Am I texting my boyfriend in a boring and uninterested way?

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Nagatoro · Accepted Answer

Man, I sure feel bad for your boyfriend. That's one of the most boring couple conversations I've seen in awhile.

pink-jilly · Accepted Answer

Really now 😭🤣

DaveJord · Answer

Sounds like the guy is putting out more effort than you're worth if he is cooking dinner for you all you can say is OK. No thank you or that is so sweet. I hope you put out for him... because he's probably not going to put with that for long.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Yes, you are a very boring texter. To improve, send more than one word. Think of how you can add to the conversation. That makes it engaging and fun for the other person.

There's an improv game that teaches how to make a scene interesting and move the plot forward, it's called "Yes, and..."

Am I texting my boyfriend in a boring and uninterested way?

The way you play the game is whatever someone says, you agree with them ("Yes"), then add something NEW to the conversation ("and...").

Example:
A: Hey, you're wearing my shoes!
B: That's right, now you have to catch me!
A: I'll catch you, for sure, and then I'm going to cook you in a stew.
B: You cook people in stew? I knew these were witch's shoes! You're a witch!
A: That's right, I'm a witch, I'm casting my sleep spell on you now... balakamathazeew, ba ba gah nah herobadash!
B: (falls asleep)

Bad examples:
A: Hey, you're wearing my shoes!
B: Ok?
(scene goes nowhere)

A: Hey, you're wearing my shoes!
B: No, I'm not.
(scene goes nowhere)

A: Hey, you're wearing my shoes!
B: Yup.
(scene goes nowhere)

The point is, if only one person is giving energy to the conversation (or scene), it fizzles and dies, or leaves one person disappointed. Like your boyfriend, sharing his excitement about doing something nice for you, gets back a lame "ok", instead of a shared excitement or even appreciation like "omg, I'm already surprised, I had no idea you were going to do something so nice!" or "You're a great boyfriend, thank you!" or "well, maybe I have a surprise for you, too!".

I mean, you do you, and if who you are is unenthused, unengaged, boring, and bored, and you're boyfriend is into that, then you have no problems. But it looks like he's disappointed from the texts and if that's a constant thing it will probably end up with him not putting any effort in the future, maybe breaking up. We act based on how life rewards or punishes us. If we do nice things for our girlfriend and we get no feeling of joy from doing so, we will stop. If we put our hand on the stove and get burned, we don't do it again. If we try a new food and it tastes horrible, we don't eat it again. But if it is delicious or fun, we will seek it out more and more.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Sort of, but, I’ve taken care of that. Here is a perfect example of how to start a conversation:

Him: Is this your own character or are they from something?

You: I’m glad you asked. You see, during the course of my PROFESSIONAL career, I’ve done some extensive research with comics, manga, and various methods of publishing of which Conga are. They have a very acute sense of wonder. That is due to their rarity or at least, rare popularity and are very unique mainly due to me. While I’ve gathered this strictly for genetic research upon my return, I think it would prove wise to use this now. *posts a picture of a naked Neko Girl*

Him: HOLY FISH PASTE, ITS A GUY!!

ImNoOne111 · Answer

I'm sorry but yes, you are acting badly uninterested. Just use some extra words. instead of that cold "Okay" that even reading it broke my heart (poor your boyfriend). You can say "Cool! I like surprises" (of course if you do like surprises) or if surprises ain't your kind you can say "I'm looking forward to it!" (the exclamation mark is very useful to not let a sentence get misinterpreted as boring). Adding some emojis will also help. if you try to and still hear the same from him. Maybe call him for next time or even tell him that I'm just that way and I'm working on it (as a boy, It really makes me feel special when my girl friend knows that something bothers me about her and tries to fix it). That way you can make sure his feelings aren't hurt while you are working on your texting.

johnnygodeep · Answer

You have me laughing out loud… it just s seems like he’s super mellow and you vibrate in a higher frequency… neither is optimal, just different.., your always gonna want more reaction and engagement though and he will always not get what your pointing at in his laxity…lol sorry hun but unless you are head over heals and can deal with underwhelming engagement forever I would suggest considering if what I’ve said has reactance and Id so maybe find someone more your speed… you seem really sweet, kind and attentive, plenty will really appreciate that and respond with the appropriate intensity for you which you deserve if that’s what’s you crave… again, neither is right or wrong, their is not a reasonable argument that can be had about it… he's just not your speed.

skyeee_ · Answer

you look like you're forced to reply to him or something. if u wanna show him that you ARE interested, you shouldn't write just one or two words because that gives off the impression that you're not interested. stick to writing a bit longer responses and put emotes to spice up ur message if u want

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Yeah you seem to text in a dry style, which can easily be misunderstood as you being too bored to text him.

Try adding more sentences, and perhaps emojis since they make most messages seem more affectionate.

Further more it could be good to reassure him that you're not bored by him/his texts and you do this without meaning to.

If you cannot improve your texts it's okay as long as you guys spend time with each other often

Mhmmmalreadykno · Answer

Ok so when you are texting him i think emojis could be a good way to express emotions and using caps.
Ex. ARE U SUREE😒⁉️
Heyyy✨
I’m eating breakfast🤪🤝
I miss you🥺
Can’t wait😩‼️
Byeeee😣

Being expressive assures a guy that you aren’t bored by talking to him. So use emojis and extra letters as much as possible.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yeah, the way you're texting is dry as fuck. I actually felt water evaporate from my body as I read that.

Anonymous · Answer

It goes beyond that. There appears to be a role reversal. Anyone would think the green bubble was the masculine, and the grey bubble was the feminine...

There seems to be an imbalance of investment too. He seems more invested but of course I'm only going from a few snippets of a dead boring text where the guy sounds overly needy... I could be wrong.

skytatoe · Answer

No that's the most engaged, exciting conversation I've ever seen lol

Violetsunshine6 · Answer

i dated a guy like u. hope he burns in hell. he only dated me for my body and was replied like u

Aurora1010 · Answer

Seems like it just from this screens hot, if you guys spend a lot of time in person it shouldn't matter though

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

People often use short responses to end a conversation, so he might be taking it that you aren't interested and would rather end it.

Fatherhere901 · Answer

Seeing the way that you texted your boyfriend, it honestly looks like paragraphs compared to the text I get back from women that I send messages too

ElvenMr · Answer

You replied to him like girls do on dating apps when they are totally not interested in the guy.
You should've asked what is he cooking, or try to make a joke.
Use emojis, that show you are excited and interested etc.

megabamse · Answer

I take it your to the right in that Convo? Yes that it the Melody of someone uninterested and boring. I would feel upset to.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You seem really uninterested. Is that the way we text everyone? Maybe facetime would be a better option for you

TrillXHippy · Answer

However old you are you should already know the answer to that question. “Ok” Right then and there I don’t think I would ever text you ever again ever

TacosRAwesome · Answer

He's right. You need to show more enthusiasm in your texts.

zagor · Answer

Texting just for the point of texting is, well, pointless. You shouldn't need to get constant reassurance like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Texting is visuals painted in words. You painted nothing with yours.

Phoax · Answer

I honestly hate texting but if a girl was cooking something for me, I would be pretty excited and say more than ok. Most people like food so I would say your texts in the image are interesting.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Yea, sadly many girls text like that. It seems like they have no interest and terrible in conversing

Paul09 · Answer

Omg yes. You remind of the women I try to message on dating app. Always answering with 1 or 2 words. Say a full scentence more often.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Sounds like you are just replying forcibly with no interest and passion. Also he likes detail replies

Themostabsurd · Answer

Lord yes. I hope you're not this tedious to converse with IRL.

Reijen · Answer

I'd have to see more, but if that's how you generally communicate with him via text, that is boring.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

He’s right. Your texts are depressing almost like you don’t want to hear from him

Zlantur2 · Answer

Really? You don't see that and you need confirmation?

uwu_princess · Answer

Like bored slut 🤷‍♀️

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Can't blame him, I hate that shit too

Anonymous · Answer

I think you should add some extra words and write the whole word.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that you are boring

Iam_an_avocado · Answer

You should send longer and more fun messages.

spiralshape · Answer

Send him an 80s or 90s song

_乃尺OЩ刀_TITI · Answer

Well yeah.. HAVE A CONVERSATION!!

SignedAutographs · Answer

You seem like something is bothering you

Pink2000 · Answer

Pretty dry…

Juxtapose · Answer

Yes..

anton_dee · Answer

U r borrrrrring...

Fuentes · Answer

Yeah id block you

Klinklins · Answer

Toooooooo boring way

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