Guys, where's the best location to cold approach a woman you think is attractive and dateable?

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Where's the best place to strike up a conversation with a woman you met on the street?

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

Bars and nightclubs were the most successful for me. Especially the bar often finds us already sitting close together, so initiating a conversation seems perfectly natural. In nightclubs, I'd dance in the center of the dance floor so that I could talk to pretty girls around me. I've only had success outside of bars and nightclubs getting dates via cold approaching only a few times, like cashiers at stores.

That said, I think the best way to find dates is not via a cold approach. I think that's the best way to find friends nowadays. So I switched my game to just making friends through a cold approach (including my first set in bars, but then they invited me to parties, picnics, camping, and I'd make new friends, and those new friends would invite me places, and so forth) and then I found my best share of women by building up a social circle of friends including my wife who I met at a picnic (friend of a friend).

Heartache0405 · Accepted Answer

All of the above are bad places. Just trying in general no matter where you are isn’t going to do a guy any good unless he already knows the women in question is already interested. Otherwise it’s a risky gamble no matter where you are.

- Dating apps don’t work. That’s why I use one because I know they don’t work.
- The Bar/Pub and Nightclubs are a bad idea because you’ll most likely be drunk and so would she. Leading to a whole lot of bad things.
- School/college? Everybody should be focusing on their studies and not on trying to find a date.
- Work is the absolute worst place because attempts would be considered sexual harassment if you’re a man. If you’re a woman your coworkers would be trying to tempt the man into dating her even if he isn’t interested.
- Social groups are probably best out of all of these choices because you’re in a group but still risky none the less.
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KrisPW · Accepted Answer

If you're going in cold, I'd say dating app and Bar or Pub. I'm more likely to be there to mingle than any of the others But make sure who she's with. If she is with her guy at the table, she isn't interested in you at the bar while getting drinks.

If I'm at a club or concert, it's usually with friends to party, not to get picked up.

Other places, school / work / gym, probably best to avoid the cold approaches. Unless I've seen you a lot, or we have some form of connection, I'm not there to meet people. I've got things to do and don't need the distractions.

Social groups are the good, already common interests and friends there, and some connection. But it can get tricky if things go sour.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

Hypothetically, I would rather be approached at a bar or a club, where I am most likely going there TO be approached. Whereas, a supermarket, a job, or the gym, I wouldn’t want to be approached.

GEORGEFLOYD · Answer

a lot of males say coffee shops. I've seen some cute females going in and out of them. gym is good because you can see people repeatedly, and build upon something. it's always better to be able to build upon rather than pull something out of thin air. pulling something out of thin air is what you're going to have to do on the street. you do see a lot of cute females on the street, but you dont have much time to act. usually you have to act within seconds, and if you dont, then that chance is gone. believe it or not, sometimes you might even see females in cars. like for example, if she's at a red light, and you're a pedestrian. you can approach her. i know a male, emilio, who does this. parking lots are good too because we live in a driving society, and it's the gateway to wherever you're going. outside of concerts are good too. notice i said outside. the idea is, you dont want to pay good money to go into a concert when you're going to run into the same females outside the concert. sporting events are also good. now also apply the concert theory. dont pay to go into the event. stand outside the event, and approach females. again, they are going to be the same females that you would see inside. go for the big sporting events. nhl, nba, nfl, mlb. the bigger, the better. popular stores like aritizia, jmclaughlin tend to have lots of attractive females going in and out. ikea is another one i can think of. with these kinds of stores, you can go inside, and act like you're buying furniture because it's free to get in. if you live in a big city, then public transport is actually quite a good option. buses, bus stops, trains, are all fair game. i used to know a pua who would take a ferry for 1hr several times a week, and he never made a move. he was also a college student but never approached any of his classmates. i always thought he was stupid for that. instead, he chose to go into parks, and malls to run up to females who werent interested in him at all. needless to say, he never scored. the smartest thing to do is capitalize on situations that you're already in. so for example, if you're already taking the bus for an hr each day, or if you already go to college, then make use of that. that's always going to be more convenient and smart than taking time aside specifically to go to a mall to approach. the thing with college is, females are always going to be less defensive if they know you are also a student. if you're looking at some random male walking up to random females on urban streets, then you know theyre going to have their guard up, especially compared to the college situation. even when you're both commuting, that at least gives you something in common as opposed to a random guy in a park. a lot of city guys like to do approaches in parks, but I've never seen them get anywhere. even the males who were comfortable with talking, they would get lots of phone numbers, but never any calls back. remember, just because you get a number doesn't mean she likes you. lots of females will give numbers out just to get rid of the male. another thing i noticed in regards to searching for females is, the harder you try to look for one, the harder it is for you to find one. females almost always never show up when you expect them to. the ones who you have the best chance with are going to show up when you just happen to be shopping for bread, or riding on the train home from work. a lot of times, it's even the cashier of a restraunt you frequent. males just need to be more aware of their surroundings.

Slartybartfast · Answer

At this point the only (yes) answer from women is at university or work which as a man is litteraly the WORST places!!

Never, I mean under no circumstances, should a man date at work or someone from the same university!!
Lise your job, screw up your career , get title nine kangaroo court witch hunt Injustice, no thanks!

RATETUI · Answer

im a believer in fate. you can go to a college today, find an attractive woman, and she'll be into you. heck, if she's into you, you won't even have to try very hard. you're thinking to yourself college is a good spot, but you can go to the same spot for the next 2 years, every single day, and not find a single person

LogicBomber · Answer

NEVER approach a female, they will simply accuse you of some false victim sex crime for saying hi.
Women have made it so no guy outside the 1% of guys who are the “chads” can ever approach without being shamed, attacked, or falsely accused of “unwanted advancements”
They aren’t worth the shit they create.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't actually know what cold or warm means in regards to approaching people. But I guess online?

I don't really ever approach women to hit on them though, but online dating a thing.

I don't go to gyms, concerts, clubs, or bars/pubs , so I can't recommend those, I work from home, and I've never really struck up a conversation while shopping.

So yeah online is the only one I've had any experience with.

StuMan1990 · Answer

Anyplace that doesn't involve Tinder, Facebook, Cupid or anything online, I prefer the face to face approach and have eye contact with the person I speak to, you can't do that on an app like Tinder. But if I had to choose, it would be pubs/bars, nightclubs, diners/restaurants, gym or anyplace that's a safe space for meeting new folks.

Truthatanycost · Answer

I will never understand these questions. Times have changed and approaching holds new risks to your freedom, reputation, career and life. If you think any woman is worth that then I guess good luck...

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Too many rejections, I'm done with approaches unless there is definite interest shown on their side (which never happens)

Reijen · Answer

Bookstore.
Good to see that they read, and if they're into the same genre, you can talk about it.
If you want to get out of the conversation though, can say you just wanted to quickly pop in to buy a book.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

In this day and age I wouldn’t do any cold approaches. Far too much risk. Try to meet someone through friends and family. Maybe some singles groups. Online is an option, but only as a last resort.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

Any location is good, it depends on the circumstances and if you are able to recognise who would be open to that.

One bad example. I was waiting for the bus while I was on the phone talking. Obviously busy. This guy kept circling around me and trying to chat.
Dude, can't you see I'm talking to someone?

Кураж · Answer

Bars and night clubs are the best place, because people actually go there to be approached. I'd never approach someone at the gym or the supermarket, and I'd never mess with someone from work.

OceanGirl21 · Answer

University or pub I’d say. Night club just implies you’re looking for a hook up IMHO.

spiralshape · Answer

Um, real, high-value men DO NOT approach women at any of those places.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I dont think there's a bad location. Reality is women are a numbers game and when you have an opportunity to approach you should just do it. I've pulled chicks from each of these places in my life.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

What is the difference between cold and warm approaching? Anyway, cold approaching is more likely to get some people labeled a creep than warm. There is more of a liability there.

moonpie89 · Answer

I'd be fine being approached in any of those situations

Avicenna · Answer

I’ve approached women at lots of different places, but never a bar or pub

ChiTown33 · Answer

The street corner. With a good amount of cash I'd say that would be your highest odds. 🤣

Bogoboj · Answer

Pubs and Clubs are the most practical and easiest to hook up at.

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