but she was here, a real flesh-and-blood woman who I could spend time with right now. And she was horribly hurt that I wasn't willing to wait for her. . . totally understandable.

The strange part is that they both have the same first name. And they had some of the same physical features.

That's my story; what's yours? [Please don't respond to tell me that no relationship is a failure if you learned lessons from the experience. I understand that but I still think of my exes as failed relationships.]

So like I’m a guy and my impresion was “who gives a f*ck, you’re no longer with him anymore”.

I just don’t understand why women can’t just let go and forget about the past.

There’s nothing you can do to change it.

In life you should only move forwards and never look backwards.

Nevermind that one of her other exes cheated on her THREE TIMES and she kept coming back to the dude.

So I’m starting to reconsider whether or not she’s actually worth dating.

This is a girl who doesn’t quite seem mentally sound or stable. It’s common sense not to return to somebody if they’ve already broken your trust.

Because as nice as she is, this girl brings out a hell of unneccessary drama in my opinion.

And I genuinely don’t think I’m willing or capable to deal with any of it.

But then again, perhaps more women are like this than I previously thought.

Either way I can’t understand why she is still emotionally tied to people in her past, because I’ve since forgotten about everyone in my hometown ever since I went off to college.

So as it currently stands my relationship with her has just been “scratching along the surface” if you will.

We’ve been meeting regularly a couple of times a week but so far as relationship status goes its been exclusive but unofficial.

So as strange as it is, my impression of her has changed in the past 24 hours.

Before I thought she was just this friendly outgoing girl who gets along nicely with everybody, but now I’m realizing she could turn out to be a real piece of work I don’t want to get involved with. We have a lot in common and share the same interests, and I thought our personality differences compliment eachother nicely, but now I’m questioning whether or not this could ever possibly work

Either way I’ve decided to give things some more time and let it play out.

I might have to deal with her sometimes when I don’t want to, but I guess that’s the cost of a relationship.